Would you end a friendship because your mate does not approve of it?

I share that too. I control my friendship with men to avoid situations. I am not going to stay away or run from them but just try not to put myself in situations that could cause conflict.

Communication is always important and should always be the means for getting through to people. I would always try first to make things work even if it is to just be civil. when you have people in your life who are good to you, always try to make things work. If they care about your feelings they will try too.

For me.. it should never be my mate's choice. I need to consider his feeling and work towards a resolve but I would not let him choose my friends, the same way I would not choose his. We will talk and decide together that how we handle situations with people in our individual lives and respect that as long as the friends don't try to undermine and hurt us in what we share if we have a good thing between us. There are people who are in relationships and thier mate does not like there friends. We not not like everyone in this world for one reason or the other because some people just don't mix the same way.

Sometimes people see things that we don't. They see bad friendships and relationship and if many people are teling you the same thing and you know deep within your heart that something is not right then you need to investigate your feelings and test that person to see if everyone is right. There are ways my friend LOL

True friendships are precious and a good relationship is lifelong. Work towards a truce between them if you have a good friend and a great relationship. Talk to both them and ask them to try to accept each other. Show them how special both of them are.

That is a good idea because sometimes it is a simple misunderstand that started the whole bad feeling. Or sometimes it is just that they did not get off to a good start.

Neither would I maintain a friendship with someone who tried to undermine my relatonship and trust me. There are some people out there would pretend to be your friend and work against your happiness. You will know them if you choose to see them. They will always be negative towards your relationship even if your mate is good and loyal to you. It's one thing when they are looking out for you because they see you are being taken advantage of but it is something else if they don't see anything good about the person at all. You need to choose your path even if you make mistakes but when there are too many people involved in your relationship that is trouble. On the other hand I also agree that your mate needs to respect your friends and your need to have friends besides them because there are other people in your life the same way as there are others in theirs.

I agree. You should have a good reason before ending a friendship especially if this person has been supportive andd good to you and it should always be your choice. Some friends are with you through out life and yes.. mates would come and some of them would go. You really have to look at the situation and be objective. Talk to both parties and see what is really going on. I think communication plays a big role because sometimes it could be a simple misunderstanding. However, It is not an easy place to be when you are between your friends and mate. You have to choose sometimes and at some point, someone may get hurt.

If your friend was undermining you then oh yes... definately I would let them go... friendship is important so ending it must always be for a good reason. Sometimes trying to work things out so that you mate will be okay is important when you have a good friend but there is a misunderstanding between them and your mate.

A marriage is supposed to be a lifelong bond-a covenant. it commands a respect and deserves the respect and honour of the two people involved. It stands out and both parties need to work to preseve that. If your mate has issues then you need to work together to deal with it. When you are in a marriage it is no long "me" or "I"; it is now "us' so if he or she is uncomfortable with someone then "we" have a problem. That is the way I look at it when you are married. You have to work through things together. If there are "outside influences" that are causing problems then you need to deal with that. You can't do things to make your mate jealous and even if you think you are not but your mate has jealously issues then you need to help them with that to a degree by avoiding certain situations and especially with persons whom your mate has issues with. There has to be faith and trust and also respect.

We definately have to look at some people to see if they deserve to be friends because some of them are just around us to make sure we are unhappy.

When you take a mate on whatever level, this is someone you are possibly thinking of starting a family with and spending the rest of your life with, if you have a good thing with them. A friend should see that and respect it if you are happy and give you that time and space with that person. If they are not then you need to ask yourself why. If your mate is not happy about it then you need you ask him/her why and really assess the situation. People do things for different reasons. You need to see their motive.