why??????where???what???

Canada
June 21, 2009 7:46pm CST
ok......so ..i am sitting here the first day of summer ...alone....i am NOT feeling sorry for myself a whole lot BUT i look in the mirror and see a fairly OK looking person..i am a good woman..funny ,,intelligent so...why cant' i find a man?? a good man..oh i know ..go out and look...dating lines ...etc..do YOU EVER LOOK AT YOUR SELF AND GO WHAT"S WRONG WITH ME????....i see all kinds of couples ..walking down at a park i go to or shopping or dining out ..and i say REALLY..is it me..yes .. i have heard all the platitudes ---you are giving off negative vibes--you shouldnt look he willl come to you..BUT NO..what is wrong with mei am again saying or asking --any one else PONDER this?????
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@rsa101 (25078)
• Philippines
22 Jun 09
It is okay to be yourself, just don't push yourself getting your partner in time. I think you should let each day pass with a positive energy in you. Getting what you want do come in time and just continue with your life as it is. There is nothing wrong with you, the only thing I observe from you is that you are looking for someone but that someone is nowhere to be found at the moment.
• Canada
22 Jun 09
BOTH responses are so right on!!! i was once a LOT worse in my thinking --i was VERY negative and waited and waited for the right person and NOW just once in a while i DO look at myself and say wow..i am not THAT bad..i started reading the SECRET..and it is true ..positive attracts positive..i have a good friend --a professional who is very successful in his personal and professional and is the nicest man ..he helps me with this negative stuff.guess i am a work in progress
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@rsa101 (25078)
• Philippines
22 Jun 09
That is good then, I also have read that book and many things I was carrying in the past did hold me back from getting what I want. I think we should loosen and do away carrying lots of excess baggage in life to allow more space in our luggages and carry the things that we want in life.
@oyenkai (4396)
• Philippines
29 Jun 09
I have thought of this often - but not regarding romantic matters (I have a boyfriend LOL) but often reflect if there's something wrong with me. There are so many people whom I don't understand in this world. People who lose their heads drinking and partying every night (or three times a week, fine). I don't get it. What kind of life is that? It seems like a waste to me -- but they don't seem to think of it as a waste. So is it me? Thanks for the response on my discussion :)
@airakumar (1555)
• India
24 Jun 09
Hey, it happens with most of the person. So why worry about thing. Think positive and be happy. All the Best!!
• India
22 Jun 09
I don't think that you do want a man just because you see couples walking down the streets or at the mall. I know it feels great to have someone, but I don't think that it's really that important to feel bad when you don't have anybody. Being single is great you know. You can be free and enjoy most of the time for yourselves. Don't be so hard on yourself. You should be able to find someone when the the time is right. And in the meantime, just go and socialize.. bourne
@coffeeshot (3785)
• Australia
22 Jun 09
Oh there's nothing wrong with you! I have been thinking the same thing. And when you're single you always seem to see 398989489478897 more couples-everywhere you look which makes you feel worse! I believe that when you stop looking, that's when a special guy will come into your life. Just be your beautiful self and you'll be sure to find someone