what do you think about "one night, never call you again" kind of guys??

India
June 25, 2009 10:09am CST
there are guys who have a date, spend the nite with the girl, and thats it, they leave as soon as they can, and never call back.... what are your opinions about such guys? can the fact that they dont even have the decency to say a proper goodbye be justified? is sleeping with sum1 all they think about when they meet them, do they not care about the feelings of the people they sleep with??
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16 responses
@royal52gens (5380)
• United States
25 Jun 09
Men like what you have described are very selfish. They only think about themselves and their needs. Not all men are like that. You are better off without that type of man in your life. No, they really do not think about or care about the feelings of anyone else. Saying goodbye is too much trouble. It would be a sign of politeness and manners. They are not able to connect to other humans. You really do not want this kind of a man around you.
@Ravenladyj (22936)
• United States
25 Jun 09
I'm sorry but I disagree...the only time they are selfish (and there are women like this too) is if its a one sided deal...
• India
25 Jun 09
i disagree with ravenlady.... there are sum guys who are always selfish.... they leave as soon as they can, n nevr call back....
• Philippines
26 Jun 09
sumtyms it's also the girl's fault..you cannot always ignore the guy's reason for sumtyms the reason is true
• India
26 Jun 09
Now-a-days lots of women are also like that. There are lots of women out there who believe in one night stand. Those women feel that it is nothing wrong in having one night stand with men because we live in modern world now. So you cannot blame the men for this because men's nature is like this only. Men like to sleep with as many women as possible. It is the nature of men so they cannot control it. They have been made like that only.
• India
26 Jun 09
there is a huge difference between a one night stand, and getting up in the morning before the girl does and leave without saying anything.... read the discussion carefully.....
• India
26 Jun 09
I think you are really confused about your own discussion. If you are not talking about one night stand then what are you talking about kid? Think properly before starting any discussion and then start . Be sure what you want to convey.
• India
26 Jun 09
What i meant was in a one night stand, the guy still speaks to the girl properly before leaving. This discussion is not about on night stands, its bout people who leave without saying anything.
@BlueGoblin (1831)
• United States
25 Jun 09
I think it's in a mans genetic code to sleep with as many women as possible. This ensures that he passes on his genes.
• India
25 Jun 09
no offence, bt thats kind of a pathetic way to look at it....
• Indonesia
26 Jun 09
I think i understand that kind of thing. It's a theory of Memetics. It applies to both; men and women. Basically it's a natural will to survive. Our whole body has that will, means each of our cell has it. In order to last the will have to regenerate, in order to regenerate they will have to be attractive, and so on. But yes, it still not polite to just leave like that.
• United States
26 Jun 09
thats the chance people take when sleeping with people they barely know. Sad.
• India
27 Jun 09
Well i guess you're right.
• Philippines
26 Jun 09
hi sandee...so the best thing to do I think is not to give in to what a guy wants. Girls should be the one who needs to be careful because if you agree to a guy, thats a start of the problem. A woman or a lady at the right age should know what is right or wrong. If a girl agrees to a guy for a sleep-over, do you think guys will just be sleeping beside you and do nothing? Both of you should develop love and trust before engaging to that. In the end, girls will always be at the dark side if you do so.
• India
26 Jun 09
yesh, but lots of guys r so nice and polite in the beginning, then once they get what they need, all their politeness is gone. im not agains one night stands. im jus talking about ending the one night stand on a polite n decent note. PS: my name is sandeep, not sandee. and im a dude, not a chick.
@n30wing (4768)
• Philippines
26 Jun 09
Hi sandeepnongkynrih, well please don't generalized all men. Well men have their own ways, to woe and get want we want. It's usually you really have to know the guy first, not because his to nice, some men pretend too. I know how you feel, but it's already happened. You just didn't ask him question first, where he is in you. I think that guy your telling is a jerk, he just wanna have fun. I am sorry what had happened to you okay! Never trust men easily! Have a nice day to you!
• India
26 Jun 09
i asked "what do you think about the ...... KIND of guy??". that in itself implies that im talking about a particular type of guy. Why on earth would you think im generalizing all men?? Please read the discussions carefully. BTW don't be sorry for what HAPPENED to me. cuz nothing HAPPENED to me. I'm a guy.
• United States
26 Jun 09
I think those kind of guys are absolutely worthless. Though there are some that are worse. They'll agree to being exclusive, but continue living their bachelor lifestyle by going out and partying all night with all sorts of women. They will only call the "exclusive" girl when they need to get some action. For these reasons, I have formed my opinion that 97% of men aren't worth my time.
• India
26 Jun 09
i totally agree with your initial points. But i don't think you can categorize as much as 97% as unworthy.
@snowy22315 (76125)
• United States
25 Jun 09
I personally think that is a lousy thing to do, but there are guys who seem to make a habit of this. I would not want that type of person in my life. They are probably jerks in other areas as well.
• India
25 Jun 09
cheers... =D
@andiel (117)
• Malaysia
25 Jun 09
Well, all i can say is that 1st of all these kind of guys usually don't have a serious thoughts about making a commitments. Until they meet their 'perfect soul mate' - life is just for fun. At least that's what i think. 2nd, they tend to be either good looking or have a very charismatic, 'cool' thing. Having both makes them a perfect playboy and i'm sure they know they it which is why they also tend to exercise their 'assets' towards their dates. I'm so pity to these kind of guys - personal opinion though.
• India
25 Jun 09
i totally agree with you andiel.... cheers to one of the few males who think along my lines.... most guys think that life is about sleepin wit as many girls they can, n then all when they are satisfied their soulmate will jus come along n marry them.... sick pathetic losers...
• United States
25 Jun 09
i hate guys like that and i think they are seriously immature. most guys usually have one thing on their mind and once they get it their gone
• India
26 Jun 09
yeah, i agree with that.
@lynnemg (4536)
• United States
26 Jun 09
The road goes two-ways with this one, I think. How can we be only angry or upset with the man in this situation when the woman was obviously willing to have the one-nighter herself? Let's face it, if a man or a woman is willing to jump in the sack with someone they barely know, chances are pretty good that it was nothing special or important. If a woman spends the night with a guy that she barely knows, how can she even think to expect a "proper good-bye"? If the woman is looking for that kind of thing, she needs to have more respect for herself than to agree to a one-nighter. As far as the man goes, I think that he should also have more respect for himself than to jump in the sack with a woman he barely knows, but the fact is that it is quite common for ment o look for that sort of thing and jump on the opportunity when it knocks. Should he say "good-bye"? Maybe he (or she) should, but I don't think that it should be expected from either party in this sort of situation. Chances are, if he doesn't bother to ever call again, he isn't all that interested, or he feels that if the woman spent the night with him, she would certainly spend the night with any man that asks. That is a bog turn-off to most men when it comes to a relationship.
@54susan (281)
• China
26 Jun 09
they do it just for fun!
• United States
26 Jun 09
My roommate tends to go for this type of guy. I, on the other hand, choose to stay away from this type. Some guys go as far as to spend several days "building up to" that one night, acting as a friend. After the deed is done, all friendship is cut off. Hmmm...something tells me this was definitely planned. Beware of these guys unless you know what you're getting into. However, if you're looking for a one night stand relationship, go for it.
• China
26 Jun 09
As I see it,it is so terrible like that. he is only fascinated by girl's body,and he does not care about the feelings at all! so i think girls should be more clever to evaluate what a man may be, besides,it may cost a long time to know a man fully, before that never give it to him:)
@roger30 (40)
• United States
26 Jun 09
What do think about "one night, never call you again " kind of guys?? There are guys who have a date, spend the night with the girl, and thats it....
• Indonesia
26 Jun 09
1). You don't want to be with that kind of guy again. 2). It is not polite to just leave like that. 3). Obviously they tried not to care about feelings.