What gift you will buy if you go to a wedding?Or maybe you will give just money?

@icesmile (7160)
Romania
July 15, 2009 2:15pm CST
Do You Give Check Or Cash For Monetary Wedding Gift? Peoples have different ways to help 2 who got marry. In my country people like to give some gifts or most of them like to give money, to help young people who will marry. Usual parents, if have money, buy a house or a car for theirs kids when they marry, if not help with money. Wedding is not a bussiness in my opinion, and everybody can buy or give what they have, but i prefear to buy something for new home, something who remind the future married people that i was there in the most happy day from they life. What you can say about your costums from your country? Gifts or money?
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@frinces (419)
• Philippines
16 Jul 09
It is a Filipino tradition to give a newly wed couple a porcelain container called "arinola". I don't get the logic. I find it weird and funny. I used to attend weddings and I also give present. I am shy to give an arinola so I give a similar token which is cups and/or palayok.Lol!
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@icesmile (7160)
• Romania
16 Jul 09
Hi, what for is this "arinola"? i am corious!
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@frinces (419)
• Philippines
17 Jul 09
Arinola is like a basin made of metal, plastic or porcelain. It is a portable toilet bowl.
@UK_Shree (3603)
15 Jul 09
I definitely do prefer to give a gift, but then sometimes, like you said, for a young couple it may be money that is the most useful to them as they will probably need as much as they can get in order to begin their new lives together. I agree that money is so much more personal though. I guess it depends on the couple.
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@icesmile (7160)
• Romania
16 Jul 09
Yes, i think that money can help..but you know i know parents who after wedding ask all money, because they pay for ceremony, to my wedding, many years ago....i am divorced now, all money take my hus mother...was so ..i really don t find the word, i never forgive her for this...after so many years, i can t forgot
@UK_Shree (3603)
20 Jul 09
That's not very nice. I do not think there should be any expectations to pay parents back for that kind of expense unless it is discussed and agreed before hand. Plus it was your money as well as his, and therefore you should have had equal say over what happened to that money.
• Philippines
16 Jul 09
My family is accustomed of giving checks to the newlyweds so i might do the same when i grow up.Ü
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@icesmile (7160)
• Romania
16 Jul 09
Is a good idea, to give checks, in same time they don t buy a gift too?
@shimanaja (494)
• Indonesia
16 Jul 09
In this life like now..in my country people prefer give the money than the gift.. cause the money more flexible to use. But some parents if they have money..also buy a house or car for thie kids..its the same thing..
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@icesmile (7160)
• Romania
16 Jul 09
Seems that people just to help[ for new home, is nice, they really need it
@vingyan06 (2487)
• Malaysia
16 Jul 09
I prefer to buy gifts for them Anyhow, in my country, people use to give money in a red packet to the couple. Especially comes to the family or relatives wedding, money would come first for the couples. This is what people in my country practise to do so. Sometimes, when it is my friends wedding, I would buy gift for them. Maybe just a gift for memories such as photo frame, couple T shirt or anything else. On top of that, I will give a red packet for them as well. So meaning I give gift and money to them.
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@icesmile (7160)
• Romania
16 Jul 09
Me too, i like give money, because all give money, but for sure that i will buy a small gift too
@zhuhuifen46 (3484)
• China
16 Jul 09
In our culture, we give money at the weddings, and between relatives or close friends, we also give gifts, mostly for home decorations. The bed wares are usually prepared by the parents according to tration, though nowadays the new couple will take care by themselves. With the rise of wedding cost, the gift money is up accordingly. Though we like to attend weddings to our beloved, the expenses could sometimes be a big burden both for senior and junior.
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@icesmile (7160)
• Romania
16 Jul 09
Same here, close friends and relatives, will give money and gifts too.
@sweetyethot (1737)
• China
16 Jul 09
Up to now,I only give money to my married friends, and most of them give the money back to me.In my hometown,its more common to give money to young couples cuz its hard to choose gifts that couples like.If the couples accept the money,they should give the same amount or more back to you when your it saves troubles and the couples can buy anything they like using the money.
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@icesmile (7160)
• Romania
16 Jul 09
I wonder if there people like to help each other, maybe they like to receive gifts too.
@Tallygirl09 (1384)
• United States
16 Jul 09
Interesting points! I have been to weddings where the couple asked for cash to help with the downpayment on a home and that made many guests uncomfortable. Then one has to decide how much is right and that can be tough. I always give a gift that I know that the two of them will enjoy, tho it might be tickets to a special ski weekend or something like the theater. It can be hard to know what others will like so sometimes it can be difficult for me to decide. I usually try to find out what they want if they have a wedding registry they list the items they want, the brands, china patterns and such and then that makes things alot easier but in a way less personal.
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@icesmile (7160)
• Romania
16 Jul 09
Hi, wedding registry is the best idea,in this way people don t buy same gift, all will buy some special and unique.
@neknek (250)
• Philippines
16 Jul 09
i'd probably go with gifts. well, i do agree that money will be more useful for the couple but a gift is better if your budget is constrained.
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@icesmile (7160)
• Romania
16 Jul 09
I m for gifts too, but sometimes they really need money, depend
@dreamr802 (986)
• United States
16 Jul 09
Depends on who is getting married. Depending on who it is I will buy them something nice that is on their registry or give them money. When I get married, I would personally like to have money so that we would be able to use that towards a down payment on a house or something like that.
@icesmile (7160)
• Romania
16 Jul 09
Hi, yes, you right money can help for a new home, weddings tend to be sometimes just a bussines, maybe is good, maybe is wrong, who knows?
@Barbietre (1439)
• United States
16 Jul 09
In NY the brides have enagagement parties and then big bridal showers and get all sorts of gifts.So when it come time for the wedding, we all give money, it is easier, plus at the receptions ( which are usually big) there are NO gift tables.
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@icesmile (7160)
• Romania
16 Jul 09
Hi, seems that money is the best gifts, for many countryes
@youless (105476)
• Guangzhou, China
16 Jul 09
I still tend to give money as the wedding gift. As I am afraid my gift is not useful for the couples. Perhaps the money is much more practical. At least they can buy whatever they like. Actually it is quite common for us to give money as the gift in the wedding. I love China
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@icesmile (7160)
• Romania
16 Jul 09
Maybe you right, but i really like to buy something, a nice thing who will remind them that i were there.
@tigeraunt (6331)
• Philippines
16 Jul 09
wedding gifts in our country usually are material things that could be helpful to the newlyweds. i like giving little appliances. my choices are electric fans, coffee maker, dvd player, and many others. kitchen utensils is also good. money is usually given in the ceremony when the groom and the bride dances and everyone pins money of any amount to the clothes the couple are wearing. its fun. what's your custom? ann
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@icesmile (7160)
• Romania
16 Jul 09
Hi, here people to religious wedding, give money, to help for new home, and i can say that is a kind of change, because people who come let s say to my son wedding, all will invite me to theirs kids weddings. But when they just make a legal wedding, i mean when is official, people buy gifts for home, all what new people need for house.
@greenline (14845)
• Canada
16 Jul 09
If I know the bride and the bridegroom well enough and know what their preferences are , I would get that as the gift. Otherwise, give money which they could use as they wish for their needs.
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@icesmile (7160)
• Romania
16 Jul 09
Maybe we give money when we know that they really need money, if are some rich people, i will buy a nice gift for sure
@meyows (438)
• India
16 Jul 09
If I don't know much about them I'll give money, or if I know their likings, then I'll buy their favourite gift for them.
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@icesmile (7160)
• Romania
16 Jul 09
Same here, if i know them, i will give them both, a gift and money, i fno....just money
@anniefannie (1737)
• United States
15 Jul 09
it depends on who the person is and what that person needs it what i give them.it is ok to give what you want to here and what you can afford or it is with my family and friends
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@icesmile (7160)
• Romania
16 Jul 09
Of course, depend who will marry, if is somebody from my family i will give both, money and gift, if is somebody who i don t know very well, for sure that i will give money
@doormouse (4619)
15 Jul 09
i find gift vouchers are the best present,coz they can choose what they want
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@icesmile (7160)
• Romania
16 Jul 09
Is a really good idea, they need so many when they will marry....i apreciate your ifea..
@mrakobesie (1246)
• United States
15 Jul 09
i love to give something special, something that has a meaning to the people who get married... i think the best gift for my wedding with my boyfriend would be a bottle of gray goose, it has a spacial meaning to us, that vodka brought us together. so something like that would be a good gift in my opinion. i think anyone can give money, or pillow cases, but not many know what has a special meaning, not many know you well enough... so gifts that have that special meaning is what i think the best gift is, for marriage and all other occasions.
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@icesmile (7160)
• Romania
16 Jul 09
As i say i like to give special gifts too, even i will give money, all time i buy something for the bride, she need a lot of things after marriage
@cher913 (25844)
• Canada
15 Jul 09
we usually end up going to a lot of weddings just because my hubby does the sound for our church and if they want sound when they get married, they need him. so either we get invited to the wedding, or get money given to us. i have a standard gift that i give to the couples that are getting married. we buy a nice big bowl (sort of fancy, perhaps pottery) and buy all the fixings for spaghetti and sometimes we add popcorn and a movie to it too. its not an expensive present but it is something different.
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@icesmile (7160)
• Romania
16 Jul 09
yes, you right, is nice to try to give something special in a special moment
• United States
15 Jul 09
My cousin got married on Saturday. She regestered for many items for her new home and I know that many people bought things on her list. I helped throw a party for her and so that is where my money was spent that I would have given her. (normally we would be able to do both but not this year) The other thing that I did was a group effort. My mom, sister and husband all took many pictures not only of the cerimony but also of the reception and I made her a disk that had all of the pictures on it the next morning. It is waiting for her at her mom's house, she will have atleast some wedding pictures as soon as she returns from her honeymoon.
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@icesmile (7160)
• Romania
16 Jul 09
Is a great idea too, money help of course, but special gifts help more, i am sure