Is SORRY enough?
By kissie34
@kissie34 (2294)
Philippines
July 15, 2009 8:24pm CST
When someone had done something wrong to you and he/she ask for your forgiveness, do you easily forgive him/her? What if that mistakes hurt you so badly, is sorry enough to heal the pain?
Well, I'm not in a situation of forgiving someone. This topic just came up into my mind a while ago. 
And I'm just too curious to know. Honestly, when someone ask for my forgiveness no matter how painful she/he had done to me, I can still forgive him/her for as long as he/she is sincere in asking for forgiveness and promise me that he/she won't do it again.
However, even though I forgive him/her already there is still a questions in my mind. If sorry is already enough to heal the pain, if sorry can undo the things that had happened, and if sorry is enough to forget everything.
What is you opinion or stand in this topic? Please share your thoughts/opinions/ideas in my discussion.
Happy mylotting
And I'm just too curious to know. Honestly, when someone ask for my forgiveness no matter how painful she/he had done to me, I can still forgive him/her for as long as he/she is sincere in asking for forgiveness and promise me that he/she won't do it again.
However, even though I forgive him/her already there is still a questions in my mind. If sorry is already enough to heal the pain, if sorry can undo the things that had happened, and if sorry is enough to forget everything.
What is you opinion or stand in this topic? Please share your thoughts/opinions/ideas in my discussion.
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30 responses
@beho82770 (63)
• Philippines
16 Jul 09
Sometimes it is enough to say sorry if accompanied with a sincere heart. Pain and emotional trauma can get months or years to subside but the important thing is both parties are willing to admit their weakness and ready to settle the differences as soon as possible. The only thing that will change is your trust for that person. Forgiveness can be achieved.....but the subject of trust is something that is very hard to earned nowadays. Humans tend to harbor bitter thoughts and emotions depending on the gravity of the pain inflicted on them. On my own experience..its quite difficult for me to regain that trust to the person who offended me or mistreated me and asks for forgiveness. I can only forgive but it will take some time before I can trust that person again.
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@kissie34 (2294)
• Philippines
30 Jul 09
I agree with all the things you've said. Nowadays, people can't be trusted already. Sometimes when your try or give your trust to that person he/she will hurt you at the end with means or not. Pain is the most difficult to forget especially if that person means a lot to you. The word "sorry" is somehow acceptable but it can't heal the pain in that simple just like the word. It needs to do some certain actions and need to prove that she/he made a mistake.
Thank you for sharing..
@danilliam (278)
• Philippines
16 Jul 09
no.sorry not enough to forgive.it is first thing to do then make up for the wrong things that person did.i remember a good quote in text message about sorry.
it says that people have the misconception that a single word can make everything that is mistake right again.it makes everything alright again.i not agree because saying one word is very easy but actually feeling forgiveness or actually feeling sorry is very hard and different thing.people who made wrong have to say sorry first and have to work hard to make every things right again.
@kissie34 (2294)
• Philippines
23 Jul 09
Yes, I agree with you. Saying the word "sorry" is very easy but its so hard to know whether that person of what he/she said. Sometimes asking forgiveness need to do it in action because as what they said "action speak louder than words". Thanks for sharing.. Happy posting! 
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@ladym33 (10979)
• United States
16 Jul 09
I guess it depends on how deep and deliberate the betrayal was. Some things just hurt too badly for a simple apology to ease the pain. For other things I'm sorry is enough. But if the betrayal is really deep, I can accept the apology but not yet forgive or forget the act, the person would have to prove to me that they are truly sorry and that they will not do it again. If I hand over my trust and it is betrayed again, I don't think I could forgive it a second time.
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@kissie34 (2294)
• Philippines
24 Jul 09
Forgiving is so easy for me to give but forgetting the things that she/he had done its no way, it takes so much time before I recover. When someone hurt me so much I can forgive him/her but the relationship that we have before won't be the same already. I will not trust him/her anymore. Maybe in some time but same as you she/he must prove something that he/she is worthy to trust again.
Thanks for sharing..
@blungel0830 (841)
• Philippines
16 Jul 09
In my opinion, I think I can forgive someone who has hurt me deeply if he or she has apologized for the mistake and has asked for forgiveness. However, healing from the hurt can take sometime to heal and can affect the way I relate to the person who has hurt me. It can take time to heal, but it will heal. Time heals all wounds.
@kissie34 (2294)
• Philippines
30 Jul 09
Me too.. I can also forgive someone who made a mistake to me for as long as I can see his/her sincerity in asking forgiveness. I believe that when a person wants to forget and move on to the past then the pain can easily be healed. Well, of course that is really depends to that person.
Thanks for sharing!
@colydf (913)
• China
16 Jul 09
I think it depends. Sometimes sorry is enough, when they do not mean to hurt you, or they really recognize that what they did was totally wrong and have a good attitude towards you. While sometimes sorry is far from enough. Sometimes people say sorry, but they do not feel sorry at all in their inner heart.
@kissie34 (2294)
• Philippines
11 Sep 09
In your case, how would you know that the person is really sincere in asking an apology to you? and vice versa? Sometimes, I'm thinking that sorry isn't really enough to forgive someone. Sorry can't change the mistakes that they have done in the past and most of all the pain can't healed with a simple apology. Pain can cause so much problems and troubles, so how could the word sorry be enough? [em] hehehe.. These are some things that stock on my mind about this topic.
Anyways, thanks for sharing..
[em] hehehe.. These are some things that stock on my mind about this topic.
Anyways, thanks for sharing.. 
@kissie34 (2294)
• Philippines
30 Jul 09
I heard that line in the movie before.. But it makes sense.. If simple "sorry" is enough then why do we still have a law? Sorry can just easily say to someone but its so hard to prove that a person is really sorry for what happen. It takes time and effort for someone to forgive. That's life.. I know that we are just human being who needs to forgive but as what most people says "human being are not perfect" so for not being perfect means "its not easy to forgive".
Thanks for sharing..
Thanks for sharing..
@ShellyB (5241)
• United States
16 Jul 09
I do not think that sorry is enough, one has to show one is sorry and sometimes one has to make amends for the things one had done, when that's not possible, and all we have our words, it is best to give what we have and move on.
And when it is time for us to forgive, one can do the same..
That's the way I feel.
Is best not to hurt others if one can avoid it, trust me.
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@kissie34 (2294)
• Philippines
16 Jul 09
Of course, hurting someone isn't really nice thing to do. Well, I agree with you the word "sorry" isn't enough to forgive someone. He/she must do something for the mistakes that she/he had done. One must show his/her sincerity that he/she is sorry for the things he/she had done. Remember, sorry can't change the things that happen.
Anyways, thank you for sharing.
@Ruby_Dawn (617)
• Spokane, Washington
16 Jul 09
this is a tricky question for me..I do try to forgive anyone who is sincerely sorry,but sometimes I hear "I am sorry" so much that I wonder if the person is really sorry or just trying to get me un-mad or hurt so they dont have to fight with me or try to make up
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@kissie34 (2294)
• Philippines
23 Jul 09
Well, when someone is asking for forgiveness then it only means that she/he don't want to get worst of the problem or doesn't want a fight. It is just my idea and I'm saying it as a fact. When someone say sorry it makes me feel good because that person is admitting that he/she made a mistake and she/he don't want to get worst of the problem. Of course, I'm not sure on how much he/she really mean it but I appreciate it.
Thanks for sharing!
Thanks for sharing!
@jayrene (2708)
• Philippines
16 Jul 09
that really depends on the degree of the mistake done to me. i am the kind of person that cannot forget every single thing and hurt that someone has done to me. and i find it hard to forgive also. but if its just some simple mistakes, i can let it go but will not forget it and will be careful sometimes with that friend.
if i got hurt real bad, no sorry can make up for it, it would take years before i can let go of the hurt, and can talk to the person again. this has happened to me already.
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@kissie34 (2294)
• Philippines
24 Jul 09
I understand since I also experienced same thing as you. The only difference that we have it took only a few weeks before I forgive that person. I'm a kind of person who easily accept sorry for the mistakes had done even though it cause so much pain to me. Of course, I don't easily forget the pain she/he had done and because of this even though I forgive him/her it doesn't mean that our friendship were still the same. There will be so much changes in our relationship and the way I treat him/her. The reason why i forgive that person it's because I want to have a peace of mind and to stop getting worst of the problem/fight. I want to have a peaceful life and to have so many friends.
Anyway, thanks for sharing!
Anyway, thanks for sharing! 
@sauravkapil (101)
• India
16 Jul 09
yaahh u r right ... actualy becz of me i also hearted a girl name poorva bt i really dnt want to hearyt her..... few of my frnds has done sumthng wrong wd her... we was vry frank bef4 it bt as she knw tht i hv don wrng wd her she felt vry vry vry bad even me too. when i meet frst tyme with her after that i directly said sorry to her n she also forgive me bt i knw she had forgv me only frm outside nt frm heart
@cintiu0110 (26)
• Philippines
16 Jul 09
a simple sorry i guess is enough to cover up the pain or the hurt,depends upon the sincerity of the person involve,the qoute "forgive and forget" is a big phrase and so usable for this kind of situation,inreality it's really hard to accomplish this specially when the hurt is to deep.But let us always remember that even God always forgives us in our day to day sins consciously or unconsciously done,.LOVE God our self and others to be able to this things.LOve forgives and forgets.
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@doinkyroinky (162)
• Philippines
16 Jul 09
It is good to know if one says sorry, they are quite repentant. But i guess what is more important is that we are careful with what we say for hurtful words can break a person's heart that no amount of sorry can heal. Tactfulness is a MUST.
@littleowl (7157)
•
18 Jul 09
Hi kissie, many times life has given me kicks in the ribs and slaps on the face, I have been hurt and broken but always got up dusted myself down and carried on, as for forgiving eventually I do forgive but NEVER forget, am like an elephant that way, but to me why keep holding the hurt and pain in, it can make you bitter and revengeful..that isn't what life is about it is about loving and forgiving even if people wrong you, hugs LoLo
@ucue2008 (924)
• Malaysia
16 Jul 09
No, sorry cannot heal everything. Sorry can come in many ways, some people can say sorry sincerely, while some say sorry as an excuse only, so that the other party will releive, or sorry as a mean to deceive somebody, so it kind hard to know which sorry is sincere or not. Even with tear, it still cannot determine anything for sure. I'm a person who can easily forgive, but not exactly forget. I can still accept that person even though he keep making the same mistake over and over again, but then during that time, I already building my defence mechanism and be more careful. I'm kind that person.
@ckyera (17332)
• Philippines
16 Jul 09
sorry would be enough for me is the mistake is just a simple one, like accidentally stepping on my feet, bumping me...like that. but when feelings is involved...i think sorry is just a good start...but not enough to erase all the pain and forgive right away...i mean, don't get me wrong, i can forgive anybody who have hurt me, even how painful it is, but it takes time...i am not a hypocrite to say that just a sorry can make me forgive someone right away...okay, he said sorry..but was he really sorry? i mean a person should act on it...aside from saying those words sincerely, he have to show me that he was really sorry and show me that he has changed and deserved to be forgiven...
this already happens to me, a boyfriend have sinned on me, hurt me so bad...he said he was sorry for what happened and he don't really want that to happen and told me that i should forgive him and give him another chance for he really loves me and willing to do anything just to prove how sorry he was...forgiveness don't come easily, i mean the real forgiveness that accompanies forget and acceptance. that day that he said sorry i partially forgive him and say yes i have forgiven you but not totally...hehehe i said not totally coz on one part of my heart i can't still forget and accept what happens and so he do his best to show that he really are sorry and yes he proves it...and after a year or two, that only the time i think i really forgiven him totally...the time that i don't feel any hurt anymore even we talk about the mistake that he have done to me...and thus i can say that i have forgiven him and i accept him again and forget everything behind...
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@jaizhi (260)
• Philippines
17 Jul 09
I can forgive him/her... but then forget him/her as well... joke...
For real I can forgive him/her with that simple I am sorry... But it will take time for me to forget the pain. And it will be something to consider when it comes to trusting him/her again.
@Thelmaxt (14)
• China
16 Jul 09
i can forgive when someone had hurt me.most of time i don't think this is a good character, but i hard to be cool when they say 'sorry' to me.not all behaviour can be forgiven just for a simple word, and then it's up to his/her attitude.if he/she is sincere in asking for forgiveness,i can accept.but if he/she not,i also can,but i could keep a certain distance to him/her.sorry just a word ,but the scar in heart is hard to be cured.
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