gossip - how to avoid getting hurt
By plddre79
@plddre79 (161)
United States
3 responses
@EvrWonder (3571)
• Canada
17 May 09
I find that only a certain criteria of people engage in this time of behavior.
Experience has shown me, time and time again that those who participate in this type of activity, really do not have enough to do to constructively make use of their time.
In Short, Birds of a Feather, Flock Together.
To avoid getting hurt of to become involved in something, willingly or not, that turns into something hurtful, avoid the people and the situations that those people involve themselves in.
It is like making a lifestyle change.
Especially when we need to stand back from certain people in our lives, be it friends or family.
Just do not associate with those that are generating this type of discussion, resulting in nothing but problems.
@soulsearchin (81)
• Canada
18 May 09
I agree 100% espeacially the teens of today through my experience they gossip, tell lies,butt into business they dont belong in and are way too judgemental when they should be worrying about thier own life or lack of. Not all teens are this way but the ones I am speaking of are. Its sad when a person makes it thier mission to hurt the feelings of thier peers just because they have no lifes of thier own.
@EvrWonder (3571)
• Canada
19 May 09
Boy! Do I know what you mean. I would like to add, that kids today and even years ago need more to do with their free time. They need hobbies, extra circular activities.
Having worked in schools, I know, first had that girls can be way meaner than boys when it comes to teasing. Doing and saying things that are really very hurtful.
It it a phase or a pre curser to some kind of behavior that wil get worse as they turn from teenager to adult?
Most of the time this bad behavior goes on unchecked because it is done almost anonymously. At least the parnet never get wind of it unless the people that they are hurting speak up, make aformal complaint and then action is taken, which often includes contacting the parents.
I wish more kids would complain instead of living in fear that those who have hurt them will hurt them more if they tell someone what they are doing.
It is hard to change someone else behavior, if not impossible but we can teach by example.
@abkinsey (173)
• United States
17 May 09
If I am going to talk about someone, I try to make sure it's okay first. For example, I talk to Suzy about xyz and then I'll ask her if it's okay for me to pass on info about xyz. That way, when I get together with Joan and talk about xyz, Suzy's feelings won't get hurt. If I need to talk about something with someone and I don't have their permission, I try to vent to my husband because what we share with each other we don't pass on. That way, I can still vent but the other person doesn't get their feelings hurt. I'm a big advocate of telling people to their faces what they think, rather than talking about it behind their backs. It's so much easier that way!!
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@fasttalker (2796)
• United States
17 May 09
Gossip is always hurtful to someone. Maybe not the person telling it or receiving it but someone somewhere is going to be hurt by it. The best way to stop gossip is by simply not participating!
People need to simply stop listening to it and telling the one telling it that they do not participate in gossiping about others. They may get upset a time or two but eventually they will get the picture!
People need to simply stop listening to it and telling the one telling it that they do not participate in gossiping about others. They may get upset a time or two but eventually they will get the picture!