do you feel sometimes marriage is just a piece of paper? -momtrying2makeit

Think about Adam and Eve's days. There must not be anything like marriage at all! They could have not, otherwise we would have not been alive here, isn't ti? So, why did our forefathers created a social act as Marriage, because they have seen some good thing in it. They wanted people to behave well. They wanted to have some discipline in the society and that is why they have come up with the idea of marriage. As the time passed on and we are now in the time where people are fed up with it and wanted to have live-in relationship without any boundation, which I think not that good, if one wants to live in a society then s/he must follow the discipline of it. One shoudl get married. It is not a peice of paper but a duty to your society! Thanks

Hi momtry, Well I have been married for 30 years and when we got married, it was not just a piece of paper, it was for life and we respected our vows, but today people just get married and divorce the next minute, so today yes its just a piece of paper to make money, society don't respect marriage or work at it, we did and we are still together. Tamara

I definately think people take marriage way too lightly these days. I feel like the attitude is like, "We can always just get a divorce anyway." I'm 18 now, and my parents got divorced when I was 11. In school a mojority of my friends had divorced or remarried parents, and those whose parent were still together were seemingly on the brink of splitting.

Yes, marriage is, technically just a piece a paper. You can be in love with someone and live with them and have children and live the same life without the paper to prove it. As long as the two people know what they are, paper does not need to validate it. It's just a money racket for those who profit from weddings.

Yes I think sometimes the essence of marriage is not measured by just a piece of paper. It is a sad fact that all couples before they could get married should spend much and pay before they could get the much needed marriage contract. I do respect the sanctity of marriage but then why is it that no matter how much you spend it does not guarantee a long lasting love and never ending relationship? What is the point of spending too much if you can not guarantee the life you want? So for me I will treasure my husband as long as I am alive and do not think that I love him just because I married him but love him because I want to and we are really for each other.

I think it's silly that you have to pay the government to get married. I live in Oregon and it's not that expensive, I think my hubby and I paid $75 or something. I just don't understand what that is for. It took about 30 seconds for the lady behind the window to do her thing and hand me a paper to take to our wedding and either bring in personally or mail in afterwards. It seems like you should just be able to declare that you are married (common law) but that isn't acknowledged here either. The only way to be able to share the insurance and have the rights as a spouse is to go through the government.

Whether you are going to marry or going to divorce, it costs a lot of money seriously. My friend also sees marriage as a piece of paper, everything is different in one's point of view. I think marriage is still important to a couple. If they are married, they will try to work out their marriage and will not jump into separation as quickly as it gets. Divorce only happens when one of them is caught having infidelity to their partners and they don't want to talk or solve the problem between them. I am living together with my bf, he doesn't like marriage as he got traumatized with his parents' divorce but I will try to make him realize in the near future about the importance of marriage.

I feel it too that it is just a piece of paper, an expenditure during wedding. In the sake of legality i view it as a serious long term commitment of two person, man and woman for me, and for the sake of religion that we must be legally married to one person we love. In other ways, marriage is like a fun thing for others that anytime they want new person they can change it and looking for another one. In my opinion if you feel that you will not stay longer with the person do not make a commitment to marry. Just live together and agree to each other that anytime of you want to part away you have freedom to do so.

i dont think marridge is just a piece of paper, as far as common law marridges they are still where i live infact they lowered the years on how long people have to be together.

Marriage is not just a piece of paper. It is a lifetime commitment between two people. It's about working hard to stay true to their vows. The piece of paper or the marriage contract just makes it legal. In a civilized society, we are governed by rules that we have to follow and this is where the marriage contract comes in.

Marriage on paper is about the law. That's all it is. I got married to my hubby twice... once on paper so I could be on his insurance. The second was for our family and our hearts. Guess which one we celebrate as our anniversary. Church weddings are special if you are doing it for the heart not the legal reason. It's one of those faith or heart things instead of a legal thing.

I'm getting married next month :-) We actually just got our marriage license in the mail today. We paid 50$ for that lovely piece of paper that will make us "official" next month. When I read the rest of the paperwork it informed that the bride (that's me!) will need to pay 7$ for each additional copy needed when changing her name. What the heck?! Money racket, I tell ya. I don't even want to know how our taxes are going to change next year when we're considered married. I am marrying my fiancee because we want to spend the rest of our lives together. Neither one of us can imagine spending it with anyone else. We also want to have a family sometime down the road. In order to do all of those things, marriage comes first. I am excited to be getting married but not so excited about the money it has cost me and what it'll most likely cost me down the road with taxes!

I do think that marriage is just a piece of paper you do not need to be married love someone I think that that is what is important that you love the person that you what to spend every minute with them in some cultures you are not allowed to live or have intercoures with your partner without being married then they get married and dont like something about the person they married and either they feel stuck or they end up divorced I mean if you feel like you need to be married to be happy with your patner then good for you and if not even better it will save you some money

It depends, we go to church and the meaning of marriage and family has been instilled in us. But some people look at marriage as the big fancy wedding and then realize that was all they wanted. My sister in law married for that reason, the wedding ... he did not love her and she did not love him. When they divorced less than 2 years after the marriage, within a week both had a new boyfriend/girlfriend. The government just looks at marriage as a money making scheme, they make money from the licensing of it and taxes of course. Common law marriages should be a 50/50 deal, especially if you decide to have kids. Your putting as much into it as a married couple would ...

nope i don't think so. it's a virtual link with GOD too. if you can't help but go away with your husband then be it.just not make another mistake to remarry again.and most of all, we don't need to buy a husband or wife.

I am not sure that I can answer this yet because the question isn't clear to me. Could you please rephrase it and I'll try it answer it. My only answer now is that it's not about law, it's more about god's law.