If you met someone online, would you consider meeting them in real life?

@mssnow (9493)
United States
July 1, 2009 8:00pm CST
Just for the record, Yes, I have met someone on line that i really care for. Of course we are still new and learning about each other so there will be a long time before we meet if we ever do. Yes, I know about all the dangers of meeting people from the Internet in real life. I have met a few people in real life. But we got to know each other very well first. I had one kinda bad experience but we were in public. (I always meet in public) So, I was able to get away from it . I haven't decided if I will go or not. He lives in London, maybe I should tell him to come here and meet me. Would you ever consider meeting anyone from the Internet in real life?? Have you ever?? How did it run out??
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@byfaithonly (10715)
• United States
3 Jul 09
LOL - I was actually engaged to a man I met online some years back. Seemed great at first but PTL found out his true colors before the wedding day... Have actually met several people in real life that I met online, mostly were good experiences but did have a couple not good ones. Like you always met in public place at least the first few times. Also suggest making sure someone has all the information to contact the person you are meeting - girlfriend of mine and I had a deal we both had access to each other's computers so could track emails and such if police needed to be called in.
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@mssnow (9493)
• United States
4 Jul 09
It cn be tough but i am having a hard time dealing with the fact that he is all the ay over in another country. I am scared of flying. lolHe will have to come here to meet me at first i think
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@byfaithonly (10715)
• United States
4 Jul 09
I meet someone new I always make them come to my town first - I'm afraid of flying too but have a million times :( I don't think I would like the 'other country' thing would be nice to have someone to walk in the park with, hold hands, go to a movie now and then, ....
@MsTickle (25151)
• Australia
5 Jul 09
It would be a big ask to meet someone from overseas and I think I would feel obliged to someone who went to that sort of trouble and expense. I don't think I would travel overseas to meet someone as I don't have that sort of money or a passport. I wouldn't like them coming specifically to see me either but if they combined it with a business trip or similar I would be ok with that.
@mithrril (73)
• United States
2 Jul 09
I've never met someone from online but I think I would consider it. If I wasn't married or in a relationship, I could see myself meeting someone online. I'm shy in real life and I spend a lot of time on the computer. I think I'd be very cautious and paranoid, so I'd probably have a panic attack about it, but I think I'd do it if I had a real connection with someone. I also wouldn't mind meeting an online platonic friend, if I got to know them well. I'd definitely bring along my husband and meet in a public place. I don't think there's any problems with meeting people from online, so long as you take the necessary precautions. People meet their true loves and best friends online. You shouldn't avoid it just in case they're a psycho. But you should definitely be extremely careful.
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@mssnow (9493)
• United States
2 Jul 09
Thank you and i agree with you. i figure I am normal and I am online so there has to be some people like me out there.
• China
2 Jul 09
i am not to meet anyone from internet,coz i don't believe that unreal world on internet, especially some fresh people you have chated with through net,of course its just my opinion,everything is not absolutely,in case of you meet them some day,you must be very carefully,and give more attention to them .
• United States
2 Jul 09
ur right ya never known cuz thier are wierd people
@wolfie34 (26789)
• United Kingdom
3 Jul 09
Hi Princess, I have met people who I had made contact with online, there used to be a forum just like Mylot which had conventions where we all met up, admittedly it wasn't a 1-2-1 basis more like a group, but it worked out extremely well! I had so much fun and it was great meeting people in the flesh, sometimes it was a shock to see the people other times you built up a picture of how they would be. However there have been bad scenarios when I used to date online, the people I met were critters and most lied about themselves or had false photos on the net. That is why I refuse to date online it doesn't work for me, but that's just my thoughts. London is a long way to go sweetheart but I know you are sensible and I really hope it works out for you, you deserve happiness! Wolfie hugs x
@mssnow (9493)
• United States
3 Jul 09
hhe, Yeah I gotta think long and hard about this one. But just think if i do decide to come to London. I could possibly meet my favorite wolfie :) Hugs
@wolfie34 (26789)
• United Kingdom
3 Jul 09
Just call me and I'll be there Princess!
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@reinydawn (11649)
• United States
3 Jul 09
I really like meeting people from the internet! I remember one of the first times I did... There was a group of us that were chatting every night, for like the whole night. We organized a trip to Las Vegas to meet. About 30 of us showed up and we had a blast! It was really cool sitting in the hotel lobby trying to look at people in the line to see if they were part of our "group". We had pictures of many, but not all of us. And some of us had met a couple of us before that. The funniest thing about that trip was this one girl from LA... She drove to Vegas and called my hotel room (I was one of the organizers) and left a message to call her back because she was driving in and didn't know how to get there. We all laughed because all I had to do was get off the plane and hop on the shuttle bus to the hotel. I had no CLUE how to drive there! I have met MANY of the people that are online. I really like it and for the most part they've been good experiences.
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@mssnow (9493)
• United States
3 Jul 09
yes from what i have heard most peopel have had great experiences
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@reinydawn (11649)
• United States
3 Jul 09
I still keep in touch with most of them, and that was over 10 years ago!
• United States
2 Jul 09
I have met a few people who I had originally met online, & yeah - always in public first. This was after maybe over a year of meeting in a chatroom that I ended up running. Actually, it was four of us who got together & spent the day together. There are several that i would consider meeting in person that I met here on mylot.
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@mssnow (9493)
• United States
2 Jul 09
well Hello Sir KlingOn.You always manage to show up to say hi to me. I would meet you if there was a possibility. You are a sweetie
• United States
7 Jul 09
We have encountered each other in other places as well. If there was a way, I'd look forwards to meeting you. Anyone who's reading this should be aware that there are various steps, particularly for safety reasons. Don't just give out your email addie when just meeting, because you might just find a nice amount of spam sent to you. It's also a good idea, when it seems that the trust is there, to start off with a few telephone conversations. Then when meeting, it should be in a public place, such as a restaurant or a diner, or maybe even a coffee house.
@zed_k4 (17619)
• Singapore
2 Jul 09
I did before, but I've not been doing it for a long time already. I was on some social networking sites, chat sites and I got to know some online. I met a few and amongst that, I had a relationship too. But it did not last and it took me awhile to get back on track. I do not meet people from online anymore. I am more comfortable here in mylot where everybody are from different places and we can re-unite in that sense. As for your internet friend, I think you are right; it's best to ask him to come and meet you, rather than you coming to London. As for meeting in a public place, you are right. That's more better and safer.
@mssnow (9493)
• United States
2 Jul 09
I zed, is that you? Your a cutie. I would almost dump that guy for you lol J/K anyways I know how ya feel coz before i met him i said i would never go meet anyone again
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@zed_k4 (17619)
• Singapore
2 Jul 09
Thanks...I take that as a very nice compliment from you... LOL...But I really do think that this London guy is worth it...give it a shot and tell us the progress..it will be great to know..
• Singapore
5 Jul 09
yup,i think i will. but only if i've known the person for at least 2 yrs. if no
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• United States
5 Jul 09
I agree. it would have to be someone i have spoken to long term too..I don't see how people are not afraid to meet someone just after a week or so..you really don't know a person.. The internet is a great mask.
@polachicago (19073)
• United States
2 Jul 09
Are you going to invite someone form London to come over and meet you? It cost a lot for international travel and hotel stay. Even if that person is going to fly over...hmmm....I am not sure if I would ask anyone to travel for me...unless the person is coming to visit US anyway... Good luck, HUGS
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@mssnow (9493)
• United States
2 Jul 09
well if we do decide to met he will wither come here or i will go there. But i am willing to meet in the middle or at leat I can make it to the east coast of the USA so he doesnt have to travel to the west coast. Yes I know it cost alot of money. Which right now i dont have.
@liquorice (3901)
2 Jul 09
It's a difficult one. I've never met up with anyone in real life that I've met online, although I would probably consider meeting other myLotters who live near me - especially if it's in a group. Whether it's someone you've got to know as a friend, or something more, there's always the worry that they've unintentionally (or not) misrepresented themselves, and they'll be completely different to how you imagine. Or yes, dangerous. On the other hand, I know a few couples who have "met" this way, and now they are married couples. One really reminds me of your situation, as the guy was English and the girl was American. After emailing oneanother for a while it progressed to a telephone relationship, then they used to visit eachother, and then she came over here and moved in with him. Finally they got married and now have 3 kids! I guess this is a very unusual situation, and they were very lucky that it worked out. You say that it'll be a long time before you meet (if ever), but if you do really like oneanother then maybe you could progress to speaking to oneanother once in a while; hearing someone's voice is another step in getting to know them.. It is possible for it to work, although obviously like all relationships there's a risk it won't, and meeting online does add extra risks. I hope it does work out for you. Good luck!
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@mssnow (9493)
• United States
2 Jul 09
Thank you very much. He does have the cutest little English voice sounds like Peter noon from Hermans hermits. Yes we already talk in voice on a program online much cheaper than calling. We also have exchanged pics. But as far as meeting it will still be a long time away. I am having fun just getting to know him :)
@stephcjh (32303)
• United States
2 Jul 09
I am too scared to meet any men online for sure. I would more than likely go to meet woman friends though if I could some day. It is too scary to meet up with people you really know nothing about for sure.
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@mssnow (9493)
• United States
2 Jul 09
Yeah it can be scary but life has alot of scary moments. too
@dawnald (84213)
• Shingle Springs, California
2 Jul 09
I've met a female friend and it worked out just fine. Nothing romantic though.
@mssnow (9493)
• United States
2 Jul 09
Thats so cool, I also met a female friend from Australia. She was fun
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@JamieRose (168)
• Philippines
2 Jul 09
I have experienced this :) for one guy, it was safe to meet up with him because we had a lot of common friends. But for another guy, we don't have common friends at all. I guess its true, you have to be really careful when you're meeting with a guy you just met in the internet. I suggest that if you really want to meet him, bring a friend with you or someone you trust, or meet up in a public place. Don't meet up in a place where you are not familiar with.
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@mssnow (9493)
• United States
2 Jul 09
yes i did go meet a guy and took my gf with me. That seemed to work out for us
@tjades (3591)
• Jamaica
2 Jul 09
Definately. There are friends I have met online with whom I have a very good rapport and have shared quite a bit about our lives. If I visit the countries of any of these persons we would definately meet. If they came to my country then Id definately be there to meet them and help them have a great time here. It pays to be careful inspite of everything and I will always be mindful of that.
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@mssnow (9493)
• United States
2 Jul 09
well thats good to know :)
@khayshenz (1384)
• United States
2 Jul 09
Yes - I've met a couple of people online in real life, of course after a long time of chatting not just online but also on the phone. Just to make sure they're not psychos. Hehehehe... And I've also met them with friends in-tow. At one point, in college, I was a huge xanga fan. It was an online journal - and you get to also search random people. And since my friends are also crazy about xanga at that time - we should share links. So there would be like xanga meet-ups and what-not. Pretty interesting, I must say.
@mssnow (9493)
• United States
2 Jul 09
Oh yes a lot of on line social places have group meetings. That would be fun although they have never been close enough for me to go. We do talk using voice although since he is in London that would be quite a distance to chat by phone. But maybe skype would work.
• India
2 Jul 09
Definitely I will consider meeting a friend I made over the internet .As long as that person piques my interst it will be a fun thing to do I guess . Once I set up a date over the internet and went to meet her. I was really apprehensive in the beginning ....But to my suprise she turned out to be an absolute dear and everything went perfectly . She is now one of the best friends I have and that happened only because I dared to do something uncoventional . Until and unless you risk something you will never know what you might have gained
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@Ada4051 (19)
• China
2 Jul 09
i have considered meeting a man from the Internet, but we cannot make the some time to meet, so we can't meet until we have free time both.
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• Hong Kong
2 Jul 09
If I met someone online,and we know more about each other. I will become more interest in him/her. Then,I will ask him/her out even what they look like.
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@amechan (16)
• China
2 Jul 09
I have never met anyone from the internet and i will never meet any from internet.
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@Shar19 (8235)
• United States
2 Jul 09
That's good for you. Just be careful. I myself would never consider meeting someone over the Internet. Too many phony people that way. I think you can tell more about a person by seeing them in person being face to face. However, my cousin actually met someone over the internet and they have been married now for 6 years. Some people just have good luck that way. I hope it works out for you. If not then why not just be friends?
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@lingli_78 (12834)
• Australia
2 Jul 09
i have done that twice in the past and i also meet them in public... so it is not that dangerous... so far i don't have any bad experience and everything went alright with them... i think you should ask him to come to meet you rather than you go and meet him... good luck anyway... take care and have a nice day...
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