Lovers: Seing but refuses to see

Hi! It is good to see a past love, to know how he is doing, how he was during those years that you parted ways. But it ends there, nothing more than that. This is because of the fact that you are already married and so is he. Yes, it is risky to see him again. Why? It is because like what you said, the guy still has feelings for you. And you, from the way you sounded, you seemed excited. This might spark the flame you had for each other. What about your respective spouses? They do not deserve that. When you said that a part of you refuses to see him is a sign that you value your husband and your relationship with him. Keep on giving that importance to your relationship with your husband. Most relationships fall apart because one forgets to respect the partner. The excitement you feel will only be temporary. If you succumb to it, it might be something you will regret for the rest of your life.

Hello, rona. You really want to see him just as a friend to chat with, and you also consider that both of you have married. I dont know whether you talk about this with your husband. If you talk to your husband and explain it before you go to see your first boyfriend, it might be good for all of you. Because now, the most trustful person in your life should be your husband. Hope you happy every day!

dont go ... you will do some thing you regret and cant take back. if you were to go things would be great they would feel right but its not worth it because in the end you could lose every thing for one date.

Hi Rona! I would say that in this case please your head instead of your heart, while deciding the issue. If you move ahead and see him, it may reopen the past relationship and memories and this will keep lingering on in your mind. It would be safer to ignore him and not to see him. All the best!

I agree with the person above. You shouldn't go and you COULD lose everything you have because of this 'first love'. And please think for a moment, WHY did it end in the first place? Would things EVER be-able to be worked out, even when you're both married. Think logically. Don't make any stupid mistakes.

If you think this ex boyfriend of yours is your soulmate, then maybe meeting with him is the least of your worries. Are you unhappy with your marriage? Regretting that you didn't stay with your ex? These are issues that you'll have to ask yourself and answer before deciding anything. Currently, if you're really feeling like that, then I wouldn't meet him. If you're secure with your relationship with your husband then I would say go for it. I still talk to my ex, but I have a great relationship with my husband and I don't regret for a second leaving my ex. But if you think that your ex was "the one" then it could really jeopardize your marriage if you go see him. Like it's already been said, feelings such as that can lead you to do something that you might regret and that could possibly mean the ending of both of your marriages. Is there any particular reason you think he was the one? Is there problems with your marriage (if you don't mind me asking...you don't have to answer, obviously, since it's personal, I'm just trying to ask questions to get you maybe thinking...sorry if you get offended)? If there's something that your husband isn't doing that you think he could be doing that would make you feel happier, then I would recommend sitting him down and talking to him about it and seeing if he'll change. ^_^ I wish you the best of luck with this! It's a difficult situation to be in and I hope it ends well for you!

I feel the same as you....it's just too risky. He has feelings for you...you have feelings for you...and both of you are married to other people. There's no guarantee that you are just going to meet, chat and get back. Once you start talking and get in touch again, things might go further...which isn't a very good idea. My advice, Don't go! But it's your choice.

I know there are something only heart can say. It works over the social taboo and all many times.It is advisable not to contact him as both of you are married . But at time the heart rules over the brain.

In my opinion, you can meet him as a good friend rather than as an ex lover. As you married and having kids and living happily with your husband, you should not recall your old days. If he wanted to see with some romantic desire, my opinion is not to meet him.

Well, there is nothing wrong is seeing a guy you used to know before; but why do you want to see him? Does he mean so much to you or is he coming to town after a long time? Or does he want to rekindle the relationship? If you already have a relationship in progress, you might find it very difficult to handle another one. Things might get too complicated for you to handle. One meeting might lead to another, and you know...why take the risk if you are happy with your hubby and kids? Cheers and happy Mylotting

I think I will called you cheater. Because besides you are married now, is that you want to let you feelings goes into a bigger sin. Since that you are not happen to see your ex. You need to cut it off, right now to avoid making the situation worst. Think about your family, your children that will be a victims if you committed wrong. Your actions is a simple adultery my friend. It is a simple commission of cheating in the part of your husband and also in the part of your ex wife. Do not make your conversation bolder that ever to avoid any consequences that will ask your conscience in the near future. Don't sacrifice your family in an intimate and useless relationship. Don't try to break the sanctity of marriage that you have today because of lust that he feels to you and lust that you feel him. It's not love for you in that man, wanted to see you. This is not a cusriosity when flesh acted beyond our limit...If want to see that man. I will called you irresponsible and a sinner. You don't have the right to be respected because all of your right can be waived once you commit adultery...This is one of the greatest commandments of God, that must follow my friend. Do not commit adultery... I hope that you understand what I want to emphasize here. I agree that I have words that really unacceptable to you. But i write it to wake you up on your deeds that I know is wrong. Please stop communicating with you ex to avoid you committing adultery and respect also to your husband and your children...Your secret agreement in that guy. Is a simple cheat or in legal means simple adultery. You need to remember that adultery is no need to prove it but hearsay is sufficient for the court to convict you for adultery...concubinage is hard to prove from the court because you need to caught up them in real actions... I hope this will help you think about the consequences that you made. Don't be cheater. Please be good to yourself and to your family.

The chance for you to be friends with him is gone because of past choices. You can not be friends now. Do not see him if you wish to protect your marriage, your husband and you kids. The part of you that is telling you to not go, is your internal warning system. It's trying to warn you of danger. Do not ignore your internal warning system. G-d put that in you for a reason. Listen to it. Run from the danger. If for no other reason, try to imagine if your Husbands ex-lover came back and wanted to meet privately. Wouldn't you be hurt that your husband has feelings for this other woman? Would you feel comfortable if this other woman had feelings for him? Would you want them to meet together behind your back? Do not do to your husband, what you would not want your husband to do to you. Do not go. Be well.

If you still have feelings for him and you think meeting him will just bring back memories that will make you feel drawn towards him again, then I suggest you better not go. You'll get yourself into a tricky situation that might just leave you confused. Remember both of you are married already, and although there is nothing wrong with seeing old friends or ex's, you sound like you're still very much affected by him and God knows what happens if he's actually there in front of you. One thing could lead to another, and what's next? Better stay in your comfort zone which is your family, and your husband.

Go ahead .. See him once more. The both of you are now married and chances of something happening are very dim.I suggest that you cherish those moments as sweet history rather than suppressing it, as it may later on resurface . If you do not see him you might regre it later .

I think you should leave your past to your past. trust me I know what your going through I went through the same thing, and my husband is worth more that a little chat you know its never going to be more than what it is now so let him go and focus on loving your husband :o) good luck!

If you are married, and he is married, don't you feel that is wrong to fall in love with another guy? Or you might betray your current marriage, he does the same too. It won't be fair to your husband, and he does the same to his wife. You should consider it further before you act farther. If you really have feeling toward him, and you believe that you love him more than anything. You better talk to your husband before moving on.

hi, if i were u i will not go. its for your own good, you do have a family now and i think you are very happy. don't make a problem just for that past b.f... janebeth..