Life is never perfect, it is largely a compromise - do you agree?

Life is never perfect - there is many a slip....
@kiran8 (15348)
Mangalore, India
July 10, 2009 3:40am CST
I have always felt that life is never perfect. You plan something and something else happens.I have seen the best laid out plans coming crashing down and new plans taking place.Some people may be a little more lucky, but we all have to compromise to a great extent . Experience has taught me never to be sure of things and i absolutely believe in the proverb "There is many a slip between the cup and the lip " . one can never be too sure that your plan is going to work because anything can go wrong at anytime. The best way is to make compromises and be prepared for ever eventualities in life without letting any failures to get you down... what are your views and experiences friends...
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@dpk262006 (58673)
• Delhi, India
10 Jul 09
Hi Kiran! What a great and wonder thoughts! I entirely buy your arguments that life is not perfect. It is said that - "man proposes and God disposes". So many times, what we plan and think does not happen and we are left standard and helpless. Therefore, one must 'hope for the best and be prepared for the wrost'. Uncertainity in our life makes us more stronger and it tells us that we should not take things for granted. I also wait till the final disposal and do not presume that everything will go my way. I keep my fingers crossed, everytime I make a move, thinking will it succeed or get through or not and the moment it meets success I rejoice on my achievment. An excellent Post!
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@dpk262006 (58673)
• Delhi, India
11 Jul 09
Hi Kiran! It is nice to know that I am a mind reader.....LOL! I did not know about the twisted version of the original quote, it looks quite funny and interesting (and may be realistic too, in some cases.....LOL!)that 'Man proposes and woman disposes'. Yes, I buy your argument that if everything becomes predictable then the life will turn out to be monotonous and boring, therefore, sometimes uncertainty in life brigs some excitement in our lives. Have a great weekend to you too! Deepak
@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
11 Jul 09
Hi deepak,Thanks a lot you are a mind reader, I was on the verge of adding that quote in my discussion, but refrained from it when I thought of the modern or corrupt version that someone told me ' Man proposes and woman disposes' LOL - thanks a lot for your thoughts.I too always hope for the best but am prepared for the worst, just in case...Life would be boring if things were in order and we get everything we wanted and if things were predictable. That uncertainity makes it so much more interesting and exciting, though sometimes depressing !- happy mylotting and have a great weekend deepak
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@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
11 Jul 09
Deepak, that quote was frequently being quoted by my uncle because his wife was earning more than him,it became a joke with all of us. But there may be some truth in it , at least in some cases. Yes deepak, life has to have its ups and downs and twists and turns, otherwise what is there to look forward - all the best
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@Sreekala (34314)
• India
10 Jul 09
Hi Kiran, Life is filled with challenges and those who can do more compromises they can win always. Here the proverb ‘Man proposes but God disposes’ is really meaningful. Only a minor percentage of people are lucky enough to plan their life and live accordingly. In fact without a plan we can’t get success but according to the circumstances we should change the plan because life is always uncertain. We can’t predict what will happen in the near future. We can only hope, everything will be alright with everybody. So let us hope for the best always.
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@Sreekala (34314)
• India
13 Jul 09
Hi Kiran, I read the quote by deepak after posting mine and I smiled myself. Now I read your comments to him too. Thanks for the inspiring comments.
@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
24 Jul 09
Hi Sreekala, first of all CONGRATULATIONS ! I see that you have reached your 1000th post. That is a land mark. Soon I too will be there, Yes some quotes are so funny esp when the original ones have been changed to suit the present day circumstances ..have a great day and happy mylotiing
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@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
11 Jul 09
Hi Sreekala, Thanks a lot for your response.I have written a little something about the proverb in deepak's post , just for fun...You are very practical when you say that we should change according to the circumstances. I agree with that , thats the only way to go on in life, you can never be rigid, you should learn to bend...All the best and have a great weekend
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@kalav56 (11464)
• India
10 Jul 09
Kiran ! I too feel that life is most unpredictable and the smallest thing does turn out to be as ordained and there is nothing in our plans. I have experienced this ; have experienced the best outcome according to my plan too.My experiences are mixed.But i feel they are already ordained and we cannot guess what is in store for us. . I am ever thankful to God that He has given me many comforts and showered countless blessings on me and so I take all my negative interactive experiences as preordained. When it comes to planning it is not possible not to get into them because we do have the need to aim or set a goal in mind for anything .But I just do not think too much about the results and believe that we just do what is needed without thinking too much of the results, because God would give what He thinks fit.If something does not go according to my plan I immediately say that His plans were different and He knows what is best for me and this maintains my peace.As far as eventualities and planning I just pray for God's grace and do not think too much.
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@kalav56 (11464)
• India
10 Jul 09
Ultimatley w e need to have peace of mind and let others around us be in peace Kiran. So, that is the right attitude.
@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
10 Jul 09
Hi kala, thank you so much for your reply. I agree with your views.I am the same - I generally do what I have to do and don't bother too much about the outcome, if thats the right attitude or not i am not sure...but it saves a lot of heartaches and disappointments ..
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@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
11 Jul 09
chill on the hill - Life is never perfect, so what?
Hi trelsue, kala, thank you both so very much for your inputs. I think it is better to be philosophical about life rather than be passionate about each and every little thing and its outcome. It is not going to help us nor does it take us forward in life. As they say nowadays Chill chill...found this lovely image on the net _ happy mylotting to you both and have a great weekend
• United States
10 Jul 09
Yes, there is many a slip between the cup and the lip. I think that is just part of life. But, you know, some things happen for a reason. I have started places, and gotten delayed, only to find that something happened there, or on the way there, that i would have been involved in. So, i think, just let nature take its course. If something happens that you can't do one thing, then perhaps, you can do something else.
@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
11 Jul 09
Hi Shirley, thank you so much for your response. Yes I agree that sometimes things happen for a reason..There is a quote that I like very much , which goes " "The thing always happens that you really believe in; and the belief in a thing makes it happen."How much of it is true one can never say, but it keeps us positive and go on with live no matter what..Have a great weekend and happy mylotting
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@MNRFOLEY (435)
• Brisbane, Australia
10 Jul 09
Nothing is perfect, and evrything is made that way for a purpose. If things are perfect, there wont be anymore challenges people wont strive anymore not much to live for. I guess it is better that life is not always perfect or not perfect at all because that way we have a reason to be here to learn to live and strive and meet new challenges to think to feel and to just BE!:)
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@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
11 Jul 09
Hi MNRFOLLEY, thanks a lot for your response I would agree with that. If things work out exactly as we want them there is no challenge, and no excitement. It is the work towards your goal that is far more exciting than reaching the goal...Happy mylotting and have a great weekend
@GADHISUNU (2162)
• India
10 Jul 09
It again depends what you consider is perfect. If you take it that getting what you desired at the time it is desired as measure of perfection then well life would be far from perfect for almost all. But if you think a perfectly lived life is something that gives you things to cherish, then you can head somewhere. Now, life is also what you make of it. Dreaming too much(though dreams do have their value in our lives)without commensurate action will only leave you disillusioned. That is because you start treating your dreams as real(following in lines PDCs)and then find your real life wnating in several departments. One thing that you can do to make life meaningful i.e. near-perfect is to do a bit of self discovery. This you can do by doing a personality analysis on yourself using some of the instruments like MBTI, DiSC etc., if you are not already aware of it that is, and try to find your strengths and proclivities. Take up something where we have our nature's tuned. Then you can get closer to perfection.Like if one is tone deaf, aspiring a for a career in Music or even trying to have Music as a hobby is not going to be rewarding. Well, not that someone will so naive as that. But if one is near-abouts it is possible to get confused. Whatever I am saying I am saying from my personal experience. Nothing satisfies one as fulfilment in one's natural inclinations. Often we make the mistake of or we are compelled by peer pressure to choose something that is worldly-wise. But at the end of it all we feel empty. So, it always fruitful to follow our instincts. The real problem is that your day-to-day life compulsions force you to pick up something that is your nature then you must doi it as a hobby.
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@kalav56 (11464)
• India
10 Jul 09
That was a wonderful response Gadhisunu
10 Jul 09
Life is always perfect, it just isn't always what we expect it to be. Sometime those things we consider a problem or something bad is needed so that a greater good can be accomplished. There is only oneness not duality, if anything is duel in nature it is man alone, but not by his doing but the divine in our humanity trying to make sense of our physical restraints. Everything happens for a reason, and every reason has a purpose and a causality whether it is for us to understand at the moment or not.
@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
10 Jul 09
Hi GADHISUNU, Excellent thoughts there ! I agree with you about peer pressures sometimes leading to wrong choices.I have always tried follow my instincts, but, there again is the limitation. It is best to lead one's life , taking one day at a time without making too many plans and having too many expectations...
@KupoSin (680)
• United States
10 Aug 09
i completely agree. even a married couple will never agree on every single issue, not matter how perfect they may see each other. learning to compromise is a very good habit to learn. we are never going to get everything we want, but compromising will make every decision have a better outcome for all parties in the decision.
@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
11 Aug 09
Hi KupoSin, thanks a lot for your response. Yes compromise is a way of life and it is the only way in which we can learn to live with others without getting easily upset. One has to compromise everywhere in life..all the best and happy mylotting
@zed_k4 (17589)
• Singapore
10 Jul 09
Kiran, this is a magnificient discussion. I like discussions like this. As for my opinion, I think that life is like a box of chocolates. One is always in for a surprise as to what's in store him/her. I've longed tell myself never to expect anything in life. Wherever possible, I go through life one day at a time and work hard for my goal. In this way, I will take things come what may. Have a nice day, Kiran and happy mylotting..
@zed_k4 (17589)
• Singapore
12 Jul 09
I like your reply back here too, Kiran.. We'll see what surprises we have in store aite..
@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
24 Jul 09
Exactly zed.....Have a great day and happy my lotting
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@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
11 Jul 09
Hi zed, thanks a lotI am of the same opinion as you . I too believe in taking life one day at a time with no expectations for tomorrow.I feel I am better equipped to cope with any adverse situations , ever since I took that attitude. Life can be full of surprises both pleasant and unpleasant, but never dull...Have a great weekend zed and happy my lotting
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@yugasini (12836)
• Anantapur, India
10 Jul 09
hi kiran, life is balanced,before taking birth people will caliculate their good and bad things according to that they chose their parents and life style and then take birth,according to that our life style will run, with some bad and with some good things,but be patient and leave the rest to fate, i am doing the same now left everything to fate, best of luck
@yugasini (12836)
• Anantapur, India
11 Jul 09
hi kiran, thanks for the response, good day
@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
11 Jul 09
Hi yugasini, That is a good practical way of handling the uncertainties of life.I see the many merits in the fate and destiny theory.thanks a lot for your response and have a great weekend
@EliteUser (3964)
• Australia
28 Sep 09
Hey, Yes of course I agree, that life is never perfect, it is largely a compromise. I don't ever think that anything in this world will ever be perfect, we also have to be prepared for failures, so we won't get too discouraged when they come. Life is never perfect, it is largely a compromise
@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
28 Sep 09
Hi Eliteuser, thanks a lot for your response . As you say life is largely made of compromises and adjustments in thinking and other matters as well...It depends wholly on an individual as to how he is able to accept and move on in life - all the best and have a great evening
@bamrahkirti (1821)
• India
24 Jul 09
Life is not picture perfect.It is beyond doubt that we have certain preconceived notions about life and we always hope that our life goes according to our whims and fancies,but every time God has something else in store for all of us. The beauty lies in the fact that we should always accept the outcome whatsoever without any grudge or anger against any body.The negative emotions erupt in our mind when we do not have control over situations.If we cannot change it,we much learn to live with it.That is the essence of leading life soulfully.
@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
24 Jul 09
Hi bamrahkirti, thanks a lot for your response A positive person is always able to compromise, change the course and move on. But most negative thinking people are not able to do so easily. They grumble and curse and blame everybody else for their mishaps making all those around them unhappy too...
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@kawalnarang (1095)
• Trinidad And Tobago
10 Jul 09
With due respect I would say life is perfect,, and please think positive,, never say things will go wrong,, I believe everything happens the way it should happen,,once our actions and thoughts are good,, we will experience the right results,,we all are paying for our wrong deeds,, sometimes we think that God is testing us,,a few years ago I used to think the same way,, But now I know whatever happens is The the only way the almighty wishes it,,That is His plan and it cant be wrong,,In modern times we look forward to get too much,,too soon ,, too easy,, Is it not true?
@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
11 Jul 09
Hi kawalnarang, You had to be different LOL, That is a fatalistic way of thinking. May be it is positive too.If one accepts it one is at peace. But it is difficult to do that.As human beings we have wishes, ambitions,plans for our lives and when things go wrong we are bound to feel bad ....It is always not possible to put everything on Almighty?? , but if one finds that helps, I guess it is the best solution for living life , thinking it is perfect - thank you so much for your interesting views and have a great weekend
@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
11 Jul 09
Excellent attitude, and if that makes you happy, there is nothing like it. After all what we need in life is peace and happiness - be happy and have a great weekend
• Trinidad And Tobago
11 Jul 09
U are welcome sis,, my other idea about life is,, I want ,,I want ,,want,,and God knows what we NEED,, so we get what is best for us,,keep smiling
@taztheone (1721)
• India
5 Sep 09
I do agree that life can't be perfect. Most of the times, it is very true that we do compromise on almost many things. If we expect a house worth 10 million, we might have to settle for a house worth half a million! The real factor lies on how well you adjust to the situation
@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
5 Sep 09
Hi taztheone, Thanks a lot fot r your response I agree with you , life is largely made of compromises. Some lucky few may have to compromise to a far lesser degree but some have to do it all the time. It wholly depends on a person how well he/she is able to cope with a particular situation and make the best of a worst situation - Have a great weekend
@saw2207 (1359)
• United States
10 Jul 09
As I have often heard it said . . "we make plans and god laughs" In other words it is important to know when to let go and to be able to recognize that even the most ordinary life is special. Life may not always turn out as we plan but I think with a little hope, faith and believing we can make our lives the best we can . .and hopefully make a difference in the the lives of others. [i] After all we are only We Are Spiritual Beings Having A Human Experience"[/i]
@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
10 Jul 09
So very true ! thanks a lot for your views saw, I absolutely agree with you.We have to mould our life depending on the circumstances. I too have always felt that it is much wiser not to waste time thinking about what could have been, but go about making , what can it be,under the circumstances...
@anetteh (3590)
• Sweden
11 Jul 09
hi kiran8. Life is not a bed or roses, and yes compromises is done every day of your life. In every decision there is a compromise. Life is not a free will. There are always things do cosider. Family Is one precious rose of the life, however, compromises with family is done every day. Work is also one precious rose of your life, and I do compromise every day there. Compromises, are indeed something we have to go through in order to make your life perfect, if it ever be...
@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
11 Jul 09
Hi anetteh, Thank you so much for your response - I agree that life definitely is not a bed of roses.I doubt if life becomes perfect even after all those compromises. One is left wondering, Is that all there is in life ? - Have a great weekend and happy mylotting
22 Jul 09
I like this and it seems your philosophy is in many ways in tune with mine. I have a life plan so to speak, built from the dream of how I envisage my perfect life would be. Everything I do is focussed on achieving this life plan, but also in the knowledge that life changes, things don’t go your way all the time and unless you are willing to go with the flow you will soon become despondent by things which spoil your plans. The thing to remember is that although something may come along and spoil your plans it could open a whole new exciting avenue you could have never imagined.
@Bloggership (1104)
• Indonesia
13 Jul 09
Life is never perfect... That's what i thoughts so too kiran8... Most of things that i have planned were was never work out smoothly and succeed very well... You were right anyway... compromises and prepares for something we couldn't excepted is the best way to deal with all life failure...
@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
13 Jul 09
Hi Bolggership, Yes it never is perfect, nor does it turn out the way we plan it. But that is the mystery of life.Once we accept that is the same for all, it becomes easier to deal with life and its complexities - all the best and happy mylotting
@suprad1 (251)
• India
11 Jul 09
I agree that life is atleast 80% compromise. We need to do a balancing act in managing good and bad things for our good and day to day affairs. We may have to lie at times to convince a few important people in order to get things done or for progress. Happy balancing !!
@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
11 Jul 09
Hi suprad, welcome to mylot and thanks for your response . I agree it is important to balance our priorities etc so that they don't clash. One becomes quite an expert with it as one goes through life, even telling lies...But at the end of the day when you look back - All the best and happy mylotting
• Philippines
11 Jul 09
I agree with your observation that Life is not perfect and full of mysteries. So I guess, we just need to be ready all time.
@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
11 Jul 09
Hi entrepinoy, thanks a lot for your response ...
• India
11 Jul 09
Its true that life is totally a part of compromises and adjustments, as we all know that in every part of life may be in schools, colleges, in jobs,married life , with childrens, so happened in my life too every way i am just adjusting with all my friends, with my family members , in doing higher studies ..if my plan will not rock , so what i will go for another plan but will never feel failure .wat will u do ?
@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
11 Jul 09
Hi rosyevening, welcome to mylot and thanks a lot for your response . I guess it is the same for every body, adjustments and compromises in life. As long as it is balanced things will be fine, but when it begins tilting one way or the other there is trouble.....All the best and have a great weekend