how would you feel?
By italysmom
@italysmom (308)
United States
June 8, 2009 2:22pm CST
This weekend was our family reunion. We have an uncle that rents the camping spots for everyone, which is quite nice.. but.. (i personally dont mind paying for my own.. but hes sweet for doing so)... well, my aunt.. has always treated my grandma.. her mother... crappy... and she seldom comes to the reunions. She decided since she could camp free.. she would go... well.. then she calls my mom and I and ask us to ask our uncle if he cares if she brings a batch of people.. that are not related.. and horrific people.. they drink they curse... they do drugs.. and they fight all the time.. we were irritated. and told her we woul dnot ask.. so she tried to sneak them in. That evening, they showed up and we all t hought it would be fine for them to visit... but they started to put up a tent... My grandma went and told them they were not welcome to put up a tent as this was a reunion. Then my Aunt starting talking crap to my Grandma.. and saying that I had said a bunch of stuff that I had not said. I tried being quiet as long as I could.. until.. I could take no more and I simply told her I did not say that.. and your not going to say I did. How would it make you feel if someone tried to bring horrible people like that to a "family reunion"?
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@dreamr802 (985)
• United States
9 Jun 09
That is awful. If it's a family reunion you should definitely not bring other people other than your significant other. I don't understand how your aunt can be that way towards her mother (your grandma). If anyone spoke to my grandma like that...my grandma would not hesitate to put that person in their place.
@italysmom (308)
• United States
9 Jun 09
sometimes I wish my grandma would be more agressive to take up for herself, but Grandma has always loved all of her children.. no matter what... and I feel she just really longs for her to love her back.... which will never happen.
@renemouche (843)
• United States
8 Jun 09
I would feel horrible if that happened at my family reunion. I cant believe your aunt was so disrespectfull as to bring people who weren't family members to the reunion. I mean I could see if the people she brought were not going to cause disruption to the goings on of the reunion but clearly they did.
But still its disrespectfull to bring people to free load off of the food and lodging that everyone who is particapaiting in the reunion has paid for and provided.
@dfinster (3528)
• United States
9 Jun 09
What your aunt did was absolutely terrible. And how incredibly disrespectful of her to treat her mother that way. Who does she think she is anyway? If my mom or my aunt would have talked to my grandma that way I would not have been able to sit back and be able to control myself like you did. I give you lots of credit for being able to do that, because I certainly couldn't have done it. I can't believe that she hardly ever shows up and then when she does she wants to bring people along who aren't part of the family and just impose and be so rude to everybody in the family. I can't even begin to imagine asking or even thinking about inviting people that weren't part of the family. That's totally tacky.
It sounds like your grandma would believe you though when you told her you didn't say the things your aunt accused you of. Sounds like most people in your family wouldn't believe your aunt. Nice way to ruin a family reunion. Well, hopefully after this one your aunt won't be coming to another reunion for a while and then you can all enjoy yourselves at the next one.
@italysmom (308)
• United States
9 Jun 09
thanks for your comment... luckly, none of us let her ruin our time... or at least the majority of it. There were points in there where she did.. but over all no. The weather also got bad that night.. and mom and Italy and I decided to try to camp in a tent.. as it costs less gas to travel that way... so we could see if we could deal with it.. but the weather broke the tent, and it come down while we were in it.. and I saw my aunt in her camper watching and laughing.. while my daughter was screaming and crying because she was so scared... so as far as I am concerned she is no longer part of my family, that might be a bad attitude on my part, but... its how Ifeel
@sjvenden27 (1840)
• United States
9 Jun 09
I would not like it one bit.. First of all these people are not related. So they should not be there... it is a family thing.. Second of all, it sounds like your mom like to free load on other people, and bring friends to join her.. That is not right... Then to lie about it to your grandma.. If it was one of my family gatherings, I would ask kindly that she didnt even bother attending the one for the following year.. You would rather spend your time with family, there is a different time and place for the type of party that your mother would like.
@italysmom (308)
• United States
10 Jun 09
It was my Aunt that did the meanness.. but.. I agree with your thoughts towards her... Thanks so much for giving your opinion...
@flzmlady (418)
• China
9 Jun 09
met this situation many times.
there are always some people who tried to take advantage of others and bring troubles.
well,maybe next time you simply dont tell her about this family reunion,that'll be much better.i know that is a family reunion that supposed to have all your family,but this reunion is to bring happiness and fun, not someone(s) who would completely ruin it.
also you can ask other family members about their opinion and try to make a decision.
@italysmom (308)
• United States
10 Jun 09
I would love to not invite her, however, the "elders" believe all should be invited, they are not so used to people being so naughty. I just wish she would grow up.. and to think shes 60 yrs old.. and she behaves like that.
@ann130 (8)
• United States
9 Jun 09
It shouldn't have mattered what you said. That was a red herring for your aunt to change the focus from her bad behavior. Who would bring a group of strangers to a family reunion and not even have the decency to pay for them or keep them in line? I suggest next time your family not invite her to these type of events. A person who has no respect for her family should not get to spend time with them.
@tinam13 (839)
• United States
8 Jun 09
That's terrible. I would be extremely irritated and offended that someone involved you like that just to make you look bad. The people that were invited were not meant to be there and they didn't sound welcome. It was wrong of your grandmother to do that and if she didn't want to come she just shouldn't have come. Family reunion means family reunion. You should probably tell your grandma and who ever else started the drama that it wasn't fair and bothered you.
@italysmom (308)
• United States
8 Jun 09
I agree... except it was my aunt... my Grandma is awesome.. she would n ever involve me like that... my aunt is mean to my grandma... grrrr
@DrRac0 (126)
• United States
9 Jun 09
that's horrible. No one should ever do that especially if they are not paying for their own things nor if they were not invited at all.
If she wants to camp with her friends, then it would be a good idea to do it seperately on a different day or at a different spot.
I would have kicked them out myself.
@italysmom (308)
• United States
9 Jun 09
I feel so much better that other people.. actually everyone so far... agrees that it was just completely rude. thanks for responding
