do you easily open up yourself to strangers.....

@HelScream (2823)
Philippines
July 3, 2009 5:15pm CST
lets just say an internet friend, new acquaintance, or someone you just met a few days .... how long does it take you to open up to new friends or to a stranger?
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14 responses
• Philippines
4 Jul 09
when do you sleep dan? hehe let's just say that i'm very shy and introvert (which again, nobody will ever believe lol) but i can easily talk to strangers... no problem. perhaps because i travel a lot, or because of my line of work, or coming from a very big family. as for opening myself up to strangers... that depends. depending on what information or experience i will be sharing, how the stranger responded to me, the mood that i am in and the situation that led to the conversation. there are private things that will remain private, whereas there are some for public consumption. it's easy to talk to strangers about all kinds of stuff, especially if he's a good listener and quite receptive without being judgemental. sometimes you can sense if the stranger is going to be a friend or remain a temporary acquaintance or that if he can relate to you and what you are going through. people with the same life/love story or problem or experience naturally strikes up a conversation because of that common thing that drew them together. when one seeks someone to talk to, seeks an advice that is not biased, seeks an objective reasoning... it's so easy to open up to a stranger. but it still depends on several factors like i mentioned above. well... that is just me and my experience. of course, different people do it differently i believe. somehow i'm wondering if this discussion/topic is partially directed at me because of that elusive story you are raring to know... hahaha
@HelScream (2823)
• Philippines
4 Jul 09
hahahahhhaha hahahahha yeah you got it myles well here I am now I am online by the way I dont sleep at night I sleep starting 6 in the morning and wake up at 10 but since it is weekend I slept 10 am then woke up around 2 pm already. So I will be waiting for your PM ok
• Philippines
4 Jul 09
hehe i got the feeling somehow... hahaha seems the feeling was right after all. anyways, i just got back online again after doing an errand. so... how do we go about that story? send me a PM if you want to chat. prepare some popcorn, coffee, lemon, kitchen knife, a beach towel, and an empty bottle of coke litro.
@HelScream (2823)
• Philippines
4 Jul 09
hhhahaha ok then can we do it at night then it would be much better at night if you are not busy I am going out in a while but will be back later for sure would it be ok with you then.... I will just PM you if I am already here ok myles.. wow coke and all that am I watching a movie
@dpk262006 (56761)
• Delhi, India
4 Jul 09
Hi Dear! Opening up with new friends will depend upon many factors. If s/he is an on-line friend, I do not mind sharing about me, provided the other fellow is interested in knowing about me and also comfortable in sharing about him/her. In real life, I do not open up with strangers very soon. It takes some time. If I feel that I am able to understand the nature of the stranger and s/he is going to gel with me, then only I start sharing about me. Basically, I am a shy person.........LOL!
@cindyhxf (1447)
• China
4 Jul 09
hi dpk,it is nice to see you again.i am lucky to be your downstair here.good day!
@HelScream (2823)
• Philippines
5 Jul 09
same goes for me my friend I am also a shy type in person and tell you I dont have that much friends off line but I can easily open up to my online friends weird thing but I guess everyone is like that
@dpk262006 (56761)
• Delhi, India
6 Jul 09
Cindy! Welcome here! But please tell me what do you mean by "you are my downstair". Are you saying that you are like me?
@James72 (26829)
• Australia
5 Jul 09
I don't open up to strangers easily at all. It may seem that way to some people because I have no issues striking up a conversation or talking about many different things, but personal information about myself will be kept very close to my chest until such time as I've reached a level of trust and comfort woth a person. The time it takes for me to reach this level depends on the person and the situation really. Sometimes it can take a matter of days, sometimes months! There are many people I've known for years even that I wouldn't ever share personal information with. Every situation is different. I just hope I'll always have the wisdom to know who I can trust and who I can't!
@HelScream (2823)
• Philippines
5 Jul 09
same goes with me well my friend it really takes time to know and to trust but even with time we can never tell what kind of person our friends are been betrayed many times.... As my mom say never trust anyone except yourself...
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@James72 (26829)
• Australia
5 Jul 09
Your Mom's a wise woman!
@commanderxo (1496)
• Canada
4 Jul 09
I generally don't have any problem with this. I'm pretty much a fairly easy-going kind of guy. I enjoy making new friends, and let's face it also...one thing the world needs more of, is friends. cdrxo
@HelScream (2823)
• Philippines
4 Jul 09
it's been a while since I last saw you my friend been busy lately? so how are you for the past days
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• Canada
4 Jul 09
Oooooooh, I've been around. Just been a little busy is all. I'm doin' O.K. my friend. Thank you for asking. cdrxo
• India
5 Jul 09
Sometimes, it's easier to talk to your friends online than to your family or friends at home because they give unbiased advices. I have observed that I got different reactions from my online friends to things I said than from the ones at home. I do not really share everything, but somethings which can be told with no harm done is fine. I don't think it will be a problem if you open up to strangers, until and unless you are sure they can be trusted. bourne
@HelScream (2823)
• Philippines
5 Jul 09
you are right about my friend a complete stranger cant be trusted that easily its a question of trust I guess.
@Wink24 (167)
• Philippines
4 Jul 09
Hello. Some basic info's will do but not all out especially when we just met on the internet, maybe it'll took a weeks, but it's still depends my feeling towards him/her, if i feel like he/she is a good person,then why not become friends,right?. I think it's dangerous if we open up easily to a stranger some information about us,especially those confidential information that's why we need to take a lot of care when we talk to strangers. Happy mylotting.
@HelScream (2823)
• Philippines
5 Jul 09
yeah I think that too must be put into consideration.... Well I only let thme know what is needed in any friendship anything more is too much to say I guess.... It wil took them ages to get to know me better lol
@cindyhxf (1447)
• China
4 Jul 09
for me i am easy to open up myself to them if i think they are just common people as me.most of people are kindly i think.don't think that they are different from you a lot.good attitude will be helpful i think.
@HelScream (2823)
• Philippines
5 Jul 09
well I guess open up to some strangers wont do much of a harm and being friendly would only add another friends on your list right
@savypat (20245)
• United States
4 Jul 09
I put on a good show, I am on the surface a very open person, you can ask me almost anything and I will give you a straight answer, but I rarely let anyone in to my inner thoughts.
@HelScream (2823)
• Philippines
5 Jul 09
wow that's cool a straight forward person, thats just normal my friend letting them in would somehow put your differences down .. have a great day
@ANTIQUELADY (36468)
• United States
4 Jul 09
I meet people well, comes from working in the public for 47 years i guess. I think u just automatically feel closer to some people the first time u meet them or talk to them on here but i'm not real big on opening up to people until i get to know them better. Some people u just feel more comfortable w/than others.
@HelScream (2823)
• Philippines
4 Jul 09
well you see my lady you are very polite on offering my friendship the first time I came here at mylot and you pm me remember and have accepted your friendship instantly coz I find you to be a very good person and look now I was not wrong we became close in just a couple of months thanks a lot my lady
@khayshenz (1384)
• United States
4 Jul 09
Hahahahaha - I'm following your discussions again! They're good discussions - I must say! So good job on piquing my interest every time! I usually don't open myself up to strangers. I think a lot of people see me as someone who is hard to talk to or unapproachable even. Maybe shy. I mean, they'll like my smile and maybe comment about it. But once the talking starts, I don't give a lot of responses. It takes getting to know me to really enjoy my personality. Some of my friends - who were once strangers - once they get to know me have been really surprise with how "funny" I am or how fun it is to be around me. How long does it take: hmmmm, it differs from person to person. I just based it all on the vibes I'm getting from that person. Cheers, kaibigan!
@HelScream (2823)
• Philippines
4 Jul 09
how about your vibes to my kaibigan lol nah I enjoyed talking to you as well my friend and love seeing you at my discussions .... but sometimes you have to excuse my tactfulness, sometimes just to sleepy that time well anyways hope to know more about you and hope to see more of you here....cheers
@ucue2008 (926)
• Malaysia
4 Jul 09
Immediately, but I can be very talkative and friendly at the beginning, but then very quite once the situation is heat up. I don't know how to talk when the situation is become louder and happier. But of course I will join in if there is a laugh and I will laugh also. I have a terrible social skill. But I can say I'm a helpful person, and if that person even a stranger ask for my help, I would gladly help and sometimes even when that person don't ask for my help, I will still offer my help if I see that person in difficulties
@HelScream (2823)
• Philippines
4 Jul 09
sometimes I also find it easy for me to do this things before specially if become close to that person but lesson learned that s why I rather keep my distance and see if that person would somehow would be there for long and remain my friend before I could actually open up to them.
• United States
3 Jul 09
It would all depend on the topic. Siple topics like this, no time at all. Harder topics a few days. Really personal topics about a week. because you really don't have a clue to my true idenity I can say anything and still be pretty safe and still maintain some private facts as to the basic truth of the matter. And opening up is still safe.
@HelScream (2823)
• Philippines
3 Jul 09
Well , I too was like that before but not anymore that person must build a trust before I could actually open up to them .... but if it just a mere stranger who you know you wont meet again then it is very easy to open to them coz you feel safe and the things you told them would not really matter to the at all...
• United States
11 Jul 09
Here on MyLot where no one knows my real name , I will tell stories about my life if can help. In real life I won't tell anything until I know you real well. My Mylot friends know more about my past than my offline friends. Don't get me wrong, if a close friend asks a question I'll answer but I don't just tell them.
@Bloggership (1104)
• Indonesia
8 Jul 09
It is easy for me to accept a friend as my friend even they were a strangers, but not easy for me to trust them just in a short period. Being open up to a new friends i don't think that's a wise decisions for me because i don't know them well, and they don't to me too.