Can we still be friends in such a situation?I need some help!!!

@xyzxgt (89)
China
June 2, 2009 11:14pm CST
The other day,I liked a girl,who was younger than me and I wanted her to be my girlfriend.So I confessed my love to her,but she refused me and told be we had better be friends instead of lovers.I am upset nou and confused.Can we still be friends?
6 responses
• China
3 Jun 09
Of course you can.You can help her when she's in trouble.You can share sth with her.But you can't disturb her life.When she has a bf,you just give her some wishes.
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• China
3 Jun 09
yes ,i will.You can make friends with her and be her best friend.
@xyzxgt (89)
• China
3 Jun 09
Hello,sherry8888,you are Chinese as me.The way which Chinese people handles this affair is different from western.I want to ask you a question,if you were the girl in such a situation,what would you do and would you want to keep a friendship with the boy?
@xyzxgt (89)
• China
7 Jun 09
Different people has different choice.I will give her some time to make hers own choice.
• United States
3 Jun 09
You can, if you can honestly respect her wishes. If you are only ever going to want more, you will eventually pursue it, and it won't work out. It's all up to you really.
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@xyzxgt (89)
• China
3 Jun 09
But now,the girl has kept a distantance from me.Maybe she want to avoid embarrassment.I do not want to lose a friend like her.She is kind and beautiful.But she...
• United States
3 Jun 09
She's keeping a distance because you've expressed how you feel. She is setting distance to make you aware of her feelings. That she doesn't want more. She is thinking, "Maybe I've been spending too much time with him." She feels like she's lead you on some how, and she's got to set that distance, to make it clear you're just friends. She's only embarrassed if she's not attracted to you, if she is attracted to you, but just not into you like that, she'd be flattered that you asked her, there's the difference.
@PeacefulWmn9 (10420)
• United States
3 Jun 09
The beauty is that the choice is yours. If it feels too awkward or painful, then you are better off without the friendship. If it is comfortable and rewarding to you, then go for the friendship. Give it a shot, and see how it all feels to you. Karen
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@xyzxgt (89)
• China
7 Jun 09
It is comfortable and rewarding to me.I want to keep friendship with her.But now she is avoiding me.Maybe she is also thinking.I will wait for her until she makes hers own choice.
• Canada
3 Jun 09
It may feel a bit awkward and stuff, but i say Yes ofcourse still be freidns, you cant let something like that ruin your friendship :) If you feel weird talking to her face to face for now, just talk on the interent or something ... Dont stop being friends though
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@xyzxgt (89)
• China
3 Jun 09
as you has told me,I feel a bit awkward when i talk to her now.I donnot want it to ruin our friendship.Thank you for your response.
@x_Jo_x (1040)
9 Jun 09
Hmmm, i think it should be possible. It depends a bit on both of you i guess. You should respect her desicion, but dont give up all hope. Just show her that you will still love, and be kind friendly and there for her. She could always change her mind! It may feel a little bit tense between you, but i think you definatly did the right thing by telling her how you felt. Good luck with everything! I really hope things work out for you =)
@flzmlady (418)
• China
9 Jun 09
perhaps you two still can,but i think the girl will have further that kinda of thought of you since then.