His status message saying 'Busy – Do Not Disturb'.... what d???

Singapore
July 15, 2009 11:24am CST
You see someone on the chat window whom you seriously want to chat with. But they have a status message saying 'Busy – Do Not Disturb'. What would you do? Actually in my messenger, most of the time, i will sign in but not in active or status online and most of the time BUSY or DONT DISTURB ME... Some people may say, if you dont want to be called or chatted, then... better not to sign in at all... whats the reason to have messenger account but you never use them? Its because once my friend will buzz me, i will spontaneously reply them and chikka or chat until i will forget the time to sleep... i can ask them a lot of things... especially if its a very old friend,.. i will sure ask them another friend who were our classmates... the experiences we had... and anything that comes unexpectedly during chatting. Most of the time, a friend will message and buzz me and not me... So, when i see someone on the chat window... i want to chat with them... i just wait until such time they will be the 1st who will message or approach me... so i know that they are ready to chat with me... How about you?
2 people like this
18 responses
• India
16 Jul 09
hmm...Even if I have a do not disturb status msg I usually still chat for a few minutes if my friends buzz me....not for a long time though.. :]
1 person likes this
@kevchua (1004)
• Malaysia
16 Jul 09
Often, people forget to change their status. When you send them a message, suddenly they would reply. Hey, they're not that busy after all. So if you really want to talk to someone, just leave him (or her) a message. They might really be busy, or they might just have forgotten to change the status. If that person still doesn't respond despite leaving a couple of messages then he (or she) is a really impolite person.
1 person likes this
@darksorrow (4667)
• Bangladesh
16 Jul 09
I stay invisible but change my messenger status rarely. I don't like it. Well i also love to chat if the other person is talkative. I am no good myself.lol But if i want to talk with someone i just buzz them and chat with them. And i also don't buzz people always. If they buzz me anytime i chat with them.
1 person likes this
@dinxcarin (595)
• Singapore
16 Jul 09
I do that too. Just to keep nonsense messages away. I just wana remain visible to my friends so they will know I'm just around, anytime. Sometimes, if I am really so busy and don't want any disturbance at all. I don't log in.
@EliteUser (3966)
• Australia
13 Sep 09
Hey, I personally leave them alone, even though they are online. It just isn't that good practice to disturb them, I just leave them alone. I never try and chat to them, they might get angry at me for some reason. Make sure you have a good day, Happy Lotting!!
@Shery32 (424)
• Saudi Arabia
20 Jul 09
I know many ppl who would not care what it says and start talking and if you dont say anything back they think you are ignoring them!!! It is better to show yourself as offline to avoid this especially if you know ppl of this type :D thx
@becdmd (705)
• Philippines
16 Jul 09
I also sometimes don't want to be disturb especially if I'm busy, the reason why I logged in is because I just to see who's online, and maybe chat with them after I'm done with what I'm doing. But sometimes, my friends buzz me even if I'm busy so I usually go for invisible status...hehe also when there's someone I tend to aviod chatting with. But most of the time I'm available and catch up with old friends. (^_^)
@smileonstar (4012)
• United States
16 Jul 09
a few years ago, I was so addicted to chat and I would chat from morning to morning... and I just couldn't stop. Now, I am tired of it... Most of the time, I dont have those kind of message in my chat box for anyone to see... if I dont want to chat then I just be invisible. Most of the time, I think, if they put that message then it means they are busy with someone else who on that chat or busy doing something else on internet... I will not bored too if they dont want me too... im sure, if they want to talk to me then they will pm me right the way.
@skysuccess (8880)
• Singapore
16 Jul 09
manya_pearl, I feel that it is just normal for people to sign in on the MSN or similar online chat channels and not chat with reasons known only to them. I think it is their intention to be so, one of the reason being that they have other things to do with the computer like posting and responding in myLot. Signing in means that we are opening up our communication channel so that those of us whom we know will be able to keep in touch or know that we are around to talk as and when we or they feel like it. I feel that the people that commented: "if you dont want to be called or chatted, then... better not to sign in at all... whats the reason to have messenger account but you never use them?" as way off and laid back. I mean don't they know that most of the email accounts like gmail, hotmail and yahoo are all chat linked. It is just insensitive and ignorant on their part. Besides, if they have been observant enough most of these users do not bother configuring the setups so sometimes with the default settings of their applications, one can sometimes be mistaken for being anti-social. However, as in all relationships, it doesn't hurt or bothersome to take the initiative of reaching out even if their online chat application shows that they are "Busy" or "Away" or "Unavailable". I mean what's wrong with saying "Hi" first for these people? I just wonder.
@Shaun72 (15965)
• Palatka, Florida
15 Jul 09
I don't chat a whole lot myself either online. Unless I'm not busy or if I am in the mood to chat after I am finished with what I am doing online then I am ready to chat.
@LadyMarissa (12160)
• United States
15 Jul 09
If any of my friends are marked "Busy - Do Not Disturb" I respect their wishes & don't disturb them...no matter how bad I want to chat with them. If I change my status to "Busy" & somebody sends me a message I curse & then ignore it. I have one friend who is ALWAYS on "Busy" so I NEVER try & contact him. I know he's NOT busy but if he doesn't want to chat, that's his business!!! When I think about it, I'm just wanting to say hello...not chat.
• United States
15 Jul 09
Here is the key, if you log on to messenger or whatever service you use, you are saying "hi I'm here come talk to me". At this point the status messages are meaningless, if you don't want to be chatted with, then don't log in....plain and simple.
• United States
15 Jul 09
If im online to chat than i will keep it as "online", but if i have some word to get done i will set it as "busy".
• India
15 Jul 09
Well same here.. miss pearl.. In my yahoo messanger.. mos of the times.. i am invisible ot my status message will be busy.. rarely my message will be availabe.. But some of my close freind.. who want to chat me.. then buzz.. me.. If i want to chat then i replied them Some times when i am on invisible mode..if some person have urgent work.. then they send scap to orkut.. i am always online.. So seeing scrap many times a day..
• Philippines
15 Jul 09
I will really put busy if I am busy and I know that my friends are the same thing, once I see their status as busy, I don't buzz them or so, specially if I know that they access their internet only in their office. So it does not mind me at all nor will I feel anything bad since I myself am busy too and what is important is I do reply them when they beep or write a message. For now, i don't seem to message them first, most of the time they will beep me since i keep my pc on for hours, sometimes i am cooking, or cleaning.
@akuler (3534)
• Malaysia
15 Jul 09
Hi manya_pearl, Since we can automatically set the availability status on our messenger, I always put it not available/not online. The reason I do this because I have something to do that need my full attention. I don't want to be disturb. I usually open it because I expecting something important to be sent to me. In your friends case, maybe (just maybe) he has a same situation with me. OR he was online with someone else and didn't want to be disturb by others. Since your intention is just for chit chatting then I think you shouldn't bother about that. If you can't chat with him, just send an e-mail and ask whats going on.
@ShellyB (5242)
• United States
15 Jul 09
Well I used to be on AOL where they sign you in automatically whatever you want or not, so I can see people doing that. I have yahoo mail where there is this chatting service too, and once I am reading my email it will log me onto whatever I want to chat or not, I just want to check my email and move on, or be on Mylot. I do not chat anymore, I am the one hiding away.
• Philippines
15 Jul 09
I sometime do that - putting 'Busy - Do Not Disturb' as my status in my messenger. But if a friend would pop up or buzz, I would still answer them and reply politely that I have to get back to them later since I am currently busy and they won't disturb me again. But soon as my work is done, they I will buzz each and everyone of them and chat it out all the way.