If you reached thirty and your not married, will you get worried?

@n30wing (4768)
Philippines
May 25, 2009 6:41am CST
I didn't get worried when I reach thirty and still single, that time I haven't find the right girl whom I wanted to share my life with. I was just thinking if it's really for me I could feel it already and it will just happens. I just go on with life that time and take it one day at a time.Right now I am already 33 that is the time I have found the woman of my life and grow older with. I have so many friends who is older then me but they never get worried, as long as they are happy with life and achieving their goals. How about you guys do you get worried not yet married yet? Have a nice day to all of you!
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• China
30 May 09
Rather than worry about myself, I think I would be more worried about my parents.Because they have to face the pressure from others. As a new generation, I take single life for granted, but not my parents. Seeing my peers getting married, getting pregnant, they must be very worried.Then I will do something for them!
@n30wing (4768)
• Philippines
3 Jun 09
Hi ianmeteor, it's your own choice, your own life to make, as long as your ready facing it. Here in my country there are a lot of women and men still single at the age of 30. As long they found the right person they grow with. And have enjoyed their lives before they settle down for good. Anyway have a great day a head!
@technoobs (406)
• Philippines
30 May 09
That is I am at my late 20s now but in a relationship. Age doesn't bother me about changing my life situations to having someone to grow old with. We have talked with my baby(as we call each other) to have to get most out of it before getting married of which I agreed too. Having everything on the right time and place that is having our careers gone stable before we would end up to married happily ever after.
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@n30wing (4768)
• Philippines
3 Jun 09
Hi technoobs, well your right! As long as your happy together, doing things first and enjoying each other nothing to worry.Anyway as long as your in love and your love is getting stronger for each other marriage can wait. Anyway have a nice day to you and your baby!
• United States
29 May 09
I got married when I was 23 so I can not respond to this discussion.
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@n30wing (4768)
• Philippines
3 Jun 09
Hi shalahodges, it's still okay! You got married at age 23 that is fine. As long as no regret and your happy with your life! Have a nice day to you!
@veejay19 (3590)
• India
27 May 09
I will be 64 this year and i am still not married but leading a very happy and contented and healthy life.
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@n30wing (4768)
• Philippines
3 Jun 09
Hi veejay19, I think we all have our choices in life, and make life with. As long as your happy and contented, it's just fine. Anyway have a nice day to you1
• China
27 May 09
I am a girl approaching 30 & single. I am not worried if i still have not got married until 30, but truely parents will be so worried about it, in their idea, a girl must be marreid before 30. if not, the people around will look at her in a diifferent way: and their reputation will be damaged. anyway, four words: single is simple; double is trouble~
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@n30wing (4768)
• Philippines
3 Jun 09
Hi Eligabeth, in my country there are a lot of singles men and women. That takes their time to really make sure that they are ready facing married life. They enjoy there life first and attain their goals. I just think there is no age limit to get married. But ready to face life being married. Everything change once your married. Anyway have a nice day to you!
@Ritchelle (3795)
• Philippines
27 May 09
this was exactly the same reason why at 27 i chose to elope. there were a lot of conditions and i want to be a wife first for two years before i become a mother and when marriage was requested to be put on hold at 27 i thought i don't want to risk a child with downe syndrome since i learned that there is an increased risk of this when a woman gets pregnant in her thirties. i know of a guy who is the same age as you that i said to get married since i know from theory that the ideal age difference of a couple is 3-7 years with the guy being the older one. i told him to marry his girl already since if he gets a lot older he would have had to have an older girlfriend also. this would mean, to a high extent, a girl who puts career first and if he wants a wife who puts career first then he get married later. no offense to anybody.
@n30wing (4768)
• Philippines
3 Jun 09
Hi Ritchelle, well there are priorities to start with, fixing life and making life. Reaching your goals first and attain it. Well it also took me for a while when real love came my way. We really think of it before we will say I do. She ask me one thing if ever we wont have a child, and it's just unfair for me. But I said I love you for what you are, and for what she is, and I don't care as long as we love each other that is the most important thing. If ever we wont have a child will adopt one. Right now we have a baby dog name Bobsy. Well we still do believe in miracles and we have faith in God. As long that we can face life together, grow old, and makes our love stronger it's enough for us. Soon will say I do and that's a day we wont forget in our lives. Have a nice day to you!
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@sweetyethot (1738)
• China
29 May 09
As a girl,sometimes I worry getting older alone.I will be thirty a few years later.I hope I could get married before thirty.I dont like being pregnant at an old age.That would be difficult for women to recover.So,I think thats the main thing I worry if Im still single after thirty.
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@caskins (689)
• United States
28 May 09
Hello n30wing, I am 33 years old also. I'm not worried about getting married. Me and my boyfriend has been together for six years. If I get married great if not I'm not going to cry about it. That's the least of my worries. Happy myLotting!
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@chiepao (714)
• Philippines
28 May 09
I think I wouldn't get worried when I reach my 30's and I'm still single. As long as I know I've lived my life to the fullest.. it's completely fine. :) Also, I don't want to force myself on getting married, I want it to come at the right time to avoid mischiefs along my realtionship. have a nice day and happy mylotting :D
@taface412 (3175)
• United States
27 May 09
I started to freak out when I turned 30. And then I got panicky and then I realized what's the big deal. Only panicky people rush into something with someone because they are scared to be alone. All things happen in life for a reason. So I have not met my Mr. Right yet. One day hopefully I will. But in my opinion too many people are rushing life now days. ANd I am glad I am realizing it this young so maybe I can enjoy things more.
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27 May 09
Age doesn't matter, we can't change it. It is better to meet someone and be truly happy with them whatever your age. I was thirty before I met my husband, I had been single for 18 months before that, so I had the odd moment where I wondered if I would ever meet the right man to settle with. Later that year I met him, we married under 3 years later and a year after that had a baby who will be three later this year. For women it is slightly different I guess as they worry about their biological clock when they know they would like children. Age is just a number.
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@anday0108 (632)
• Philippines
25 May 09
I really wouldn't worry. As long as I am happy,fulfilled, and loved by my family, what is there to worry about. Marriage will come when it is meant to be. Right now I am 39 and still I do not worry about not getting married. I may not get married after all, but I still do not worry. I have a fulfilled life, a good job, a happy family. I travel a lot, well, really a lot which I really like. I think I wouldn't be able to do what I am doing right now if I were married. No regrets. Married or not married... there is nothing to worry about. If the right man comes, then why not. But I wouldn't push myself to marriage even if it is not right just for the sake of getting married.
• Philippines
25 May 09
My friend, push herself to get married even if she wasn't sure at all with the man she will get married to. She was to stressed up with the pressure around of being single at her age. She end up still sad because she married the wrong person. At first, she thought her life would be complete and would be easier when she is married. The opposite happened. She is sad right now and quarrels a lot with her husband. Her life becomes miserable because she pushed herself to get married when clearly it was not with the right person....just for the sake of getting married and getting off from peer pressure. If you are happy with what you have and where you are, you don't have to get married because you need to...you should get married because it is the right person and the right time.
@marcyyyy (519)
• United States
26 May 09
You are so right, and I'm glad to know you're so happy!! It's too bad about your friend. No one should ever be forced into marriage by a certain age, however, I realize that in some countries that happens. It's so sad...I was 33 when I got married, and my husband and I were engaged for 3 years!!! No rush, I used to get tired of people always asked, "When are you getting married???" I think that's such a personal question.. Have a great day!!
@n30wing (4768)
• Philippines
3 Jun 09
Hi anday0180, I wasn't worried that I am not married at that time, cause I have other priorities, but I was thinking it will just come along the way. Everything will just happen. That time I was just thinking of a good job, supporting my parents. How to survive life. Then getting married and you can't provide and not ready yet. I just want everything in order maybe. Anyway there is nothing wrong that your still single then being not a good provider to your wife. Anyway have a nice day to you!
@carrine (2748)
• Philippines
26 May 09
you know what iam already 31 this year. and i dont have this feeling of worries nor fear that im not married yet. because i choose to be single and i am happy with my life now with my 2 kids. its complicated right? you may ask me how it happens to me having two kids and single? LOOOL well this is me, im unique. hahahahah
@n30wing (4768)
• Philippines
7 Jun 09
Hi carrine, well I have seen a lot of singles who have children and I salute to them. It's not a bad thing not getting married and just having children. It's how makes you happy, it's your contented and satisfied with life. I just believe that you can't have everything in this world. As long as you can carry it. Have a nice day to you!
@carrine (2748)
• Philippines
7 Jun 09
yeah many women are like me also, and some of them are by choice for being singlemom , some also are a victim to be singlemom. my prayers always for them that they can be able to handle things out, for being a good mother even they dont have a partner, and they dont blame their kids for what had happened for their lives. because singleparents blamed their kids of being singlemom. or they blame their kids of what their father did to her. i pity those children. so godbless to all of us.
@daliaj (5683)
• India
25 May 09
Of course I will worry because in my country a girl should get married before 30. People will look at girls who are old and single in a differnt way. It is also a bad name for my parents if I don't get married before 30. My parents had lots of tension when my marriage was getting delayed eventhough I was only 26 at that time. Luckly, I found a good person and got married before thirty.
@amylan (188)
• France
26 May 09
And you guys just don't contend that social cliche that treat women like commercial products with a expirary date? You think your own value decrease on the marriage market as you're getting old? You're adults and the free choice of getting married is one of the most important aspects of human rights. Those gossiping people who cause others' parents tensions should be blamed. No wonder there're always gender gaps. How could girls be treated with respects by maen if they could not even be valued by their own parents? Sorry this is little bit away from the topic. My answer is, no ,why bother to worry about this? what's the actual difference between 30 and 31 or 29 and 30?
@n30wing (4768)
• Philippines
2 Jun 09
Hi daliaj, well in our country we are not that much pressured by our parents. It's our own choice, our decision, and if were already ready about getting married. It's just upon us, not our parents because it our life will make. I think there are a lot of single ladies who are on their 30's same with men who are still single maybe it's their choice being single or haven't found the right person yet. Anyway have a nice day to you!
• Philippines
11 Jun 09
I am going to be 31 this coming September and I didn't get worried even if my friends and family are always saying that I need to be married before I reach 30. I have met the love of my life 8 months ago only, we are in a serious relationship right now but we don't know when to get married as our financial status is not yet that stable. My mother is also asking me when we are going to get married but there is a good timing for everything.
@n30wing (4768)
• Philippines
20 Jun 09
Hi my friend sopie_dfuss, I like what you've said that there is a right time with everything especially getting married. As long as your happy and deeply in love marriage can wait. It's your life and your partner makes, not other people. As long as your ready to get married not the age. Anyway sorry for the late response really got so burnout and have to rest for a while! Have a nice day to you my friend!
@happy6162 (3009)
• United States
10 Jun 09
No, I would not have worried if I was not married when I reach 30. As long as a person is happy with their life whether they are married should not matter. Many people do not get married until they are alot older then 30. You are right when the time is right then it will happen people should not get married just because they are thirty or over.
@n30wing (4768)
• Philippines
20 Jun 09
Hi happy6162, well when I reached my 30th birthday I never thought yet or got worried that I am not married yet. That time I was concentrating it to my career first and really devoted my time with my work and my family. Till I reached 32 years old that I have found the real meaning of love. I found the right girl who I wanna spend my life with. Anyway have a nice day to you!
@larish (2193)
• Philippines
3 Jun 09
It is more important of choosing the person for you. You're a man and biologically speaking, age really doesn't matter with you. It is best that you choose the best girl for you and don't be discourage because of your age. As for me, since I am a woman, I really got scared when I reach 30 and I am still single. Luckily I gat married last year at age 32. lol.
@n30wing (4768)
• Philippines
3 Jun 09
Hi larish, well the truth is I was thing a long time ago. I'll get married at age 37. But everything change when I really fallen in love and want to spend my life with her. Everything change when I met her. I made sure what I really feel. I have work so hard, cause I know it will come my way, and I did very soon I get married and I want it to last a life time. Anyway have a nice day to you!
@redmike (153)
• Philippines
3 Jun 09
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@n30wing (4768)
• Philippines
3 Jun 09
Hey redmike, thanks for the invitation, but I can't go, maybe some other day. Well soon enough I'll be getting married soon. Maybe you haven't found the person you really want to spend your life with. Anyway enjoy life first. I have enjoyed my life and have achieved the goals. I am very happy cause I really found the love of my life! Anyway have a nice day to you!
@deejean06 (1953)
• United States
1 Jun 09
Hi n30wing...I was 36 when I got married and my husband was much older than me. But we're very happy with each other and definitely think it was worth the wait! Good luck to you!
@n30wing (4768)
• Philippines
3 Jun 09
Hi deejean06, well hopefully I'll get married soon with the girl I really love and wanna spend my life with. I am turning 34 this year. My love for her gets stronger everyday. I am already ready being a good husband to her. I know once your married your life change. But I am ready deejean06. Anyway have a nice day to you!
• Netherlands
1 Jun 09
Well I am past 30 and was married long before I was 30 but at that time that is just what you did it seemed. Do not get me wrong, I adore Hubby and the many years we have had together but I happen to be one of the lucky ones to have met and married a wonderful man that loves me and takes care of me so well. I think it is great now days that people are taking their time to get to know each other better before making that very big step. Many are also completing their schooling, getting a good job and focusing on their careers. Today people are also choosing to start families later in life, so I think waiting until you are 30 or older to take that step is not at all anything to be concerned about when it comes to getting married. Many people marry much too young before they have even had a taste of what the World has to offer and unfortunately some marry the first person that they meet and feel a lot of peer pressure to get married.
@n30wing (4768)
• Philippines
3 Jun 09
Hi greeneyedlady, I think before getting married is your ready. You have to enjoy first your life and achieving your goals. And really found the right girl who you really love. It's better you know each other first better. That your love was tested first by time. Anyway have a nice day to you!