Do you pre judge anyone who is overweight?

@dloveli (4366)
United States
June 8, 2009 6:10am CST
I, myself, am not a small person. I am what people would call fat, I guess. I have not ever been extremely skinny. I see so many situations where because people are extremely overweight that people automatically assume that overweight people are dirty, or lazy. Im sorry but that isnt always the case. I do think there is a big difference between heavy and super morbidly obese. I think that if someone is at the point where they can no longer think of anything except their next meal that there is a problem. THese days someone who weighs 150 isnt necessrily big. My daughter is 150 and she is a size 10. I think that sizes and shapes of individuals have increased over the years. No matter what a person weighs they should be treated with respect! Whats your take on this?
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@MsTickle (25180)
• Australia
15 Jun 09
It's like a dog chasing it's tail I think...many overweight people have issues with personality disorders and low or no self esteem. This latter because they have been horribly abused mentally, physically, spiritually. If this is not the case then there is a health issue that causes the obesity. I don't care who you are, everyone deserves respect and kindness, While I think it's hard to give some people respect, like criminals(murderers, terrorists and paedophiles). It's my belief that if everyone treated everyone right we would have no criminals or fat people. It's all about how you are raised.
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@MsTickle (25180)
• Australia
16 Jun 09
I've often looked at big people who can run, bend their knees, climb, kneel down, run up stairs. It makes me wonder how come they have so much mobility when I have so little. My weight gain has really slowed me down from being very active to being extrememly inactive.
@dloveli (4366)
• United States
16 Jun 09
You are partly right. THere are some people that use weight to hide behind. THis way they dont have to deal with issues in their past. The other side of that is that some of us weren't abused, no disorders, nothing. We are just set up that way. I once got down to about 150 and I looked horrible. My ideal weight was 165. Its funny what used to be big is no longer. My physician was telling me that statistics arent as useful as they were in the past because there are so many mixed races now. In some races they are known for their higher weights and in some their tallness. It all boils down to health. As long as people are healthy than nothing else matters.
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• United States
9 Jun 09
nope.i don't prejudge anybody. if i like somebody,i like them.has nothing to do with anything else. i have one friend who is BBW and she is gorgeous(and doesn't believe me when i tell her that).it breaks my heart when she calls herself bad things i don't know why she lets media ideals upset her like that.
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@dloveli (4366)
• United States
16 Jun 09
I am not a size 7 myself. I used to be bigger than I am now.I just think that you are who you are. For years I was embarassed of what I looked like and to tell you the truth I wasnt the biggest chic on the block. Compared to the others I was a stick. lol. DIdnt matter i hated the way looked. I realized about 8 months ago for reasons unknown, that I did have a good style and people didnt care what size I was. I gave myself a makeover, hair and clothes. For the first time in my life I feel like a hottie.lol. I have judged people in the past and it has always turned out to be a mistake. Now I give every one a chance. If they blow it, I assure you its not because of their weight. I try to treat people as I want to be treated. SO far so good. Tell your friend I said its true. Besides everyone wants meat on their bones. No one enjoys just the bone. Happy myLotting dl
@rainbow (6761)
16 Jun 09
I think that everyone is a person and before lifestyle and mental reasons for their weight are personal to them. My partner was brought up that food = love and hates that he struggles to not eat treats when he feels down, we all have reasons and I don't mind being called a fatty one little bit, I am just me being who I am. I don't judge others and think the health reasons are more worrying than what number a clothes size is. e.g. I have been heavier than I should be since I had my kids. Before Christmas I was over 15 1/2 stones (217lbs) and am now 181lbs (13 stone 1lb). I lost the weight by choice but now feel more conscious of the fact that I am overweight than I did when I was bigger. I am able to do my everyday task and exercise and garden but I did when I was bigger too; in fact I have more aches and pains now. As long as you are comfortable being you who cares about everyone else, lol?
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• United States
8 Jun 09
I do not judge anyone by their outward appearance. I not only think it is cruel but also extremely ignorant.
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@rosedust82 (2066)
• Philippines
9 Jun 09
I don't think it's right to judge someone just because of their physical appearance. Although I am not fat, most of my family members are, including my mom and yet I have never judged them. I love them to bits actually. My fiance sometimes has a habit of commenting when he sees someone who is big and I would often remind him that it's not right... I'd later ask him if I'd turn out to be that big in the future, would he do the same. Well, he got the point after. Lol. But there, as you put it, people should be treated with respect regardless of how they look.
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@dloveli (4366)
• United States
9 Jun 09
I have people like that in my life as well. I, myself am heavy so I know what its like to feel like the odd man out. I am not huge but when you're not a size 10 some consider you fat. I have never been skinny but I am not morbidly obese either. I think there is a grey area that people dont think about. I am the grey area. I am a size 16. I am happy with me. I used to be so depressed with myself. I was trying to be what others wanted me to be. then it happened! I met alejandro. He loved me for me and that was all it took. I started to walk and began to get toned. I changesd my views on what beauty is. Beauty really is in the eye of the beholder. dl.
@dopamin (15)
• Germany
8 Jun 09
I don't judge people by their weight, that's stupid. How people behave, what they do and what they say, everything together, their character, that's what defines a person. One of my best friends is of high weight (while I am rather skinny). He's become one of my best friends because of his character. On the other hand, I've seen bigger people who I couldn't stand, but that's not because of their weight. If you don't blame your weight on all your problems (what I don't assume you do) and if you happy the way you are, that's fine.
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@dloveli (4366)
• United States
10 Jun 09
I do agree with you that its best to judge based on character as in the case of your friend. However I do know how it feels to be bigger than. However I dont know what its like to be disable due to weight. I know that I am happy and some of my larger friends are happy with the way they are. But I do think that being happy is good but being alive and able to interact with society is great. The more overweight the more unhealthy. Regardless of someones weight its their character that should be judged. YOu are definately the type of friend I would like to have. thanks dl.
• India
9 Jun 09
Hi. I myself have this tendency of taking 'big people' as not 'my type'. I am quite athletic and agile, quick on my feet and like people to be that way. Tough I am trying to quit this habit of mine, of thinking not so good of big people, as I have seen some really fit people of that kind as well, but I guess it will take some time. Having said that I never considered a fat person to be filthy.
• United States
9 Jun 09
i agree everyone no matter what physical condition they are in deserves respect. Its only a health concern, i use to be obese but took steps to lose alot of the weight and before i had trouble breathing and had pains all the time.
@suzzy3 (8342)
9 Jun 09
Off course they should they are just the same as anybody else.Everybody deserves respect it is a basic human right.
• Malaysia
9 Jun 09
Yes, i agree with you. But no matter how many we bring this upfront there are still lots of people make fun of overweight people. They just can't shut their mouth.
@kryzell (921)
• Philippines
10 Jun 09
Weight is not an issue for me. Especially if one is heavier due to his or her height, makes sense, right? Seriously, as long as your weight does not get in the way of your functions, then it shouldn't affect you that much. Some people judge other person according to how they look including their weight... and I don't want to sound hypocrite by saying that I have never judged someone according to their looks. However, when it comes to weight../ I seldom put an issue to it. My mom is big... my sister is way bigger, and I have cousins who are as heavy, and we're all fine with it. They even tease me being the only one that has a slimmer figure.
@cainam (493)
• Philippines
9 Jun 09
i don't condemn people because of their weight. most big people don't like their situation and are frustrated of getting slimmer.. there are also times that people are fat because it's just in their genes.. i think it's really wrong to make them feel unwanted. they are still people like us. no body is perfect and it just happens that their weight is the one that causes their imperfection.
• Philippines
11 Jun 09
i don't not judge them. i actually advocate not judging them. i know that it will do us (me and the overweight person) no good if i judge or discriminate them. they are the ones who usually have low self-esteem because of the stereotypes nowadays so it would really help if their friends are there to boost their confidence, and not to judge them.
• Poland
9 Jun 09
just because people don't like your appearance,doesnt mean you have to feel bad about yourself.I know it sounds cheesy,but in the end you can either change yourself,change the people or simply dont give a f...k :)
@sharksfin (1091)
• Philippines
9 Jun 09
Pre-judge in a sense that people automatically think that if someone is big, this person is either lazy or dirty? I guess many people tend to be judgmental but there is nothing we can do about this. All we can do about is what are we going to do about our sitch. If one is considered big or if people are judging this person for his/her size, then, I think he/she has to do something for him/herself. Not to please people, though. Do this so he/she won't feel bad about him/herself. We should help ourselves to get out of something. If one is not comfortable with how people are treating him/her, he/she should stop sulking about how people are so mean and judgmental. He/she should learn how to help him/herself not to be judged. Whenever I see someone obese or big for his/her weight...esp if the person's a she...the first thing that gets into my head is, why won't she take care of herself. Nowadays, most culture would set standards as to what is attractive. Everyone's going skinny. Not that I am saying everyone should follow what the crowd dictates but if it doesn't make you feel good about yourself, then, why would you rather endure the mockery when you can do something about your situation? Now, if you're happy with how you look, who cares that you're big? You don't have to explain to everyone that 150 is just fine for your height. It's not what others think of you that should matter. It's how you think of yourself...this is all that matters.
@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
9 Jun 09
I try to never judge anyone who is overweight. Alot of people can help themselves. I have judged a few times though because I have seen overweight people and they do not do anything to help themselves at all.
• Philippines
9 Jun 09
I don't judge people on their physical appearance.I know some overweight people who are quite cool and funny.a person's physical appearance and weight doesn't really dictate on who he or she is.I know some people who are skinny but treat people like crap.skinny doesn't necessarily mean being nice.
@raydogze (42)
• United States
9 Jun 09
I do not judge anyone based on weight.
@jules67 (2788)
• Philippines
9 Jun 09
I strongly believe that it is inhuman to judge people based on their looks, whether she be overweight or not, small or big. Personality is not solely based on the physical appearance. What you are as a person counts more. The bottom line here is do not judge a person if you do not want to be judged yourself.
@DrRac0 (126)
• United States
9 Jun 09
nope