Do you ever feel unwanted?

I never felt like that others are treating me as an unwanted element. In my opinion things should be sorted out whatever it may be with the brothers, sisters and parents. It the problem is with outsiders, we can ignore them.

Hi saundyl~ Why don't you just ask her straight out what's bothering her? That would certainly be what I would do! She's your sister! Just tell her you want to talk to her and ask her! If you didn't do anything you deserve to know why she is upset! From what I know of you I can't imagine you doing anything to anyone to upset them, not even your sister! So please, sit her down and have it out with her! And if you can't do this then have your other sister or your mom step in! I still think it would be best coming from you! You are such an easy going person that I can't believe that you could have done anything really that terrible to piss her off!

Not by my family but I do in some other situations. Let us know how this tured out when you went with them.

i have before at my parents.. i would go over there and yet they would start talking about their church stuff or have to practice for church (they work a lot in theirs) and so they would ignore me and then go do whatever they needed for church.. i was always like thinking "HEY! i drove an hour and i never get to visit and you have all week to plan your church stuff so stop ignoring me!" i mean if i was over all the time then i wouldnt care but if i havent seen them in MONTHS and only have a few hours it bugs me.. and i think they only do it because im not religious and they are trying to make me feel left out in hopes i will wanna join in or something ridiculous!

Well this feel for me is seasonal. It may sound weird but it is true. I often find myself wanted by everybody in the first half of every year and as the time goes by and becomes october i feel people are neglecting me and my precense doesn't seem to be making a differnce in their lives!

All the time!! My big sister recently got back from a weekend away where she texted evryone, and hardly me at all! I texted her a really long thoughtful txt and she just said "I'll txt you later!" and then never did. And then when she got back she was annoyied because i was out shopping with out joint friend, who is apparently "HER friend", when she is actually both of our friends. Also my parents make me feel a bit like this aswell. Especially when i was younger i used to feel like they prefered my sister. She was always doing something better than me, what ever she was doing was always more important. My sister is really smart and well behaved and i just felt really useless and undervalued compared to her. Now i see better that me and her are just different. I have qualities that she doesnt have, and she has some that I dont. Like when my parents go away they generally say to me "Look after everything" leaving me in charge. Which makes me feel really grown up lol, looking after my big sister. So i guess i dont feel it as much now. But there are the odd occasional evenings when i feel left out of what ever activities they are all doing. Did you try talking to your sister and telling her how you feel? She might genuinly not realise she is doing it, or she might have a reason that you are unaware of. She sounds like she is being a bit moody for no good reason. You should go out and have a good time without her and try and let her get over it in her own time, dont let it make you sad or get you down, that will do no good! Just be cheery and happy with her! Hope you two manage to sort things out!!

Yes, it does happen that sometimes I don't feel wanted. It happens that sometimes, I go visit my parents and sister and I feel that I'm not even there, almost as though I'm invisible, that I'm not really part of the family. So, I really understand how you feel, because there are times, when my family makes me feel the same. There are times, when I feel like I'm not important, like I'm not really wanted.