Have you ever lived in a share house? Can your roomates become yr good friends?

@catzzz (109)
Ireland
July 6, 2009 2:41pm CST
Recently, I moved in a house with shared kitchen and bathroom. there are around 8 people from different countries in a house. We seldom see each others besides the dinner time. I wonder if we can become friends later? have you got such experience?
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@carlas (201)
• United States
7 Jul 09
It may actually be a good idea to network with these people. You could at least introduce yourself, and let them know you are around if they need anything. If they are all from different countries you could travel the world and stay with them.
@carlas (201)
• United States
7 Jul 09
Also-- I have lived with roommates for a long time, and they have pretty much all been my friends (before we moved in together) and it is a good way to ruin a friendship. Maybe you should enjoy just having roommates who are roommates, not friends. I think if I ever have roommates again-- I will be sure to make sure that I do not have a friendship with them prior to living with them.
@catzzz (109)
• Ireland
7 Jul 09
haha... I don't think I can stay with them in their countries later. not that close. but I will try to take it easy. become friends or not...just depends on what happen.
• Philippines
7 Jul 09
The fact that you are asking this question makes me think that at some level you'd really want to be friends with these people or is searching for a way to bring this about. Well, I could say it's possible but it depends: do you really want to be real friends with all of them or just prefer 2 or 3 close friends with the others being just normal acquaintances? Offhand, whichever your prefer, you'd always need to find a common ground so that you could establish a connection, whether with the group or with just a few people. But if you don't mind me asking, how long have the other 7 people been staying at your place?
@catzzz (109)
• Ireland
7 Jul 09
actually,I will only live there for 2 months. I don't really need to be their very close friends. but at least, we can find some fun in the house. It's not easy coz everyone seems to have their own area here. we can talk but only for few words.
@Beertjie (977)
• South Africa
6 Jul 09
Whilst at colege I lived in a house with six others. We shared kitchen and bathrooms. We had a lot of arguments because every person has a different lifestyle. The kitchen was usualy a mess and caused lots of fights, not phisycal though. One of the guys that stayed in the house became a best friend to me. Even though he is about 13 years younger than me, we have a lot in common and we share the same passions in life. He is getting married next month and I am the best man, I am honored. So, yes, you can become good friends. Just learn to look past the persons mistakes, because we all have mistakes. If you have some common interests it will be easier to become friends. Many blessings
@catzzz (109)
• Ireland
7 Jul 09
yes, the kitchen can be a big problem...they never clean up immediatly after use. it's really lucky that you find such a good friends.
@smartie0317 (1612)
• United States
6 Jul 09
Sort of. I don't have this specific experience, but my friend dormed and had to deal with a lot of communial space and people from many different countries. Sometimes, I would hang out or spend the night. It rarely works out. People have a lot of cultural differences and start to get territorial. Be nice to them, but don't exspect too much in return or friendship. I had this experience almost five years ago and have seen various people from the dorms, in the whole time period, and they can't bother to say hello.
@catzzz (109)
• Ireland
7 Jul 09
Yes, I think it's true. We have lots of cultural differences and we just say hi or chat 1 or 2 sentences when we meet at the kitchen. I won't expect too much.
@SomeCowgirl (32255)
• United States
6 Jul 09
It sounds like your talking about a hostel, or a frat house, or sorority house, or dorm rooms. Lol, I have never lived in a place like that but have lived with friends and shared a kitchen, then later a bathroom, and bedroom... Lol, well I've lived in two different places with friends. I'd rather live with family. My fiance and I live with his parents. AS for your questions about making friends, I am sure you could but if these roommates aren't going to be there for long then you may have to keep long distance correspondence.
@catzzz (109)
• Ireland
7 Jul 09
yes...it's like a big house with serval rooms. I would love to share with my friends but I'm currently live in another countries so I can't. Yes, these roommates always go back to their own rooms when they finish the kitchen.