The more you hate, The more you love???

@lealuvy2j (1986)
Philippines
July 10, 2009 12:28am CST
A friend of mine dumped a guy because she feels that their future together will not work. This guy used to date someone before he met my friend and he dated her again after my friend has dumped him. However, the guy is still angry at my friend. The thing is, I really don't get why he should be angry because He already has a girlfriend. I think he should just let the whole thing go, move on and be happy with his new relationship instead of holding on to his feelings of resentment. I told my friend that maybe the guy is still in love with her which is why he is so angry. How about you? What do you think? :)
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6 responses
• India
1 Dec 09
Hi, Its not the break up that is hurting him. Its just because its your friend who dumped him. If that would be opposite this guy would not be so angry. I mean being dumped hurts more than having a break up. Its the humiliation added to the sense of discomfort. You had the habit of getting respect and affection for someone. And suddenly that person doesn't respect you anymore and don't feel the way he used to. It will certainly hurt you like hell. New relationships don't wipe that away. If this guy still loves your friend, whats the use of talking about that? A relationship based on future needs can't be complete. Most of the highly successful relationships I've seen was based on love and love alone. Anyways, I don't think, at the present situation, this guy will take some time to forget all about your friend. I don't know how much time he will take for that, but once he gets over it, he will turn into a very strong and wise man. I pray that God show him the right path of righteousness. Take care... God bless you..
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@lealuvy2j (1986)
• Philippines
1 Feb 17
I pray for that too that he would move on. It would e best for everyone
@eLsMarie (4346)
• Philippines
11 Jul 09
the guy must really be so affected that he can no longer think of other stuffs than to be angry with your friend... pride usually prevails for men... he knows that he can no longer win back your friend and maybe because of that, he feels like he was defeated.
@eLsMarie (4346)
• Philippines
26 Nov 09
it's been 5 months already.. thank you very much.. :D
@lealuvy2j (1986)
• Philippines
11 Jul 09
I guess so.. Why are some men like that? Like their ego is the most important thing for them. Lol! Anyway, I just really think he should let this go. It has been 6 months already. That's somehow a pretty long time to be angry.
@Meljep (1666)
• United States
10 Jul 09
Some people have a hard time letting go of relationships. They feel as if they are being rejected if everyone doesn't like them. A reasonable communication might be the key in this case. Maybe a third party to help them stay civil during the conversation would be good. If he has a new girlfriend his focus should be on making that relationship work, not on the past. Good luck with everything!
@lealuvy2j (1986)
• Philippines
10 Jul 09
I'll recommend that to my friend but they have already talked about letting this go etc.. but still the guy just got angrier and he said my friend, that the reason my friend is trying to talk this out with him is because she is trying to make herself look good in front of their co-workers. I honestly think that is not the case. It is really hard to understand why he is still holding on to this anger of his. Anyway, thanks for the advice. Happy mylotting! :)
@ladym33 (10979)
• United States
29 Nov 09
Some people just can't let go. It could be that he is still in love with her, but it could be that he just has trouble letting go of anger. Some people just do not take rejection very well, and instead of just dealing with it they choose to be angry and resentful. It is pretty immature, but then again I don't know how your friend broke up with him. If she was really cruel about it or if she dumped him for someone else. Basically he got his feelings hurt and some people just don't know how to deal with that.
@lealuvy2j (1986)
• Philippines
1 Dec 09
My friend did not dump him for someone else and she was pretty calm and sensitive when he talked to him about it. I guess he was just really bitter about the whole situation. I do hope that in time, he will let this go and be more mature about it because acting like the way he acts now will not really help him in any way.
@nigarish (70)
• India
10 Jul 09
"well i think that hates is a part of love ....but a serious hate is a part of enemy ....consedering urs frens case her boyfren still loves her .....i can say so because i myself being the guy who got ditched ....and after couple of months we dated again and it worked that time......but after some some time we had a breakup agin....in fist itme i hated her for love .....but now i hate her like foolish fellows....fighting,hates,disguess are another side of the coin of love........so hateness is love if it is done in a lovable sence".........
@lealuvy2j (1986)
• Philippines
11 Jul 09
I agree that that the guy is still probably in love with her. I just feel bad for his new girlfriend because she seems oblivious of what is happening.
• Philippines
26 Aug 09
Well, simple..it's just so hard to let go, most specially when they were better moments that your friend and his x used to had than the girl that he is with now. if he finds that unique experience of happiness to his new girl friend, i can tell you, the hate will disappear. some guys are still holding on to some of those old good moments, that eventually lead them blindly to hate and anger..thus, become full time enemies with the girl...particularly your friend.let him be, he will let it go, in time.
@lealuvy2j (1986)
• Philippines
1 Dec 09
I sure do hope that he will let it go because it is really unfair for his girlfriend if he still harbor all these feelings for my friend. But I agree, time heals all wounds. Maybe in time he will learn that he is just being silly and immature.