Do You Know Of Any Men That Write Daily Diaries?

@wolfie34 (26791)
United Kingdom
June 17, 2009 6:13am CST
Following on from my other discussion about whether your partner has read your diary, one of my friends said that I was the only man she knew that wrote a diary, which made me think, is it only females who write diaries? Or do you know of any men that write diaries Do you think it's a masculine thing, men not being open and honest with their feelings and feeling uncomfortable writing about themselves on paper? Do you think it would be much better if men were able to write a diary or a journal and be comfortable writing out their feelings on a daily or weekly basis? When a guy has told you he writes a diary or if you found out that your partner writes a diary what would you think? Would that endear you more to you or do you think he is kind of weird Are you the type that think that men should write diaries and the more men that write diaries the better or do you think that personal diaries are just something that females do in life and that men don't have a clue when it comes to writing
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@worldwise1 (14887)
• United States
17 Jun 09
I can't see where gender would enter into it at all, wolfie. Everyone has feelings, male and female, so it doesn't seem odd to me at all that a man would want to put their feelings down on paper. Keeping a diary or journal is probably the best way to get a handle on what is going on in one's life. It's no different than a man who writes for a living. Writing is good for the soul no matter who does the writing.
@wolfie34 (26791)
• United Kingdom
24 Jun 09
Good point, as always my friend, yes I have always found writing extremely therapeutic, I have started again, a diary of sorts, but not daily, but it does help.
@mimpi1911 (25475)
• India
24 Jun 09
I do a couple of men who write diaries. Both of them are single. One a writer in his own right and another just a normal person but sort of introvert. I think, when I write, I do it to let go a lot of frustrations and that could well be true with them. I really appreciate that you keep diaries. It's better to write it real than to store it in computer. And Wolfie, we are living in an era where writing personal diary is on the verge of extinction. I would appreciate anyone who would write it. Thanks.
@wolfie34 (26791)
• United Kingdom
24 Jun 09
That is true, with technology taking over personal diaries are becoming a thing of the past, it's nearly all blogs now, and I just can't get into them, I don't have the patience or enthusiasm for blogs, I much prefer to write and besides writing is far more therapeutic than typing.
@mimpi1911 (25475)
• India
24 Jun 09
Exactly wolfie! Just imagine how you move your hand along with the lines of the page. The contact is beautiful! keep writing and keep sharing.
@mimpi1911 (25475)
• India
24 Jun 09
Exactly wolfie! Just imagine how you move your hand along with the lines of the page. The contact is beautiful! keep writing and keep sharing.
@MsTickle (25051)
• Australia
21 Jun 09
it's been my experience that this is a girl type thing to do. It's usually pre teen and young teens who write diaries because of all the strange things happening to them, their minds and bodies being so affected by raging hormones. Quite often they can't express themselves or talk to anyone about the things that are happening to them so they keep a diary. However, thinking about it I don't necessarily think it's a girl only thing. Journals are kept by people everyday in all walks of life for various reasons. I guess I was thinking only of my own experience of journal writing. If I think about it, it's mainly men who have kept journals...ship's captains with their ship's log, scientists other researchers, novelists and so on and these have predominantly been male.
@wolfie34 (26791)
• United Kingdom
21 Jun 09
Good old Captain Kirk and his stardate journals! Poets like Keats and Burns, and also Pepys the famous diary writer too. I guess with modern technology it's all done on the computer now, blogs etc...
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@MsTickle (25051)
• Australia
21 Jun 09
Exactly! Now I come to think of it, males DO write more and (don't tell the girls I said this) but it seems to me the men's writing has more substance.
@wolfie34 (26791)
• United Kingdom
24 Jun 09
Don't worry your secret is safe with me ;0)
• India
18 Jun 09
I had no idea that writing journals is a men-only thing. Have you heard of a dream journal? There are so many people, men and women alike, who keep dream journals in an effort to learn lucid dreaming. I don't think writing journals is a gender thing. Maybe women would write more "emotional" and long pieces while men might make shorter entries. But there is nothing like writing diaries is only for females. Cheers and happy Mylotting
@wolfie34 (26791)
• United Kingdom
24 Jun 09
I always forget my dreams, not that I dream that often, although I tend to have a few nightmares, even at my age, so I definitely try and forget those!
@williamjisir (22900)
• China
18 Jun 09
Hello wolfie. I think that it is a personal habit to write or not to write diaries. But it seems that many of my friends have their blogs or QQ space where they write down what they think and experience for others to read. It seems to me that they are some kind of open diaries.
@wolfie34 (26791)
• United Kingdom
24 Jun 09
Hello William, I couldn't get on with blogs to be honest, so many times I have lost what I typed and I just didn't have the patience, besides writing is far more therapeutic for me.
@kellyjeanne (1576)
• United States
18 Jun 09
I think you're right. Writing in a diary has always been considered a feminine thing to do. Mainly, as you say, women are more open about their feelings. If I had a boyfriend whom I found wrote in a diary daily I would think, "Wow! What a forward thinking man"! It would let me know that he's not afraid of his feelings and that he's more in tune to his feelings. I would love such a man................... By the way......... What are you doing for lunch? LOL! Have a great day wolfie! Purrs, Catwoman=^..^= & Mija
@wolfie34 (26791)
• United Kingdom
24 Jun 09
A man who is more in touch with his feelings by writing in a diary is definitely rare as so many men think they have to be masculine and the macho male and writing is beneath them which is a great shame as writing is therapy for men too and it would help a lot of men to stop bottling up their feelings, even if they don't want to talk to their nearest and dearest it would help if they could write it down.
@cdparazo (5768)
• Philippines
18 Jun 09
I think men who writes diaries are pretty extraordinary. Why? because it would make them more expressive and not just bottle up those feelings and thoughts. I think those kind of men also understand themselves better and more introspective. They are the type that is just so in touch with their inner self that they won't be afraid to express themselves and won't clam up when women start talking about feelings and all. I know someone who writes diaries. He is one of my subordinates who actually got suspended once because he was caught writing something on his diary at our stockroom. I was very irritated with him at that time because he couldn't wait to get home and write on his diary but he told me that he wanted to write something at that moment and not later because he might forget it. Though I kind of found it weird. he he he! But still I look at him differently now and I notice how he seem to know himself better, more confident, more in touch and more expressive. I guess men don't normally write diaries because by nature they are not that expressive and just keeps things to themselves but there are just few out there who are exceptions.
@wolfie34 (26791)
• United Kingdom
24 Jun 09
With our busy lives it is so easy to forget what goes on and so I can understand the need to write about it as soon as it happens, for example ideas for Mylot discussions, sometimes I can get them whilst I am trying to sleep so I have to write them down otherwise by the morning I would have forgotten them!
@GardenGerty (115100)
• United States
17 Jun 09
I do not know any active male writers of diaries at this time. I know that my grandfather kept a day book. It was not about personal things, but it told what the daily weather was, and the price of supplies he bought. Later, when he retired to a small farm, how many cows he had or what crops were doing well.I think it benefits any one to get their feelings out one way or another. I do not really keep a diary. I have in the past written journals for brief periods of time. It is really neat to find them and revisit the times. Even if those times were bad, we can revisit them and see how they can turn out for good. It gives perspective, whether you are male or female. It is a good thing.
@wolfie34 (26791)
• United Kingdom
24 Jun 09
Looking back now I think I would have got maudlin looking at those diaries from the past, as some of my past I would definitely want to forget and reading about it only rekindles bad memories, I think I got more therapeutic help in just writing, rather than the contents.
@edelweiza (157)
• Philippines
18 Jun 09
honestly, no. i don't know of any men who keep a diary. it must be because doing so is a girl thing. or so most women think.as for me, who is a girl by the way, i never tried keeping a diary just because i'm afraid someone will find it and use it against me (black mail or something).haha. i also want to remain mysterious, even to myself at times. but i keep an organizer or daily planner where i write down the things that i did at the end of the day, and not the things i planned to do for that day. weird, but i'm like that. i want to be unpredictable and adventurous in dealing with life.
@jwfarrimond (4474)
18 Jun 09
I've kept a diary for many years. I use it to remind myself of things that I need to do and of things that I have done. It's a sort of extension of my not very reliable memory, so it's more like a businessmans desk diary than a personal journal in which I write my innermost secrets. Those stay innermost where they really are secret.
• China
18 Jun 09
Well,whatever male and female,we are all human beings.Writing diaries is the thing that only human beings can do,then what does it matter whether a man or a woman do it,no matter which gender we are ,we should be proud of that we can write diaries,it really has nothing to do with the gender,it's a stupid thinking . lol