Waiting for the wrong person

Face Book is a place where any face from the past can turn up. About one month ago I gota message from my ex boyfriend. We had a quick update which was interesting. He moved to a different area and one year ago changed careers. He lives with his girlfriend. I didn't feel upset hearing from him. He is a decent guy. Around eighteen months ago I got a message off my ex husband. We had got divorced in 1999. He gave me a quick update which was in unsettling to my feelings. He had left his home country and was teaching English in Asia. It was awful to hear he had been to my home country and he hadn't contactd me. The guy you describe sounds quite a player. I know a similar guy that changes his girlfriend every few months. He doesn't care about their feelings. He was dating a 45 year old lady. She was hoping to get pregnant. He got bored and went off with a 28 year old lady.

that is one of the dis advantage of being a girl, girls can't express their feelings toward the boy they love because it's usually the boy who courted girls. so girls should just wait. but i think, in your situation, it seems that he has no feelings for you, because if he has, he will court you after breaking up with a lot of girls and then shows interest of you, so just leave him alone and don't expect from him, so you wont be hurt again...

I never did get over my relationship. I just realize it was no hope in it. Things just never lined up. Looking at yours when you first met and did get together, he started seeing some one else without letting you know.This is not a good sign. This is not an honorable man.

it sounds like he is a player... he is not real for you but you are real for him. If he is a good person, then he will not keep dating girls around like that. And you, you should not put yourself in that way at all cuz you can move on without him. He is nothing, forget him and dont take him back otherwise he will hurt you again. If he likes you then these months he called or wanted to see you already but this just an accident of you and him on Facebook. How if you never have facebook? then he will never have any contact with you again right? just be friend with him is better, but dont go further than that... well, it is your decision but if I were you, I will forget him in a relationship way and take him as a friend of mine. If he tries to take you in, I will ignore it for sure.

Another one. What is it about these players that make them so attractive. They go from women to women, breaking their hearts and leaving behind emotional baggage. Why do women fight over them, hoping to be chosen as the one, and they never are. Tell me please.

I just watched an episode with that kind of story last night! What a coincidence! Anyway, it wasn't 100% of what happened but the flow is almost the same. Anyway, I haven't got that situation because I'm a live and let go person. If a person can't be with me, I must move on. Maybe he just wants your company as a close buddy not a relationship buddy. I don't know. You really need to move on, you have to try your best to. In the end, if you stay like that, you'll be such a sore loser. (I really didn't mean that, just a speech) I guess you need to open yourself for other people. It's ok for you to miss what you had, but don't let yourself fall again.

I fell in love with one guy a few months ago. We met with each other in a computer game in 2005.In fact,I knew him already have girlfriend at that time.At that time,I often rang him or wrote him when I felt sad or in a bad mood.I appreciated him very much for his encouragement and his patience to help out the difficulties I troubled in.But we just normal friends. I fell in love with him a few months ago when he told me he liked me.Our ambiguous relationship from then on.I think it's my fault to fell in ambiguous relationship with him since I knew that he had a girlfriend already.But I just can't stop miss him and I really enjoyed the feeling to speak with him.Maybe it sounds extremely childish and unmatured. I was cancelled from his QQ friends after his girlfriend visited my QQ Zone a Sunday morning.I think she found our uncommon relationship. I just addicted in the feeling and happiness he gave me,but I never thought to separate them apart or interfere with their relationship.I was wrong with no doubt. I was not contact with him from then on even I knew his cell phone number,QQ number and blog very well.But I this is the best result to us.Because there is no possible for us to get together. I apologize for my wrong action and at the same time,I thank him to give me a chance to grow up. After we lose contact,I was try to do many things to made myself busy and left no time for me to miss him or felt sad.It has been 3 months past,and I think I can live more happy and wonderful without him,because I feel real now. I wish you can get over from that guy as soon as possible,I give you my best wishes.Just remember the exact one will turn up at the appropriate time~!

I do believe that you should not waste your time and your feelings towards this guy. Obviously, he is not into you. You have known him for four years already, and if he really was carrying some special feelings for you, then he would have told you.

hi i've been in a relationship almost the same like yours, i kept coming back to him, but once i decided to let him go, i did, it was hard but it is harder to stay and feel like you are nothing as if theres nothing out there for you, its miserable. In your situation, the guy cant stay alone without company so he always have somebody with him,its like he dont let himself be alone and enjoy but instead always jump into another relationship from one to another. I dont think hes worth to have you. Let him go, you can still be friend with him but with limitations i mean just a "friend", just like your ordinary friend, dont let your feelings mess up again, you have to make a choice for your self, choose to be with much better guy. Good luck.

He really doesn't seem like the guy you should spend your time waiting for! He is going to keep stringing you along and you are gonna end up hurt worse than you already are. Its just not worth it! My friend was in this same exact situation....she waited and waited for him and eventually they ended up dating. When they broke up she was crushed, she thought he was the perfect guy but really he was just a player! I think it would be best just to stop talking to him and move on....it will save you alot of heartache!

I never met such a man like you do.But one of friends did.I really want you and her to know that since you knew he was the wrong person but why are you stil putting youselves in such situation?All you need to do is to find the right guy!