Why other mylot members are rude and ill-mannered?

@jlamela (4898)
Philippines
May 18, 2009 9:59pm CST
I am just wondering why there are other members who are rude. Maybe they have no good manners and proper breeding in their home that's why they acted rude and impolite in answering discussions. Mylot discussion supposed to be the ground of expressing our own opinion and idea, but other members made to cross the boundary between criticizing and expressing opinion with the discussion topic. I posted a discussion about my disappointment with Wolverine, well, it's my opinion and I am just presenting my dissatisfaction towards the film, but other members tend to criticize far far away. Are they reading the discussion?or are they simply idiot and dumb. We have our own views toward a certain thing, so why not respect it, why not they just post their own discussion about how they adored that film and not dictate what is right and what is wrong.
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19 responses
• Philippines
19 May 09
Hi Jlamela, I am also into that scenario before and I understand why other people here are acting such. I learned that this site is composed of members with different culture across that is, differences in styles, beliefs, and opinions occured. I also would like to share that this site is good for sharing thoughts based on different shapes of each life by means sharing ones' opinion is really not a question however, there are rules that should be followed. In favor with your insights no one has the right to dictate you (us)what's right from wrong except if you ask them to do so.
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@sugarfloss (2139)
• Malaysia
19 May 09
hey there jlamela!I'm not sure myself but I believe those are rude are probably inbred. lol. I haven't seen wolverine but I've heard a lot of disappointments as well so everyone's entitled to their own opinion and so are you. just ignore them and keep myLotting!
@modstar (9605)
• Philippines
19 May 09
IT can't be help. Life in general, there are rude and ill mannered people so what more on a website where one can remain anonymous? I guess all we have to do is to so shrug them off and ignore. I know it's easier said than done but i guess it's the most logical thing to do. There's no use arguing with them. I have read your discussion about Wolverine and yeah, i saw some people kind of attacked you. But i guess those are Wolverine fanatics. You know, people who would protect their interests no matter what.
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• United States
19 May 09
Everyone has a right to their opinion of what the discussion is about, the thing is be respectful enough to answer with respect regardless if you agree or disagree. I am sorry that happened to you, I have seen other dicussion that the member was just totally rude to the peron not the discussion. Some people just don't get what being able to have respect even if you disagree on something it can be discussed and debated. Which I believe would be a better idea than just plain out being rude.
• India
19 May 09
yaar some people by default are rude and mannerless...u cant change them its better to cut of them.......
@tomcat23 (622)
• Old Forge, Pennsylvania
19 May 09
Think of it as educational. Let's face it, knowing what to do is just as important as learning what not to do. The rude and mannerless are a key to what not to do. I was once asked a question..What did I do so wrong? My answer to that was quite simple, "its not that you did anything wrong, you just need to figure out what you didn't do right"
@coon123 (14)
• China
20 May 09
to express what you like and what you don't like that your right, others could show their different mind but shouldn't criticize your opinion.when i read what you said i was very angry because i had the same experience
@balasri (26537)
• India
19 May 09
There are some members who are rude.Well it is all part of the game.You can never expect all the five fingers are of the same size.People come with all hues and characters here.Some do not understand the English language in a proper way and some are unnecessarily defensive.It is their way.I too have a couple of bad experiences here.Once a moron has asked come for a street fight with him for just politely registering my view to one of his discussion.It showed his quality and I considered that it was below my quality to deal with him anymore and stayed away from that jerk. So keeping a safe distance from these people is the best way.
@punlonnjack (1308)
• United States
19 May 09
you just came across some rude people.ive been lucky so far i havent had anyone like that.its sad how some people ruin mylot for those of us who have fun posting and care about our other fellow mylotters.
• United States
19 May 09
I think people forget that there is another HUMAN BEING on the other end of the computer screen! I wonder if they would say things that way if they were face-to-face. I doubt it. What really gets me is the wickedness of replies to religious or political posts. Can't we disagree without being nasty? I don't get it.
@orang13 (723)
• Philippines
19 May 09
i really understand your topic. Like you i had also encountered such rude mylotters out there. It happened when i posted something and replied to their discussions, and instead of being thankful that i have responded on his post, he even criticize my own opinion. Some also, on my post, they intend to rise and act like big or smarter. In that way, maybe they are really used of it. Well, i cannot say also that i had never been rude, but when it comes to posting or something. When i am having a bad mood, i usually not post here so that i cannot cause trouble to others. Maybe one of the reason why they're acting that way is that they are not on the mood.
@anangf (1146)
• Indonesia
19 May 09
Well, say something is probably more easier than doing itself. There are two sides of every opinion. Agree or disagree. And it is always going so, and so. It is became a problem when we declare our disagreement with a sentence that is less good. its hurt somebody's feeling, it is the fact. And I think, respect somebody's opinions is important manner. So, That should be fixed in this community. To start mutual respect. Happy myLotting..
@nelaidz8 (39)
• Philippines
19 May 09
I am a newbie here and I didnt know there are some rude people here. Now it makes me feel like hesitant to post another discussion,but I did once and fortunately nobody responded rudely. yeah I think it's best just to ignore them, That's what I'm goin to do just incase. Happy mylotting!
@tomcat23 (622)
• Old Forge, Pennsylvania
19 May 09
I haven't read the discussions you are referring to, so this is simply based on what you have just written. I did notice you have indeed stooped to name calling and that really surprises me. You actually started out with a valid point and in my opinion, with no offense meant, the name calling really doesn't do you any justice. Everyone is indeed entitled to their own opinion, and even though someone writes something that could very well be out of line, it really isn't necessary to refer to the responders as idiot nor dumb. If someone didn't like something you wrote and felt you were out of line would you want them saying you were an idiot never mind being dumb. I guess the bottom line is quite simple, what gets written is a reflection of both personality and intelligence. Right something intelligent, and that's what it will convey, write something dumb and immature and that's what it will convey. No matter how you look at it, name calling is a bit immature even if the names fit. Again, I have not read the discussion you are referring to, but if and when I do, name calling wouldn't be an appropriate response. Name calling was big back in grade grade school. Your point is quite clear and very valid, but the name calling....well...
@abkinsey (173)
• United States
19 May 09
I think it's just life. Anywhere you go, there will be people who agree with you and people who disagree with you. Of those who disagree with you, some will be nice about it while others will be rude. It's not right, but it's just life. I've found that I can't let stuff like that get under my skin. Why give someone who is being rude that kind of power over my life? They don't deserve the energy! Keep your head up and stick to your opinions. Don't worry about what others have to say. :-)
@cudamani (996)
• India
19 May 09
Please do not think that other mylot members are rude and ill-mannered. They are only voicing out their opinion, and Mylot is a good place for discussions. If you think they are rude it will promote only a sense of hatred.
@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
19 May 09
Hi jlamela, I feel that one has to maintain a certain amount of coriality while discussing here. But at the same time people are made differently and their responses are different. What we feel rude may be considered as being direct and forthright by others, and sometimes people do get carried away by a certain subject and come out forcefully to give their opinion. I feel that it is better to take it in your stride and make light of it and go on with what you think is right..
@sunil_008 (1269)
• India
19 May 09
Hi, you shouldn't feel bad about other members here.look every other human is different.so does the opinions.but its when we talk with someone else we have the difference of opinions,but that doesn't always lead to arguement or using the un constitutional words...world is like a surprise where you will find all sorts of people.since people are bit casual over net so sometimes they use words without calculating them,..just like i do them too...thanks for asking
• Philippines
19 May 09
Hi jlamela! I agree with you.. Other members here are just plain sick. They are so rude in responding.. Why don't they just agree other people's opinions, right? All people have different views about a certain thing. Maybe they just can't accept the fact that someone's opposing their point of views? Or maybe they just can't accept the fact that someone doens't agree with their opinions. Well, don't they know the meaning of 'freedom of speech?'. They should stop acting like they're always right. They're not the only people living, they should respect other people's views and insights too. Why don't you try reporting them? It might help. MyLot will surely take the appropriate action. There's no place here for rude people like them...
• Indonesia
19 May 09
Hi Jlamela, I had similar situation like yours too. I come across two MyLot members who are rude and try to force me to follow either their opinions or bad habits. I think the people who join MyLot should realize that eventhough there is a freedom of speech here, still they have to respect other's point of views and opinions. I hope MyLot admin would pay more attention to those rude people, therefore we all can have friendly and peaceful discussions here.