You dont want anyone near you when your sleeping?

Philippines
June 11, 2009 11:18pm CST
I was married before and during that i really dont want my husband or anyone in my bed when im sleeping. I am not really comfortable when im sharing bed with anyone. I dont know, but all i want is many pillows and myself in the bed. But of course since i am married i have to endure my husband presence in my bed. What about you, do you like someone in your bed or do you feel sometimes that you really want to be alone while sleeping?
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26 responses
12 Jun 09
i need good quality sleep (thats just the way i am). i have a king-size bed in an air-conditioned room all to myself. i sleep great. when i try to sleep with my gf in her single-bed..it doesnt work for me. i would say to you that you shouldnt compromise on the quality of your sleep for anyone..if you're describing your husband's presence as something to endure, there's a problem.
• Philippines
15 Jun 09
then why not invite your girlfriend to sleep with you in your bed than spending the night at her place. lol, anyways, so your telling me that you dont want your wife to sleep beside you when you get married. yes, i know we have problem since i dont want him in my bed is a big problem already so how much more spending my whole life with him.
15 Jun 09
im afraid i grew up in the UK..and i have a very me-first attitude. i love me. thats just the way i am.
@jpso138 (7851)
• Philippines
12 Jun 09
I cannot sleep well when someone is very close to me when I am sleeping. I also move a lot. So usually when I sleep, I am alone on my bed. If someone is beside me sharing the bed, I usually move to the edge to create a gap so that I can sleep well and so as not to disturb the one sleeping beside me.
@jpso138 (7851)
• Philippines
21 Jun 09
You are right. That is why, now, I have another mattress beside my bed. I sleep on the bed while my wife and child sleep on the mattress. Sometimes I sleep on the mattress and they sleep on the bed.
• Philippines
12 Jun 09
yes, that what usually happen to anyone who dont want to be disturb when sleeping. but since you dont want other people to be disturb, you will sleep at edge but still since you are aware that you are in the edge your sleep is not that deep. so yu dont have a good night sleep.
@balasri (26537)
• India
12 Jun 09
I always need someone in my bed especially my wife most of the time.But sleeping I always like to do it alone with my lovely bunch of pillows.
• Philippines
12 Jun 09
well its different situations, i know what you mean. well you have to be used to sleeping with your wife, since you are married couple or else you talk to your wife that sometimes you want to sleep alone.
• Philippines
15 Jun 09
I don't mind sleeping with someone like when i share my bed with my female cousins when we have our family reunion. But now that I am married, i don't even have to worry on sleeping with my hubby because that is part of being married. And i get used to it, i feel so alone if no one is with me in bed specially at night. I do love to cuddle soft pillows, but i also like the presence of my hubby beside me most. As for me, I don't like the idea of sleeping lonesome. I have been sleeping alone for 26 years and I did not like it. Now that I am married, It feels even better that someone is hugging me too and proven that pillows and teddy bears won't be hugging you back
• Philippines
15 Jun 09
lucky for you that you find the man that you want to be with all the time, most especially in bed. yes, pillows and teddy bears will not hug you back, cuddle you or kiss you back. i just hope that there will come a time that i find the guy that i will be willing to share my bed and my night with him.
@PeacefulWmn9 (10420)
• United States
13 Jun 09
If the person is not a restless, noisy sleeper, I love to cuddle, especially on a chilly night. I find it comforting. But when someone snores or tosses and turns or takes up the whole bed, then I would prefer to sleep by myself and be comfortable. Good topic : ) Karen
• Philippines
15 Jun 09
yes, it uncomfortable sleeping with people who toss and turn and sometimes talking in his/her sleep. you will not get a good night sleep and it will make not to happy in the morning. i snore and that is one of the reason why i dont want anyone in my bed or in my room so i cannot disturb other from their sleep.
@gridle (44)
• China
13 Jun 09
so terrible! I can't understand why you say"i have to endure my husband presence in my bed". if me.it will a good thing to share bed with mywife,yah,maybe everyone has their own idea!
• Philippines
15 Jun 09
i know lot of people will be shocked when i said that and i know lots of men will react to that, maybe some will think it also that, maybe my wife or husband also have the same situation. But yes, its actually a problem to me. I also remember that i have to wait for him to be sound asleep before i will go to bed or i will be first to go to bed. well now that i am single again it makes me more happy sleeping alone and enjoying my singlehood again
@naka75 (795)
• Singapore
25 Jun 09
I am a person who can only sleep alone and certainly do not want to have anyone around me when I am sleeping, except my wife if I am getting married. I just don't feel comfortable as I have this feeling of being watched when I am asleep, or trying to make some unpleasant sounds. I enjoy quiet in my sleeping environment and it is where I can get a good rest.
• United States
12 Jun 09
I don't like sleeping with another person in the bed. My bedroom has both a queen size bed, and a twin in it [good thing it's a large room], Both my husband and I sleep better if we are sleeping alone. We do okay, sleeping together, when we are somewhere that only one bed is available. I think much of this is habit. We all adjust to what we need to do.
• Philippines
12 Jun 09
i hope i can find a husband that will allow me to sleep in different bed sometimes. i know the reason why i dont want someone in my bed because i know i snore and i do lot of things to eliminate it but i still do. So as much as possible i dont want to disturb somebody because of this and i dont want to missed my good night sleep because i have to be aware of other people in my bed.
@jaisundar (215)
13 Jun 09
In my school days i use to sleep alongwith my dad. So now i dont experience any discomfort sleeping with my husband. But to have a sound sleep its better you sleep alone.
@ddfreedie (690)
• India
25 Jun 09
iam quite opposite...i want someone to be at the side of me when iam sleeping..although it changed at the course of time still i prefer someone to be at my side...it makes me feel protected and accompanied... happy mylotting
• United States
12 Jun 09
actually it depends on my mood but mostly I'm very sensitive and hear everything..and can't concentrate in sleeping..
• Philippines
12 Jun 09
my friend is same with you, she is sensitive to the noise around her everytime she sleep. so she gets crazy when someone is snoring at her side. so when we are having a night out and we need to sleep together, we let her sleep first and when she is in deep sleep, thats the time we will have our own sleep. see how hard it is for me.
@khayshenz (1384)
• United States
25 Jun 09
I only sleep with the bf on weekends - that's because we don't see each other during the week ( it's a semi-long distance relationship). I do notice however, that I sleep better and deeper when I sleep next to him. I'm the type of person that is easily worried and gets paranoid, for no reason (I guess too much scary movies. Whatevs!) That's why I'm a light sleeper. But when he's next to me - I feel protected, so I'm more relaxed, and I sleep better.
@phyrre (2317)
• United States
12 Jun 09
I'm so used to sleeping next to my fiance that I actually can't sleep well if he's not there, so I guess I need someone else in my bed. I think I'm used to sleeping with other people in my bed, though. When I was younger we only had one bed in the house, so I had to share with my mother since it was only the two of us. :) I think sometimes my fiance wishes he slept alone, though. I like to toss and turn so I always ending up hitting him during the night or nearly pushing him off the bed!
• Philippines
12 Jun 09
that is also one of the reason why i dont want someone in my bed who moves a lot when sleeping. i snore but i never toss and turn when i sleep. i was in one position when im sleeping. i was sleeping in my side and when i wake i still have the same position. Maybe its really getting used to it.
• Philippines
13 Jun 09
my self, i actually use to sleeping alone in bed , why because i dont have someone to slept with.. you know what loner guy does..
• United States
12 Jun 09
I dont mind my fiance being in the bed but whenever I am ready to go to sleep I want my space and that is why we got a king size bed. We dont have to really worry about being in eachothers space since we are pretty much the same about that.
@sameroad (3179)
• United States
13 Jun 09
I kind like having someone sleep next to me but i also enjoy sleeping along. my dog always sleeps with me though so i am never really sleeping along anymore... but still its different lol but i really like and miss sleeping next to someone and cuddling them! i can't wait to do it again.
@dawnald (85135)
• Shingle Springs, California
12 Jun 09
I don't like to be woken up and my husband has an annoying habit of doing that too often. So yeah, I'd really rather be alone if I can't get a good night's sleep.
@reckon21 (3479)
• Philippines
13 Jun 09
I sleep with my father in bed. Good thing is he doesn't snore neither do I. By the way my father is already 84 years old. He is my bed mate since a long time.
@zzyw87 (1254)
• Philippines
13 Jun 09
Sometimes I feel like I want to be alone. Sometimes I want someone to cuddle with. When I sometimes snore because of a very tiring and hectic day or when I talk in my sleep sometimes, I get really embarrassed even if it is normal. When this happens, then I don't want any people near me when I am sleeping. But if I just sleep soundlessly, then I would want my husband to be beside me.
@4u2enjoy (300)
• Malaysia
12 Jun 09
For me both is comfortable but when i'm really tired for the day i rather sleep alone. It's just because i'm a little messy on the bed when i'm exhausted for the day. Haha ! So how did you finally endure your husband presence? Is it hard?