i don't like to argue!

we can always change for the better. if you feel that change will give you better relationship to other people then do it & i know its hard to change but if we really wanted to, that will not be that difficult. if there's a will there's a way. as they said. self control is really important, i guess. thanks! have a nice day!

So, let me get see if I have this right. You're a single mom who is prone to violent outbursts and has a hard time controlling these violent reflexes because it feels natural to you. When you are involved in any kind of disagreement you "just snap" and blame it on the other person for egging (not aggs) you on. I don't expect you to admit to anything here but if/when you turn your violent temper towards your child will it be the child's fault? Anyone who admits to the total lack of self control that you just have should see therapy of some kind...especially since you have a defenseless child in the home.

I imagine that your home will often be visited by human services... thank god you are a humane type person *cough cough* admitting to something like this is a public forum is NOT in your best interest since when they suspect child abuse (and they will if you are like what you describe) they always check one's computer FIRST.

yes, that's it. i avoid saying hurtful words coz i know i can't change anything that i say. whatever the reason would be, what we say is what we say and i don't want to regret things in the end.

I agree. In the end, most of us will regret saying words that we should not have said. And more often than not, people can forgive, but they rarely forget. So it's really good to avoid getting into heated arguments.