Hugger Or Not...

Hello there! I don't like hugging another man. I don't think men are lovely, and sweet, like women. And I don't like hugging women who are too selfish. I enjoy, though, hugging good friends, who I know I can hug without any problems. Hugging is somewhat intimate move. Instead of hugging, I shake hands with men and kiss women on their cheek as a greeting move. It is common here in Brazil. If somebody comes hugging me, I won't deny it. But I might not enjoy it. Respectfully, Munhozmib.

I'm not real comfortable with the hugs but the older family members love this so I just give a quick hug back, would just as well say hi or touch on the arm.

I am a hugger , i hug anyone who wants to hug...If i have not seen someone in a long time i really give them a great big hug...

I am a deep southerner and was taught to hug at a very young age. It is not only acceptable but expected where I grew up. Handshakes were taught to create a personal space and were considered more formal and generally exchanged among men. Upon moving away from home I then had to learn to not be so touchy-feely but rather offer a firm handshake. I try to take a clue for the person I am dealing with; some want to be hugged, some want to shake hands, and others want you to speak from a distant or make no acknowledgment at not at all; their body language will generally give me a clue as to how they want to be greeted.

hi twoey if I know the person well I love it, but if its a perfect stranger I will bear it but back up a bit, my family were not touchy feely p eople so I learned to be more comfy with hugging from my husband, he would sneak up behind me and hug me, first few times I jumped then I learned to really love it. I dont usually hug my friends unless they are the hugger type then I join in with a hug. usually I will pat a friends arm and stuff like that but I am not really a hugger. I do shake hands with those I dont know will and I willput my arm around my best friend too. hatley here.

I am a hugger I like physical contact there are times though when I either dont feel like being touched or I dont get a good feeling about a person and dont want to be close to them those are the times where I either offer a hand shake or just keep my hands to myself

I'm a hugger. I like to greet people with a hug. But I'm also aware not all people are like that, and I remind myself of that fact. I don't mind being greeted with a hug, even if it is a person I have not seen in a while. However, with a stranger I'd rather not be hugged. When I got to know them I'm sure a hug would feel less awkward. But it is pretty clear to me most of the time who is okay with being hugged, and who is not. There is this older man in our church, and each time he sees me, he gives me a hug. But he also kisses my cheek. And I hate that! I'm not going to say anything because he's a sweet man, but I really really wish he wouldn't do that.

It depends entirely on which people they are and the situation. I was not brought up in a "huggy" family so tolerating it was something I had to learn over time as an adult. One has to kind of play it by ear.

Interesting. It really depends on how I feel about the person, if I know them well, if it has been awhile since I have seen them and such as that. If I feel comfortable with the person. If I like them. I have lived in this city all of my life and there are times I meet people I haven't seen for years and you bet, I give them a hug. If they don't grab me for one first.

Although I am not a normal gotta get a hug person, if someone comes at me wanting a hug, they will get it Usually I greet people with a wave of my hand, no handshake unless it is a business situation.

I'm better with it, as I've gotten older, but I can remember just dying at the thought of hugging ANYONE when I was younger. I used to actually avoid receiving lines at weddings. "What if they want to hug me?" eeek... But it is much less awkward now although I really only like to hug people I am close to. Not a fan of being hugged by a stranger!

Hi twoey, I have a few friends I hug but the normal greeting out here is a double kiss on the cheeks, it's just how it is. Sometimes it even extends to arrival and departure so you have to go through the whole thing twice. The men do the same with each other too but not on a daily basis, more usually if they are meeting at a family meal or something, they wouldn't do it generally in the cafenion. I don't mind the greeting unless it's from someone I really can't remember. The men are more likely to shake my hand than double kiss unless we are sharing a meal at a family event, then they will kiss but next time they see you just shake hands. I follow the lead as they are better versed in the rules.

I didn't used to be big on hugs at all. I wouldn't hug people at all. Not people I knew very well, not strangers. My hugs were few and far between. Then, one summer that just changed. Now, I hug people that I know when I greet them. It just seems normal. I don't like hugging people that I don't know. Usually I'll stand with my arms crossed, or I'll offer my hand for a handshake if I don't want to hug someone. Or, I'll just awkwardly wave. It may look awkward, but at least I feel a little btter.

I personally am not a hugger. I will hug someone if they hug me, but I will not be the first to hug.

I will hug close friends with no problem, and some of my relatives, but those who just expect a hug, i don't really feel comfortable hugging, because I feel that they tend to get into my space, and not really understand boundaries. My friends and I know who hugs and who does not and we respect that.

For me, it depends on who it is. For instance, if it's an old friend that I haven't seen in ages I tend to hug them. Same goes for family members, at least when it comes to my side of the family anyway. LOL I don't feel quite as comfortable with some of my husband's side of the family so when I see these particular family members I may just say hello instead. It's funny, back in junior high I went through a phase of hugging others. Even students I didn't like. Fortunately that phase didn't last very long. LOL Happy mylotting!

I feel comfortable hugging some people and not others. Mostly people I'm close to, I don't mind hugging. My brother could hug anyone, he just likes hugging, but at 300 lbs, he's quite intimidating and lets other people initiate a hug, usually, but not with family. Take care.

lord yes i am such a big hugger for sure. hug all my friends and family.

I perfer to hug family members only. I am not conforable about hugging strangers or other people. most of the time I will greet people without touching them.

I will hug friends and family members (most of the time) but if it's a complete stranger, there's no way I'll do it. I say "most of the time" for my friends and family, because there are just times when I don't feel like touching anyone...period. I like to have my personal space. :) Happy MyLotting!