Have you ever noticed that someone had deleted you?

@jesssp (2739)
Canada
June 5, 2009 5:26pm CST
Have your ever noticed that someone deleted you off their 'friends' list? There's always discussions about how and when you decide to delete someone but have you ever been deleted and don't have a clue why? I know that sometimes people will delete 'friends' if they're no longer active, if they start spamming or if they become rude or offensive but how does it make you feel when you GET deleted but haven't done anything like that? I know that people on your 'friends' list don't necessarily reply to all or even most of your discussions but would that be reason enough for you to delete them? Do you re-request them, try to find out why or just let it go?
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@katsmeow1213 (28895)
• United States
5 Jun 09
I don't normally notice. I might eventually notice that I'm not seeing that person's discussions anymore, and I'll go looking, but normally what's been the case is that person just goes inactive. I actually haven't come across anyone deleting me for no good reason. I think I'm usually the one who does the deleting. I'm picky about who is on my friends list. Every so often I'll go through my list and delete names that are not familiar to me. If I get a bunch of discussions that I don't like I'll go delete that person. I'd never purposely re-request someone.. not unless I'd forgotten that they'd ever been on my friends. If they delete me, I'll assume they had a good reason.
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@jesssp (2739)
• Canada
8 Jun 09
I just noticed by chance that someone who I specifically remembered added wasn't on my list anymore. I just happened to see a discussion in 'recent' discussions and noticed that it didn't appear on my 'friends started'. I don't really care, it doesn't upset me or anything! It just struck me as odd that they would delete me because we were always very amicable but I'm not going to lose sleep over it or anything!
@mariposaman (2967)
• Canada
6 Jun 09
I am not sure I would notice. I am not sure I would even care. I have noticed I like a few people more than others, but I have to confess I have not become bosom buddies with anyone here and would probably not even notice if they had quit posting. There are so many people here I cannot kepp track of them all. E-friends are nice, but they are not the same as ones you can hug, kiss and smell, and go out for lunch with and gossip. Well the gossip part you could with e-friends I guess if you knew them well enough and had enough friends in common.
• Canada
6 Jun 09
I guess the net phrase is BFF best friends forever, not bosom buddies, I should have remembered.
• United States
6 Jun 09
Ehhh. Lets just put oit this way.. if you thought that the person was your friend then you see they deleted you then you should just let it go, because obviouslly they are not your friend and you wouold more thatn likley be better off wtihout them in your life :)
@jesssp (2739)
• Canada
8 Jun 09
Well, since this is just Mylot they aren't 'in my life' and I'm not bothered by it; they aren't really 'friends' in the same sense as people I actually know. I was just asking others whether or not they have experienced the same thing and how it made them feel.
@underdogtoo (9589)
• Philippines
6 Jun 09
I have no clue if anyone has deleted me or not. It does not show on my profile or anything. I have so many friends it is hard to keep track of those who are active and those who are just taking a vacation. Cheers!!
@jesssp (2739)
• Canada
8 Jun 09
I was just a fluke that I noticed, it does get hard to keep track!
@doggyhouz (548)
• United States
6 Jun 09
I wouldn't worried. If they were true friends it wouldn't happen. It usually someone you just meet or "just" know. So if you think about; you just can't accept someone "dissing" you??? Idk but it just isn't worth worrying. Dwelling is the matter of just letting go.
@jesssp (2739)
• Canada
8 Jun 09
I'm not dwelling on it or worried about it, it was just a topic put up for discussion.
@pyewacket (44032)
• United States
6 Jun 09
I rarely will delete someone unless they turn out to be real offensive to me, or decide to use the PM system to spam me with money making schemes but otherwise I keep people on my list. But yes. One time I did a discussion that became pretty heated and several people that had me as their friend and who disagreed with my viewpoint deleted me...I never asked them ask a friend again since I felt it was kind of petty of them to delete me just because I had a different viewpoint about something
@jesssp (2739)
• Canada
8 Jun 09
I don't know if I've ever deleted anyone but I'm pretty sure I would only do it if they were offensive or spamming, like you said. I really don't think I would delete someone just because they didn't agree with me; you're right, that is petty. I can't see deleting someone because they didn't respond to my discussions either because I don't think I would ever notice!
@myskina (182)
• China
6 Jun 09
well , never mind , just let't go . everybody has their own wishes , no one want to purposely care that , that's to tired for us i think , just let it go , get to know new friend and forget someone who do not worth you remember , you can be good and have a happy end . have a good day , friend
@jesssp (2739)
• Canada
8 Jun 09
I'm not worried about it or upset by it, it's just a topic for discussion :)
• United States
6 Jun 09
I have noticed many times that my so called friends have deleted me, but I do not even bother to find out why. Most of the time its because I do not reply, but other than that, one time that I asked one of my "friends" whu she deleted me, she told me that it was because her boyfriend kept looking at my pictures and she did not like that. When I have been deleted, I figure they just do not want me ther anymore and just let it go, because if I think about it I just get mad and I figure that that is not worth my time.
@jesssp (2739)
• Canada
8 Jun 09
Wow, that's all happened on Mylot and you only have 5 posts??!!
@dragon54u (31628)
• United States
5 Jun 09
I don't know how I'd tell if I was deleted! I don't have contact with most of my "friends", there is a small core whose discussions come to my mailbox. The rest of them, I never hear from so that's about 25 out of 350-300 people. So I have no idea if anyone has deleted me--it certainly wouldn't be because I didn't reply to any of their stuff. I think it might hurt my feelings a little and make me wonder why but if I hadn't insulted anyone I don't think I'd lose sleep over it. Unless it was someone I regularly "talked" with here!
@jesssp (2739)
• Canada
8 Jun 09
I just noticed by chance when I saw a person's discussion in 'recent' and realized that it didn't show up in 'friends started'. I don't think that I would notice normally but for whatever reason I clearly remembered adding them (or them adding me). I don't know that it really hurts my feelings, it mostly just makes me curious as we didn't seem to clash at all.
@Jayrent (127)
• Philippines
6 Jun 09
I don't notice it as of this time because i do not have many friends yet. Well if someone requested me as their friend, i will try to respond on their post, and i may feel sorry if they delete me. But it is okay, i have nothing to do, because they can choose who will be their friend.:)
@trose7 (247)
• United States
6 Jun 09
It doesn't matter to me if someone deletes me. If they delete me then they probably had there reasons, and if they didn't have a reason then they are no friend of mine.
@britt_200 (1227)
• United States
6 Jun 09
i dont ever notice...i assume some ppl have deleted me... i dont ever really notice...maybe because i have so many already or because i dont check friends as much as i do discussions who knows? but i dont ever really check or notice lol so i guess i just let it go
@spalladino (17921)
• United States
6 Jun 09
I've been here for a long time and have well over 300 friends so, no, I wouldn't notice if someone deleted me. I keep my notifications off for the most part...with the exception of my daughter and two personal friends of hers/mine who joined under her...so I don't follow links to discussions.
• India
5 Jun 09
It has not heppened with me and surely dont want that anyone should cut me off fron their friends list. After all is anyone is offensive an drude in discussions he will get deleted. At the sam etime one simply needs to ensure that he is not racist and hurting others.
• United States
5 Jun 09
No, for i care not, as i enjoy the interplay off all concerned. Mylot and life is to be enjoyed.