Never a dull moment around here! It's always something...
By miamilady
@miamilady (4910)
United States
May 27, 2009 7:04am CST
This discussion my not be for the faint of heart.
Simply because I'm going to mention some "female" issues along with some other issues.
Many of you, if you have a family will be able to relate.
Maybe some of you, with easier children will not...
I'm not looking for advice here, I'm just ranting and sharing a bit.
So, I wake up to get my children up and getting ready for school as I do every day.
Of course "every day" brings a new challenge, but somehow I still manage to wake up thinking today might be a "normal" day! I guess I just need to accept the fact that "normal" for us isn't very normal at all.
We are in the last week of school for my daughter and a week and a half away from the last day for my son.
My daughter is in a private school my son is in a public school (long story) so they are on a slightly different schedule, which also keeps things interesting.
Well, SHE is taking finals this week. She also just got her period. (great) and on top of that, lately when she gets her period, she also gets a UTI (urinary tract infection). If any of you have experienced one of those, you know how painful it can be. So, now she's asking about make-up exams and sitting on the toilet...
Yep, never a dull moment around here!
Oh and HE? He as an axiety disorder. We had to go through an axiety program this year to help him deal with is fear of school (I kid you not). Well last week he started "slipping" (that's what they call it when they go back into being scared), so I'm dealing with that too.
One of these days I'll do a discussion on anxiety disorders etc. I did one, but I want to do one with a lot more details so that people can learn more about it.
Do you ever have one of those days where things just start to fall apart from the moment you wake up and you have to just spend the day doing "damage control" or "picking up the pieces"?
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17 responses
@derlilaStern (1756)
• United States
27 May 09
Yeah, yesterday. LOL! I woke up at 3:45 because I had to pee... or so I thought. Nope UTI it was. Great. I was supposed to work, so I tried going back to sleep hoping I would still be functional. No such luck. I called out of work. Emailed my doc for a script. (I love her!) and went about my day hoping it wouldnt be spent trying not to cry.
So when I was on the toilet for the second time in an hour, I started my period. (Not related to the UTI) Just what I wanted!
I am feeling much better today. The meds are doing wonders already. I also drank a ridiculous amount of water yesterday which really, really helped. I dont know exactly how - maybe it forced some of the bacteria out and didnt give it time to grow because I was always peeing!
So I can totally sympathize with your daughter right now!
I hope your day improves!
@miamilady (4910)
• United States
29 May 09
My daughter's seem to flare up around the time she gets her period? ARe you sure it's not related?
@miamilady (4910)
• United States
30 May 09
When she was little, bubble baths would trigger it. Now that she's older she plays sports (softball) I was told that her softball pants could also be contributing to the problem. Although right now she isn't playing, so I don't know what happened this time. She seems to have gotten through the worst of it.
@derlilaStern (1756)
• United States
29 May 09
Based on my other activities from the weekend, I am pretty sure they arent related. 
Although it is possible that my period affected it. I couldnt imagine having to deal with that every month though!
Although it is possible that my period affected it. I couldnt imagine having to deal with that every month though!
@biman_s (1060)
• India
27 May 09
How do I say this. Today everything was going perfect right before I wrote this response. I am in debt as I had borrowed the money for a medical reason. The person who lent me the money called a little while ago and and for the money before June 10. Now I have only a few days to arrange $800 and pay him. I have absolutely no clue how to do this. Every thing in my life is going to pieces right now. I don't even know How I am responding to this topic.
Anyways I hope I figure somthing out.For me its just damage control.
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@miamilady (4910)
• United States
30 May 09
I hope you were able to work things out. I'm it debt too and I know how stressful that can be.
@sudiptacallingu (10879)
• India
27 May 09
From 5:15 in the morning to 12 midnight, its ‘normal’ for me if I manage to just get to the bed in one piece…I sometimes really wonder how can I run on so many things all at the same time without every tripping or dropping or breaking? Guess, I’ll have to clean up after myself…that’s the though that keeps me going! And as you said…’never a dull moment’
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@miamilady (4910)
• United States
30 May 09
I learned a staying years ago. Sometimes I remind myself of it...
"This too shall pass". Sometimes rembering that helps. :-)
@Darkwing (21583)
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30 May 09
I think most of us have those days from time to time, but it's not a lot of fun when it happens every day. I don't envy you at all and it must be so difficult to deal with two children who need extra attention, constantly. Teenagers are not easy at the best of times, my friend, so I admire the way you cope, even if it does get you down from time to time.
Is it summer holidays for them over there, already? Ours break up around the 19th July for summer and go back early September, but I know yours break earlier. It's nearer midsummer in fact which I think is better for them.
Brightest Blessings... keep your chin up. You're doing a great job as a Mum!
@miamilady (4910)
• United States
30 May 09
I think sometimes the schools determine their start and end date by the climate. I think I read that somewhere. But here in south florida they keep moving it up and then back over the past few years. It's gone from the last week of May to the first or second week of June depending on the year. My daughter finished this week my son will finish next week.
@jillmalitz (5131)
• United States
27 May 09
I think we all have had those days. For some reason I think those of us with kids have more of them. I can remember when I was single and my friends were married with kids there always seemed to be a crisis of some sort. I had no clue. Now that I have been through dozens of things from husbands to kids and grandkids sometimes I feel like an ancient goddess of wisdom and advise cause I have "been there, done that"
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@meandmy3 (2227)
• United States
27 May 09
Trust me there are some days that by the time I have breakfast finished I wonder why the heck I even got out of bed that day.
I have five year old triplets so well my challenges are different from yours, and they all have sensory processing disorder. I am never sure what kind of day we are going to have. It is always a challenge of some kind.
As far as the UTI, you may need to spend some time talking to her about the proper way to wipe, sorry you went there so I am going there, she needs to wipe form front to back, especially when on your period. Have her drink cranberry juice around her period, this will help as well. You can also get a product called AZO standard, they have one that is just to help with uniary health and to help to prevent UTI's and one that is used to help treat them. They will turn your urine a funky color but that is normal.. plus what kind of tampon or pad is she using, she may not be changing them enough, this as well could cause the infection. If she uses pads it is better to use the thinners ones and change them more often than the thick ones (not to mention comfort) as peopel tend to not change those as often.
oh the joys of being a mom
Your son could be slipping because of the changes, change in routine and schedule. As school is ending he has new anxiety's, fears etc. My youngest (funny) is having a difficult time with the end of school and the changes it has brought in our schedule.
Good luck
@miamilady (4910)
• United States
30 May 09
Thanks for the reply. I am going to check out the AZO. I think we bought some when she first started having this problem about a year and a half ago. It's a cranberry based pill isn't it? Since we were also using a pill called Cystex, I didn't want her taking too many things at the same time. But if AZO has preventative qualities I may have her start taking it.
We've talked about hygene, but I may remind her. I do think some people are just more prone to these infections than others regardless of their habits, but whatever she can do to reduce the frequency, of course she needs to do it.
My son is slipping because, yes, their shedule has been thrown out of whack. They are taking finals now and their schedule is flipped all around. In addition that that, his biggest fear is "getting stuck" in school. When it rains, they do not let them change classes sometimes and that triggers his fear. South Florida has just begun our rainy season for the year, so it's been really hard for him.
One more week to go til he's done with school for this year.
@winterose (39887)
• Canada
30 May 09
yep I think everyone has had those kinds of days. My son has a bad temper and mental issues, has outrage and anger issues. There is never a dull moment in my household. Being that I am disabled now, it is hard to take the stress of someone like that.
@reinydawn (11643)
• United States
28 May 09
Yup, those are the days I just want to crawl back onto bed and skip everything until the next morning.
@peedielyn (1207)
• United States
3 Jun 09
I feel you on this one! I am up and at it at 5 am just to start it over at 5 am the next day. Shoot, now I am doing it on the weekends and even more through the week because school has let out. I wish there was a stop to the madness once in a while so I could prepare for the next war of craziness! I wish you lots of luck, sweetie!
@celticeagle (164366)
• Boise, Idaho
28 May 09
I used to have those days EVERY DAY. I have an anxiety disorder and so even getting up and not being afraid, yes myself, to go to work was a challenge. I used to have to get my daughter up and she is 37. Get her going on breakfast or house work. Then get my grand daughter up. Now both these people have bi-polar disorder and are hard to wake up to begin with because of the meds they take and not being able to sleep back then. Getting my grand daughter up was a challenge because most of the time she didn't want to go to school. So I had to fight and argue with her until the last straw was calling the police to come out and have their hand at it. Oh, ya on a daily basis. Then, if after all the fun and frollic I could muster what it took to get my fanny ready and actually go to work I would. Then I would most likely atleast a couple of times a week get a call from the school that my grand daughter was not being appropriate at school and I needed to go pick her up. Or, she had made it through the day and was home harrassing her mother and her mom needed me to call the police or come home and referee. Then I had to muster the nerve to go tell my supervisor I would have to leave. This ofcourse being a day I was not so depressed I couldn't get up or not having a panic attack or anxiety situation. And now I am coping better. It is nearly three years later after two years of severe depression, weigh gain, panic and anxiety, trial and error on the meds front, etc., etc. Fun, fun, fun. So, ya I understand what you mean by damage control and picking up the pieces. I even ran away for a while. Didn't work. Only lasts two and a half months. I need a rubber room. How about you?!
@miamilady (4910)
• United States
30 May 09
I have fantasized about running away, but I don't think I ever would.
I might take a short weekend getaway one of these days, so I guess that's running away in a sense, but it would be a planned running away...
I do run away for about a half hour once in a while...I just go for a drive when things get too much. It's a way of keeping my temper under control.
Do you think it was the meds that helped with your anxiety?
Trying to help my son through this has been quite a learning experience.
Anxiety really does take a toll on the entire family sometimes.
I see how frustrating it is for my son when he feels that nobody understands. I think I'm about as understanding as any parent can be, but sometimes it gets really difficult. And I have to ask myself every day (sometimes several times a day) is this a time for me to be understanding or firm? I don't want to "enable" him, but I don't want to push him so hard that he breaks either.
The program that he was in helped a lot, but he still struggles sometimes.
@GemmaR (8517)
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27 May 09
You're right, there is always something to worry about. Your daughter sounds like she's having a pretty bad time of it at the moment.. how awful that the UTI should coincide with her finals! However, if you tell the tutors that she has a problem, they should be able to make it so that she can visit the toilet however many times she likes during the exam. They have to provide things like that if their students need them by law.
As for your son's anxiety.. I am quite the expert on anxiety disorders, and I have worked with many, many people who suffer from them while I've been studying for my degree. I can completely sympathise with the situation. If you went through a program, did they give you advice about what to do to help him deal with it? Perhaps you're missing one even ONE little tiny piece of advice that they gave you, and that's why he's relapsing? Or maybe he's experienced a trigger recently at school which brought some negative experiences to the front of his memory. You need to have a chat with him and see if you can get to the bottom of it.
Feel free to message me if you want to chat to somebody who understands. I don't pretend to know all of the answers, but I can provide some advice and at least some moral support as well!
@lynnemg (4529)
• United States
28 May 09
In my household, there is always something going on. If I am able to get out of the door without an argument or fight between the kids, I think that one, or all of them are not feeling well. The same goes for my afternoons. My kids are constantly bickering and doing their abolute best to ignore each and every word I say!
I have two boys that are diagnosed with ADHD. Getting them on track is a huge challenge some mornings, and by the time achool is out, they are just so full of enery, they cannot sit still! Both are very easily distracted, so they continually "Forget" what I told them to do.
My daughter is just stubborn! She can manage to try my patience more than both boys put together! Plus, shi thinks that being the only girl means that she has to bully her brothers!
Yep, we have one more day of school and I can only imagine how the summer will be. I just hope that because they will sleep later for a while, they won't be so contrary in the mornings and afternoons!
@pinaybigbucks (267)
• Philippines
28 May 09
i only have one kid but everyday is a challenge for me. my 4-year-old daughter was diagnosed with autism spectrum disorder and she's hyperactive. just now, she kept playing with her saliva, putting it on her hair. and when i took her to the bathroom for a bath, she got all the clothes out of the closet, dumped them all on the bed, and went inside the closet. she can always think up of new things to do everyday. things that sometimes would make me mad. but i can't get mad at her because of her condition. when i talk to her in a firm voice, she just laughs and thinks i'm playing with her.
@youngloc (36)
• United States
28 May 09
i have a family of 5 i know what you mean. i have a 3 month old 1.5yr and a 3yr daughter that loves to wake up running through the house at 6 AM "wakey wakey daddy cook for me?" it never fails she jumps right on top of me and says that a disturbing way to wake up. while im cooking she goes and wakes up Isiah the 18 month old he starts screaming im cooking mom still sleep he needs a diaper change baby girl eggs are burning and then the youngest daughter starts screaming oooo lord what a 6 AM got love em though
@Thoroughrob (11742)
• United States
27 May 09
I know how you feel. Things are never dull around here either. With my son's surgery, it seems we have been sent in a whirlwind. Hopefully things come together with you soon.
@danishcanadian (28953)
• Canada
27 May 09
I have had days like that before, and I've always been stuck in my usual role as the CALM ONE!! I've talked to my husband about the situations that we've had to face, and now I don't have to do so much damage control anymore. We work together as a team, and that's a big relief to both of us.
@savypat (20216)
• United States
27 May 09
I think life is just like this. Certainly with children to take care of it gets even more of a rat race. Have you tried having your daughter sit is a bath with the hottest water she can stand, that helped my UTI. Also using Phenazopyridine Hydrochloride will help with the pain but watch out for the staining of the urine it can really spot panties. But you can buy this over the counter now. I finally learned that eating citrus caused my bladder to be irritated once I stopped that I haven't had another infection. She may be cross contamination herself by not following good habits, teens tend to be to busy to pay attention. Good luck
