do you think your approachable and friendly?

@queennee (186)
Philippines
June 8, 2009 1:10am CST
hello everyone,sometimes people misjudge us about our identity,behaviour and our characters.the people we mingle everyday sometimes thought us of being not friendly,snobbish,strict and heared feedbacks that we are not approachable.have you been into this kind of experience?hhmm...me always :) though i am really friendly and not strict but people sometimes misjudge me of being one,and that im not approachable,why? its becoz of my looks i guess.im not that really talkative by nature,i just stay in one place and in silence :) im not the initiator type,i wait till one person talks or approach me before i reply or talks back :) not that im snob but i am a shy type of person.maybe that is the reason why people think that im not approachable and not friendly...:) are you this kind of person,or people really misjudge you?
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26 responses
@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
27 Apr 12
In the past I was very shy and people often misjudged me. They thought that I wasn't interested in talking to them, but that was not true, I was just too shy to strike up a conversation with people I didn't know. Today I am much more approachable. I smile and joke a lot and people usually see him as a happy and friendly person. When I started working in the home health care team I met hundreds of patients, and I got much better at talking to the strangers that I met. Today it is not difficult for me to talk to the people that I meet and people often confide in me and tell me a lot of things about themselves or their problems.
@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
27 Apr 12
I meant: People usually see ME as a happy and friendly person
@bhabytart (1116)
• Philippines
8 Jun 09
hello there queennee.....well some of my friends told me that before, they used to think that i am snobbish, and unapproachable person... they say it is because of my looks... but when they came to know me they say it is opposite. as i have said to them ... i am like a lion outside but when you get to know me i am like a rabbit inside... my shyness is often misunderstand as snobbish. but when i get to know the person....wow.... i am a talkative one. i like to laugh because it makes me feel good and i want my friends also to feel good... have a nice day ahead of you...
@queennee (186)
• Philippines
11 Jun 09
yep,your right..looks can be decieving sometimes,people hesitate to approach us becoz its the looks that makes them think that wer'e snob and strict.same with you im a happy person too and loves to laugh a lot :) thanks..good day bhabytart!
@seymiss (622)
26 Jun 09
Im misjudge by many people just because i have a serious face an people are judging me by that without getting to know me first saying all sort of things.But i don't let thier words and silly comment bother me anymore but aside from that im really friendly and likeable once one really get to know me.Will make converstaion with complete stranger too.Im really talkative but it depend on my mood.
@kmaram (2533)
• Philippines
9 Jun 09
we have almost the same situation. People misjudge me by being silent. Same with you i dont do first move to talk to someone if they talk to me then i will talk to them. They said that i am snobbish person but if you just know be you will regret for thinking that. For the people who easily judge person know first the person before saying anything.
• Philippines
11 Jun 09
i think, or rather i know that i am approachable and friendly. i'm the type who you can talk to when you have nobody else to talk to. i am really open to share my thoughts, and maybe that is what other people like about me.
@Shavkat (137215)
• Philippines
5 Dec 12
There is really a dilemma to misjudge someone, since they will definitely react differently. They need to defend their honor against people who can be their nibblers.
• Philippines
8 Jun 09
Yep of Course! Superb and willing to be one of the most friendly persons on earth! =)
@katsmeow1213 (28717)
• United States
8 Jun 09
I know I am not approachable or friendly. I was around 16, we were hanging out at my mom's friend's house. I was bored, there was nothing to do. I guess I looked miserable. Mom's friend looks at me and goes "You'll never get a boyfriend like that, you look like a B*tch" Obviously it stuck with me. I don't smile much. I feel sort of strange just smiling for no reason, so I guess I just look like a B*tch most of the time. I also am not very friendly until I start to get to know someone. I'm shy and reserved, and I'm also quick to judge a person's character (not necessarily as right or wrong, I just know what sorts of people I get along with best). So if you don't fit the profile of someone I think I'd get along with, then I'm not going to go out of my way to be friendly to you. I'll be polite, but not friendly. I'll probably try to get out of the conversation as quickly as possible.
@carrine (2743)
• Philippines
8 Jun 09
no im no that type, because im so friendly and so approachable. and iam the one who will initiate to create a discussion with my seatmate or even in the bank while waiting for my number to be called. or even everywhere. it is because im talkative. i love to talk and i love to gain friends, and sometimes that leads me to some trouble. LOL and i dont want to elaborate more about that. hahahahaa
@itsme_cha (504)
• United States
9 Jun 09
i personally think i am approachable and friendly, i maybe shy type of person at first know me, but people will find out i am very friendly, most of people i know they said i am friendly. happy posting!!!
• United States
8 Jun 09
I am a reserved person until I get to know a person so people usually think Im very shy or snobbish until we get to know each other. My best friend thought we would never get along cause she though she could curse or say not policitaly correct things infront of me cause of how I appeared to be on first meeting,she thought I was so serious but now of-course she knows that is the furthes thing from the truth. I too am not an initiator, so people sometimes may think Im not talkative or not approachable, but sometimes I do intitate like I will ask someone what floor they want when im by the button board in the elevator, or I always ask our mail lady and our UPS guy how their days are going. So yest I think that I am misjudged
• India
8 Jun 09
hi ya u say that v misjudge ur identity and behaviour...its all the way u dress speaks about ur personality...u gals always wann show ur fair skin...that we go to beauty parlour...u wann show that ultimately what happens people misjudge u... right now also in ur photo ur wearing a formals....its the way u speak and the way u live people will predict about u... bye luv shek india
@x_Jo_x (1040)
8 Jun 09
Im usually a very shy person, im getting more confident now at meeting people face to face though. On the internet, im always very friendly, or try to be anyway. No one has ever said to me "youre not friendly and you are not approachable" so i dont know. But generally in what ever situation, online or in person, i try to be friendly, helpful, and suportive to who ever i am with, but also just to enjoy myself and not think too much what others are thinking. Usually i am always with good friends, or other nice people so we just tend to have fun and get on really well
• United States
8 Jun 09
People who know me know I'm not this way in the least, but I've been told my close friends and even my mother, that I'm not an approachable person...I don't give off a good first impression, I guess. I'm the kind of person that if I don't have anything to talk to you about, I don't talk to you. It's not that I don't like you or think you look funny, I just simply don't have anything to say. I've never been one for small talk.
@mikeysmom (2088)
• United States
8 Jun 09
i know that i am friendly and approachable but many others are very unreceptive to my friendliness so i have learned to more or less keep to myself. if someone engages me in conversation of course i will chat back and be friendly but i do not seek out others as i used to because i have found that many times i would smile at someone and they would not smile back and when i say hi to someone and they do not respond in kind it really irks me so i really am less friendly than i used to be. to be honest i feel less social these days anyway. i am really happier in my own home with my own things and just my family around me.
• Philippines
8 Jun 09
Hmm I don't really talk much because of my stutter but I'm not an unfriendly guy. But it does take me some time before I can warm up to a person
@med889 (5941)
8 Jun 09
Some people still misjudge me for what I am not and before I was really feeling ba but now I seldon bother about their comments, If my boss tells me to ask someone to do a job for him, I should be doing so and then the other person starts formulating gossips on me being an arrogant and selfish girl. But those who know me can say the right thing. I am extrovert by nature, I make friends very easily and I selom care about the gossips on me now.
• Philippines
8 Jun 09
people thought im a snob and superior when they first see me. they have negative comments about me for people who see me but never talked to me. maybe because of my eyes. But you can ask people who talked to me at their first meeting, they never thought i am nice and easy to talked to. that they can get along with me instantly.
@geniustiger (1694)
• Philippines
8 Jun 09
I am approachable and smiling to everyone even first met If I'd like also the person as I look. I say this because I amazed that I can have many friends because I will not too choosy for it. Even tho we are just met then I felt she is good , I also be warm and happy to meet them. They already trust me , though we just talk and met. They say im approachable, friendly and respectful
• United States
8 Jun 09
I deal with that also. I am a shy person and people always make remarks that I'm snobbish or something of that nature. I just like to sit back and get to know how people are before I open up. I have trouble trusting people because of a few things I've went through, so I guess I'm just not automatically everyone's best friend. I think it's wrong to judge someon before getting to know them, but I am really friendly and outgoing once I open up to people. My in laws still think I'm that way, but in all the years I've been with my husband they've made it impossible for me to relax and open up to trust them.