How Often Have You Told Your Man To Grow Up?
By Brian
@wolfie34 (26771)
United Kingdom
May 24, 2009 12:39pm CST
Is your man guilty of being childish? Do you find yourself telling him to 'grow up'? Does his childish pranks, activities, behaviour drive you absolutely crazy?
Have you ever dumped or divorced your man because of his continual childish behaviour?
Or lads have you ever had to tell your girlfriend or wife to grow up because they are not acting their age and being childish?
What do you view as childish behaviour in men? Do you think childish behaviour in a man is negative or are there some aspects that could be classed as positive?
Do you think it's wrong for a man or woman to be childish at times?
Does childish qualities in a man put you off or actually attract you?
So childish behaviour just for the children or can adults be childish at times and be totally acceptable in any situation?
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12 responses
@RobinJ (2501)
• Canada
24 May 09
Hi Wolfie,
Yes I divorced the man I was married to for 27 years because he wouldn't accept his responsibilities, his sense of entitlement was unbelievable to say the least. I did for a lot of years put up with it and try to help him mature, it was just one more thing that he wanted, some one to wait hand and foot on him. I knew he was immature but kept believing he would see the error of his way, he of course never did, nor could he understand why I left him, he honestly believed I would come crawling back.
Yes it is fun to do childish things and I have no problem with that as long as the person knows it is childish and will return to mature behaviour shortly.
At one time a "poor little me" helpless guy was one I fell for, but now it is a total turn off.
Take care my friend
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@wolfie34 (26771)
• United Kingdom
24 May 09
Hi Robin! Always nice to have you respond, I hope you are well and thank you for that link you sent me some time ago, but I tend to have experiences with those sites, I did join but nothing came of it, just me I guess! You can put up with someone for a certain period then it comes to the point where enough is enough! We all have our own tolerance zones.
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@tyc415 (5706)
• United States
24 May 09
I for one wish my husband had more childish ways about him at times. He is 7 years older than I am and he is an only child so I am not sure if that has something to do with it or not. He is always too serious about things. As for me I have always been able to have a good time with my children and same thing with my grandkids...I can play right along with them.
So no, I have never had to tell my husband to "grow up", there have been many times I would tell him to NOT act his age and to have fun.
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@tyc415 (5706)
• United States
24 May 09
You do sound like you would be a very fun person to be around to me. I know there are times when a person should be more "grown up" but also a time to have a great time and not be so serious. All I can say is just keep on being yourself wolfie.
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@nannacroc (4049)
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24 May 09
We all have to be childish sometimes to stay sane. I do sometimes grumble at Mr Croc for being childish but it's part of him and who he is. I sometimes act very childishly, sometimes having a sulk if I don't get my own way and sometimes being distracted by pretty lights and clouds. I've often said I would be heading for my second childhood now if I had ever left my first.
@nannacroc (4049)
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24 May 09
I can do growed up if I have to but you're right it's no fun.
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@GardenGerty (157665)
• United States
25 May 09
I do not tell him to grow up, and he does not tell me to, either. Mostly I am too grown up for my own good. I think what we do not like in people is childishness, pettiness pouting, etc. but we enjoy childlikeness, innocence and a sense of play.
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@wolfie34 (26771)
• United Kingdom
26 May 09
Childishness in the right situation I think is acceptable it's knowing where to draw the line. My ex used to have a tantrum and start getting aggressive when they didn't get their own way, it was like, oh deary me the 12 year old has surfaced YET again! Not a redeeming quality in any shape or form thank you.
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@GardenGerty (157665)
• United States
26 May 09
I am the one who will throw a tantrum, although I try not to.
@miamilady (4910)
• United States
24 May 09
It's okay to be childish AT TIMES. Life would be no fun if we were serious all the time. But, we have to know when to quit. There's a time for fun and then there is time to act like an adult. I have a problem with guys who just can't tell when it's time to stop acting like a kid and start acting like a grown up.
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@angelajoy (1825)
• Philippines
25 May 09
I told my boyfriend once to grow up and I really regretted it. What I like about him is that he jokes a lot but still knows when to be serious. In short, he is well balanced.
@eaforeman6 (8979)
• United States
27 May 09
I think that the chemistry can just be wrong at times.if you say too much , it is called nagging and if you do not say anything,then you are not communicating lol. Next question is,how much of it can you take lol. I do not think it should be so complicated , it defeats the reasons for being together.
@scarlet_woman (23465)
• United States
20 Jul 09
my ex used to act like a child..for all the wrong reasons.
threw tantrums too.
a childlike sense of fun can be endearing.it's good not to be stoggy and serious all the time.as long as it is in fun,not as in spoiled brat.
@guybrush (4658)
• Australia
3 Jun 09
Yes, I HAVE on occasion been cross with my husband for being childish. He has quite a jealous streak (fine when I'm being a housewife and not working) - but when I had a job, he didn't like me having friendships with the men I worked with. One of the lads I was friends with was gay - but my husband still hated the fact we were such good friends and had a laugh together. One day we had quite a nasty argument about it, and I threw my husband's dinner at him. It sailed past his head, out of the back door and down the steps onto the patio. Served him right!
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@sway2513 (50)
• United States
25 May 09
I am always yelling at my b/f, I hate it. It makes me feel more like his mother then his g/f. Yet at the same time some of the crazy stuff he does is funny and kind of keeps me feeling young. I think as long as it is done at the appropriate time and place it is perfectly harmless.
@Danielle010507 (221)
• Philippines
25 May 09
I often told my man to grow up. We always had a situation where he always finds himself wanting to be fooling around in a wrong time. We always fight regarding this incidents. We even came to a point that I am really tired of dealing the same conern everyday and I'm tired of telling him to put his being childish in the right time in the right situation. But sometimes I can't blame him because he is really young compared to me.
@qiyunhai (254)
• China
25 May 09
childhood are joyful.why not adult sometimes are childish.for spousers,childish is a litttle romantic.it will bring happiness for us.
