If you're in my dad's situation, would you get mad at me?
By iskayz
@iskayz (5420)
Philippines
June 9, 2009 5:26am CST
I know it is very common and just a natural reaction for a person sound asleep and caused to wake, to get up angry or irritated. Especially if we wake up wee hours in the morning, due to some noises or when another person is waking us up. It’s understandable if we get angry or irritated when awakened in the middle of our sleep. But if you’re the person trying to wake up somebody at wee hours in the morning, would you get angry if the person is hard to wake up? I mean do you have the right to get angry to someone you’re trying to wake or should I say disturbing someone from his/her sleep?
The reason why I’m asking this is because of the incident that happened between me and my father last night. My father goes home very late. His earliest would be by 11pm to 12am. Sometimes 1-2am and he does that everyday and am usually the one who wakes up and lets him in. The bedrooms are upstairs and when you’re upstairs you can’t hear the phone ringing, even the doorbell especially when the doors are closed. I didn’t know that my dad has arrived and that he had rang the phone, he said 200 times already and no one in the house is waking up. I woke up because I heard the gates banging and stones being thrown inside the garage and it’s located just below my bedroom window. I thought I was only dreaming and I didn’t know how long it took me to finally awake and got to my senses that someone is trying to wake me up.
Now what I don’t understand is that my father got so mad at me. He was complaining why no one hears the phone ringing and the doorbell. I’ve explained to him everything but still he just can’t understand. My feelings got hurt because we fought. I felt he is so unfair to get mad the fact that by trying to wake us up he is actually asking a favor. I know it is our responsibility but he must understand a person at sleep can’t sometimes hear what’s happening around him/her. Besides, this is not the first time he got mad if no one wakes up easily when he arrives. I was really hurt and felt that he only thinks of himself. And because of this I don't like to talk to him for a while..
2 responses
@kelevra36 (19)
• United States
10 Jun 09
What about getting him a copy of the key..? I understand this situation perfectly from both sides--my boyfriend fell asleep one night I was working late, and I tried his phone probably about twenty times, but he still didn't wake up. I knew where he kept a copy of the key though, so I was able to get in. You could even leave your own key somewhere hidden and tell your dad about it so next time he's able to let himself in rather than depending on the phone and the doorbell to wake everyone up. It's not good to sleep in segments anyway--you wake up feeling just as exhausted as you would if you had slept only a couple hours. I think it's a bit unfair of him to get so angry with you. He was understandably frustrated at not being able to get in the house, but it's not really your fault if you don't wake up...
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@strawberrychocodahi (4818)
• Philippines
9 Jun 09
I know the feeling of being disturbed when asleep. But i am the type of person who wakes up very easily at a slight noise and movement around me. I must have gotten that on my mom because she's also like that, very active and sensitive to noise and she wakes up easily.
But just try to understand the situation if you were in your dad's shoes. That he has been there trying to wake you up guys and nobody is waking up. He said that he tried to ring the phone a lot of times and even the doorbell but to his dismay, nobody is responding. So if you were out the door and trying to wake everyone inside the house to let you in, you will also feel the same thing like your dad. Like in our saying "mantika matulog" sleeps like a lard..
Anyway, don't get that negative angry feeling towards your dad. I know he is wrong too but it is better to have a good understanding rather than being stiff and shallow. It will never solve anything if you two would be snubbing each other inside the house, it's not a good picture too. Happy Mylotting.
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@iskayz (5420)
• Philippines
9 Jun 09
Well I know it's not such a good idea not to talk to him. It's just that he has done it to me several times already.. I am not the type of person who sleeps like lard. Normally I wake up easily. Sometimes even before he gets out of his car, the moment I hear his car parking outside the house I get out of bed and open the gate fast. Even before he could ring the doorbell cause I know he's the type who doesn't want to wait and easily gets mad. But there are times that I just feel so sleepy and tired after several nights of having to wake up to let him in.
Especially after doing the house chores and other stuffs there are times that I don't know I have really felt asleep soundly. Maybe because my body is just too tired. And he must understand that.
I really feel his being inconsiderate the fact that I tried hard to wake up for him every single night. He's not the only one who goes home late. I still have two other brothers that goes home very very late. And not being able to sleep well at nights, without having to wake up always in the middle of my sleep is tiring. I can't help it but to get mad at him too.
