Do you feel that your responses are reflection of your real personality?

@dpk262006 (56767)
Delhi, India
July 23, 2009 2:29am CST
Hi friends, do you feel that when you post new discussions, post your responses to various discussions and when you post comments on the responses received in response to your discussions, you reflect your true self in your comments? I mean to say whatever you post/write is real reflection of your actual personality and nature. To be more precise, is your conduct in the various posts is similar to what you are in real life? I feel that most of the users’ responses/comments tell a lot about their real personalities and if we read their responses closely and carefully, we can come to know at lot about them. When I write here on mylot I more or less subconsciously reveal my real life nature/character here on mylot. I behave on mylot, as I am in my real life. Would like to know your views on this issue. Many thanks in advance.
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@SomeCowgirl (32256)
• United States
23 Jul 09
I feel that it all depends on the discussion at hand as to whether a good glimpse of my true self is offered. If it's something I am passionate about I will be strong in my words, but with trying to be as nice about it as possible. Other times it's something I am interested in, to the point of saying I am passionate, but it's also not something that I am offended by, and therefore while my true personality comes out, you get to see the softer side! On that note, I do try to avoid discussions that can cause confrontations.
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@dpk262006 (56767)
• Delhi, India
23 Jul 09
Hi cowgirl! I agree with you that when we can relate to a discussion, we will write more passionately and would use our 'words' strongly to express ourselves. Hopefully, we would do had it been a real life situation. I have a feeling that you write your responses honestly and I really appreciate your honesty because it also proves that you are very forthcoming. I also avoid confrontations, as it does not serve any purpose and I try not hurt anyone's sentiments, while posting my responses. Many Thanks for the wonderful and excellent response
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@SomeCowgirl (32256)
• United States
23 Jul 09
I believe honesty is the best policy, so I always try to be as honest as possible.
@dpk262006 (56767)
• Delhi, India
24 Jul 09
Hi Cowgirl! Hats off to you. I am impressed with your honesty.
@ckyera (17342)
• Philippines
23 Jul 09
hello there! i think yes, my posts, discussions and comments reflects who am i in real life...coz most of the time, i answer based on my experience or my friend's experiences...i usually talks about my opinion and how i really feel about the topic. usually when i am answering on discussions, i feel like i am really talking to the person who starts the discussion and as much as possible, i want to be realistic and sincere all the time...and actually, i don't respond on discussions that i can't relate.
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@dpk262006 (56767)
• Delhi, India
23 Jul 09
Hi Ckyera! It is great to know that whatever you contribute here on mylot you do it as you would have done it had it been a real life issue. I agree with you while writing so many responses/comments, we sub-consiously get to reveal our real persona. I appreciate you because whatever you express here, you do it honestly and sincerily. I agree with you that when we write a response, we should feel that we are talking to that person. Many Thanks for sharing a wonderful response. dpk
@ckyera (17342)
• Philippines
23 Jul 09
thanks also! and another thing, i just like to add... i think it will be difficult if i reply using fictional situations...hehehe have a nice day!
@dpk262006 (56767)
• Delhi, India
23 Jul 09
Yes, Cky, you are very right, it will be difficult to write 'fiction' here......LOL!
• India
23 Jul 09
Hi Deepak, I think I am a classic case of split personality…a self-contradictory character though I am working on this in the positive direction. What I mean to say is that I am very good at analyzing situations and people and doling out free advise but when it comes to me, I am at a complete loss as to what should be the best course of action. So whatever I say here on mylot is as a neutral observer, a rather clinical observation of situations and people. the moment it becomes personal, you will see me wilting under pressure. But, I must admit that mylot has been a huge help to me on this…the variety of response and suggestions and sharing of common problems that I see here, has made me understand how people deal with different situations and I have tried to emulate them or rather construe my own actions from their suggestions. So you can very well understand that there is indeed a difference, albeit unintentional, between what I write here and what I do in my own life.
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@dpk262006 (56767)
• Delhi, India
23 Jul 09
Hi Sudipta! First of all Heartiest Congratulations on crossing 6000 post mark!! I for one do not feel that you are a classic case of 'split personality or say self contradictory character'. You see when we become neutral to an issue, we always render rational and practical advice, however, if we happen to land in the same trouble, we just cannot advice or guide ourselves, this happens with most of us. I give you an example, why it happens. If you are part of a procession (going on a road), you just cannot imagine or see how the procession appears to others, because you are part of it, however, if you see a procession standing on a roof top, you can view the entire proceession (sitaution) in a neutral manner. Same thing happens when we give advice to others. You would have heard 'A doctor cannot treat himself/herself (s/he goes to another Doctor for advice)". Similarly, we can give suggestions to others, can resolve their issues, however, for solving our own, we resort to others' help. What I gather after interacting with you that whatever your write on mylot or contribute here by way of your discussions/responses, if you happen to face the same issue(s) in your real life, you will behave in the similar fashion/manner because you are very honest in your opinions. Hats off to you Sudipta! Many Thanks for being so honest in your opinions/responses and for being a wonderful friend. Deepak
• India
24 Jul 09
Thnx for such honest appreciation
@dpk262006 (56767)
• Delhi, India
24 Jul 09
Sudipta! I am always honest!!!!!!!!!!!
@thea09 (18319)
• Greece
23 Jul 09
Hi dpk, well if I see a topic I want to respond to I just type what I think at that moment and don't analyse it. I would say my posts reflect my honesty, I have my own opinions and am not afraid to express them but value honesty. I have to be in the mood to answer anything to do with religion as my views will be in the minority so I'm aware it is going to provoke responses which challenge me to prove what I think which is a bit late in the day as my views were formed at an early age and I'm not going to change them now, but these particular topics seem to not allow for the slightest banter or humour which I feel I probably express in much of what I write. Unless we stick to one liners of course we are going to reveal something of our personalities and if we do respond a lot it would be a bit difficult to keep up an invented persona. Now that would be an interesting challenge.
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@dpk262006 (56767)
• Delhi, India
23 Jul 09
Hi thea! It is great to know that whatever you contribute here on mylot you do it as you would have done it had it been a real life issue. I agree with you while writing so many responses/comments, we sub-consiously get to reveal our real persona. I appreciate your notion that we should post what we think is right, not what others want to hear, providing we are not hurting anyone's sentiments. Many Thanks for sharing a wonderful response. dpk
@dpk262006 (56767)
• Delhi, India
23 Jul 09
I fully appreciate your opinion thea, and I also refrain from participating in topics concerning private matters. Thanks for sharing.
• United States
24 Jul 09
I always try to give open, honest answers to discussions that i respond to, how else are we going to help others and give advice or opinions if they are wanting them, if we are not presenting a true "picture" of what we beleive. And besides, i find it hard to lie about such things, and what would be the point in not telling what we actually think anyways? I am genreally a very open person and will give my thoughts freely in the "real" world if asked as well, so i have no problem doing it on line. In fact, online might even be easier, because if you do disagree with someone, at least you are not doing it on a face to face basis where if they don't like what you are saying that can throw a drink in your face! I am sometimes more candid on certian subjects though, and that is because of one reason only. I signed up on Mylot through a referal from my boyfriend who is very active on here. Granted, he and i don't very often wind up in the same discussions, as his passion is politics, and mine is more people and day to day life oriented, but i am sure he occasionally browses through my responses and discussions, as i do his. This only affects my answers in that when i respond to discussions asking for relationship advice, or any personal matter that might involve me telling a story involving him, i don't want him to be upset that i might be sharing personal information about his life here, if it is not something he wants out there for all to see. If he wasn't a fellow mylot member, i would probably be more candid when it comes to these types of posts, as then the judgment would be only on me, and not on him also.
@dpk262006 (56767)
• Delhi, India
24 Jul 09
Hi fruit! Welcome to mylot family. I pretty impressed with last part of your response, where you have written that you remains careful not to write too much because your boy friend is fellow mylotter. For those, who are unknown faces, it is easier to express their real feelings. I feel that you are same in your real life and here on mylot and honesty matters. I also feel that while writing so many responses/comments, we sub-consiously get to reveal our real life persona. Many Thanks for sharing a wonderful response. Deepak
@Opal26 (17690)
• United States
24 Jul 09
Hey dpk! I think you already know my answer!I think you know with me you get the real me in every single work that I type! I am what I write! My response come straight from the heart! Sometimes they're serious, sometimes funny, sometimes caring, sometimes crazy, but no matter what they reflect the way I am in my real life! I try to be a good person in my real life and to me mylot is the same thing! The friends I have made here are very special to me and mean a great deal so I would never try to deceive them by being someone other than myself!
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@dpk262006 (56767)
• Delhi, India
24 Jul 09
Hi Opal! I know about you and I trust you that whatever you write here, you do it as you would do it in your real life. I feel that while writing so many responses/comments, we sub-consiously reveal our real life persona. I know that you are very caring and very honest and you value 'friendship' very much. Many Thanks for sharing a wonderful response. Deepak
@doryvien (2293)
• United States
23 Jul 09
Hi dpk, I believe one's responses can tell so much about his personality. I for one won't respond to a post that doesn't interest me, but I generously give my thoughts (with a lot of information) to those discussions that I can really relate to. When I do this, I am aware that I am giving away a part of me, that I'm allowing myLot community to have a peek at something that is personal to me. Here we give our preferences, our views and opinions, our experiences, even our culture - I can't think of anything more real than this, unless the one responding is deliberately faking it. I've seen many who've shown their real feelings when they respond, even when it means downgrading or losing their star - and that alone is a good indication of the real person behind each post.
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@dpk262006 (56767)
• Delhi, India
24 Jul 09
Hi Dory! I am really impressed with your response. It is really great to know that whatever you contribute here on mylot you do it as you would have done it had it been a issues in your real life. I agree with you while writing so many responses/comments, we sub-consiously reveal our real life persona. And I believe that honesty pays in the long run. I agree with you that some members are very honest and donot feel shy to share their views, even if they are going to lose some stars. Many Thanks for sharing a wonderful response. dpk
@wiccania (3360)
• United States
23 Jul 09
When I started going online and interacting with people back in '95 or so, I decided to do so as myself. No false pretenses, no talking myself up or making myself out to be what I'm not. Just me. That's how I've done everything online since then, including myLot. I just don't see the point of pretending to be something or someone else. In a forum like this, I think it's especially important to post honestly particularly when you're being asked for an opinion. I just started a thread about Wii games. I'm curious as to what people think about the different games out there because I'm thinking about getting more than the 3 I have. I don't want someone to spout reviews from the top gamer magazines. I want to know what games people actually like playing and why they like playing it. And that's what a lot of the topics here are -- people looking for opinions on different subjects. They don't want someone else's opinion in your words -- they want your opinion. Does that make sense?
@dpk262006 (56767)
• Delhi, India
23 Jul 09
Hi wiccania! It is great to know that whatever you contribute here on mylot you do it as you would have done it had it been real life situtations. I can understand your view point that it is difficult for you not to speak the truth and whatever your write, your express it with full honesty, you just cannot pretend. I am impressed with your attitude and I really appreciate your honesty because it also proves that you are very bold and courageous in all the efforts your make. I agree with you that when we post a thread, we want his/her honest opinion and what s/he thinks about the issue. His/her true opinion carries value for us. Many Thanks for the wonderful and excellent response.
@mermaidivy (15404)
• United States
23 Jul 09
That's right! When I respond or post a discussion, what I write really reveals what my real personality is, sometimes I respond to a discussion and wrote like I am scared of stuff and like a wimp... I got replied back and said you are such a wimp or something like that... but it is really personality that I'm easy to get scared :-p I think when we write about our views, it is directly state our characters like strong? weak? or don'tknow what they are doing etc, it is very straight forward :-)
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@dpk262006 (56767)
• Delhi, India
23 Jul 09
Hi mer! It is great to know that whatever you contribute here on mylot you do it as you would have done it had it been a real life issue. I can understand your view point that it was difficult for you not to speak the truth, you wrote your response honestly and I really appreciate your honesty because it also proves that you are very bold and courageous in all the efforts your make, it does not matter if others say you are a wimp, you know what you are. Hats off to you! I believe that we should post what we think is right, not what others want to hear, providing we are not hurting anyone's sentiments. Many Thanks for the wonderful and excellent response
@sublime03 (1809)
• Philippines
23 Jul 09
I believe the responses that we do here is part of how we are real life in terms of our personality. I honestly can say that I have been responding to discussions that I have been thru and yes I put a bit of who I am in almost all of my comments because that is how you relay to the person who is reading your sentiments on a particular subject. Whatever we write we somewhat relay a part of who we are unless you are somewhat someone who loves to write and who can separate his/her personal feelings aside to write something.
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@dpk262006 (56767)
• Delhi, India
23 Jul 09
Hi sub! It is great to know that whatever you contribute here on mylot you do it as you would have done it had it been a real life issue. I agree with you while writing so many responses/comments, we sub-consiously get to reveal our real persona. I feel that we should post what we think is right, not what others want to hear, providing we are not hurting anyone's sentiments. Many Thanks for sharing a wonderful response. dpk
@zandi458 (27951)
• Malaysia
23 Jul 09
Words that come out from you certainly reflects part if not all of your personality. You cannot be pretentious as it is written by you and no one else. Only people who are good mind readers can read you through the words you write. Say if you are a humorous person, it is reflected in the words that you use, there sure be a tint of humor in your writings. If you are a serious minded person every words you write will sound to be serious. If a person is sarcastic, he will also write sarcastically. I think after having been here for a long time, we more or less be able to know each other quite well through our writings. It is not surprising that words can draw people to each other, as has happened here.
@dpk262006 (56767)
• Delhi, India
23 Jul 09
Hi Zandi! When I first started reading your response, I thought that you are talking about 'ME' or analylising my 'personality', however, when I finished reading your response, I realised that you were talking in general. Yes, I completely buy your arguments that how we use 'words' shows whether we are humorous, serious or otherwise. Yes, you are very right after interacting with our friends here on mylot for a long period, we frame a opinion about their 'nature', assuming that they also behave like-wise in their real life. It is also very true that 'words' could draw people closer and intimate. So you and me know how to draw others and how to use our words. Many Thanks for the wonderful and excellent response. Deepak
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@paula27661 (15898)
• Australia
23 Jul 09
I would like to think that they are! I recall once responding to a discussion about parents and the question was something along the lines of “would you take in your parents when they are old?’. There were many replies and most said of course, it is a son or daughter’s duty to take care of their parents...Me, well I did not feel that way because I don’t have a good relationship with my folks. I remember hesitating and wondering how honest I should be in case others thought badly of me. In the end I responded honestly, said no and explained my reasons. That was the start of honest posts. People did not hate me for my opinion even if they didn’t agree and that is how it should be. Post what you feel and think, not just what you think others want to hear, as long as it is not hurtful to anyone of course.
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@dpk262006 (56767)
• Delhi, India
23 Jul 09
Hi paula! It is great to know that whatever you contribute here on mylot you do it as you would have done it had it been a real life issues. As regards, that particular discussion, I can understand your view point that it was difficult for you not to speak the truth, you wrote your response honestly and I really appreciate your honesty because it also proves that you are very bold and courageous in all the efforts your make. Hats off to you Paula! I appreciate your notion that we should post what we think is right, not what others want to hear, providing we are not hurting anyone's sentiments. Many Thanks for the wonderful and excellent response. Deepak
@nehaagra (849)
• Singapore
23 Jul 09
Yep i do feel its true. As whatever discussions that we take part, or whatever discussions we do start, we do it as it does intrests us... There's not all topics we respond to, we respond if its something related to us, in every day to day life, about which we know.. So its true that if you read all the responses of any user, you do know about them a lot..
@dpk262006 (56767)
• Delhi, India
23 Jul 09
Hi Neha! Your response tell me that whatever you contribute here on mylot you try to do it as you do it in your real life. Moreover, you respond to those discussions to which you can relate to. Thanks for sharing your thoughts and being the third one to respond to my discussion.
@balasri (26549)
• India
25 Jul 09
Yes. I never put on anther face here in Mylot. And most of my close friends here like you know me what kind of person I am with my discussions and responses here as I know what kind of person are you. You are a soft gentle man with a very cool and controlled attitude. You are not provoked easily. You love your family and like to lead a peaceful happy life without involving yourself in unwanted adventures. You are not an extrovert. How far I am right Deepak and what do you think of me by my discussions and responses?
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@dpk262006 (56767)
• Delhi, India
25 Jul 09
Hi Bala! It is great to see you in my discussion. I am of the opinion that our responses/discussions reveal a lot about our personality and character and who we actually are and how do we think. After having interacted with you through yours posts, I know about you that you are indeed very fair, consistent and honest and remarkably witty and humorous. I know it that you always write your responses with full honesty. I am happy to be your friend. I am really impressed with your honesty and wonderful response. I just cannot find words to say 'Thanks' to you for making wonderful analysis about me and you are more or less correct in your observations about me and these observations of yours have come out only after we interacted with each other through our posts. So our responses and discussions tell us lot about us. Thanks for enriching the post.
@balasri (26549)
• India
26 Jul 09
My pleasure Deepak.
@dpk262006 (56767)
• Delhi, India
26 Jul 09
• United States
23 Jul 09
Yes. This is the real me. Everything I write is true.I Hate liars.I have no patience for them.When I respond to a post I tell a true story and I hope it helps or answers the question.When I start a post,I am either seeking an answer to a question or venting and hoping there are others who feel the same way.
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@dpk262006 (56767)
• Delhi, India
23 Jul 09
Hi Sarah! It is great to know that whatever you contribute here on mylot you do it as you would have done it had it been real life situtations. I can understand your view point that it is difficult for you not to speak the truth and whatever your write, your express it with full honesty. I am impressed with your attitude and I really appreciate your honesty because it also proves that you are very bold and courageous in all the efforts your make. Hats off to you Sarah! Many Thanks for the wonderful and excellent response.
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• United States
23 Jul 09
Bold? Me? Thanks. In real life I still find myself very shy.to be called bold is a great compliment.Thanks again.
@dpk262006 (56767)
• Delhi, India
24 Jul 09
Hi Sara! I wrote 'bold' in the sense that you have honestly admitted that you write your responses in a realistic manner, as you would have done in the real life situations.
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@PeacefulWmn9 (10424)
• United States
26 Jul 09
Hi Deepak...very interesting question. Yes, I do feel that I am my "real" self and that my personality shows through in my online communications. I have found, too, that others seem to reflect their own unique personalities online. :) Karen
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@dpk262006 (56767)
• Delhi, India
27 Jul 09
Hi Karen! So you are in agreement with the statement that our responses/discussions reveal a lot about our personality and character and who we actually are and how do we think. After having interacted with you through yours posts, I know about you that you are indeed very fair and honest and you always write your responses with full honesty. I am happy to be your friend. I am really impressed with your honesty and wonderful response. Thanks for enriching the post. Deepak
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• United States
27 Jul 09
...and I am happy to be your friend. I have learned much from you already :) Karen
@dpk262006 (56767)
• Delhi, India
11 Aug 09
It is my pleasure to be your friend, Karen.
@sweetie1026 (1723)
• Philippines
25 Jul 09
Yes, i do. Everything i say or post here on mylot reveals my true self. As you have mentioned, your behavior here is your real behavior. When i respond or comment back on comments made to me by fellow mylotters, it is my true self talking. I think, most of us here do or feel that way. In a way we share our inner self to our friends on here.
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@dpk262006 (56767)
• Delhi, India
26 Jul 09
Hi sweet! It is great to know that when your write here you are your true self here and you just cannot pretend. My opinion about you is also the same that you are very fair and honest person. Keep it up! Many thanks for joining us.
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• Philippines
27 Jul 09
Thank you, dpk262006! I am glad that i have met you guys on here. It is so nice to have friends from other parts of the world with whom we can share our ideas and all. Great day to you!
@dpk262006 (56767)
• Delhi, India
27 Jul 09
Hi Sweet!~ We also feel blessed in your company. You are really sweet.
@weng_08 (282)
• Philippines
23 Jul 09
Hello Deepak, how are you? I somehow believe that people get to be more open in writing. That is one reason why some use letters and text messages when they are unable to verbally express it. With writing, we are able to put across things that we can't normally say. Even shy people get the chance to openly communicate their feelings and sentiments through mylotting, and I guess that is their real personalities, in many ways. Have a great day! Weng
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@dpk262006 (56767)
• Delhi, India
24 Jul 09
Hi Weng! I am doing fine. It appears that you were very busy, I've seen you after a long time (BTW, where were you?). I agree with you that while writing so many responses/comments, we sub-consiously get to reveal our real life persona. You are very right that some of the people who cannot speak face to face, feel very comfortable while sharing their thoughts on a platform like this. Many Thanks for sharing a wonderful response. Deepak
@weng_08 (282)
• Philippines
24 Jul 09
Hello Deepak, It is nice to know you are doing good. Yeah, I have been busy. I have moved to another country because of my job and I have been going around a lot. However, I am never too busy not to respond to your interesting discussions. LOL. I may not be here often, but from time to time, I am dropping by. Have a great day! Weng
@zhuhuifen46 (3485)
• China
25 Jul 09
I believe whatever on the mylot must be a reflection of the member. It is impossible to say something not of oneself. Of my friends, I can figure out a relatively concrete being, including background, hobbies, family, personality, etc.
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@dpk262006 (56767)
• Delhi, India
25 Jul 09
Hi zhuh! So you are in agreement with the statement that our responses/discussions reveal a lot about our personality and character and who we actually are and how do we think. I am really impressed with your honesty and wonderful response. Thanks for enriching the post.
@JenInTN (27547)
• United States
25 Jul 09
Oh yes..I do think that responses reflect who we are. I think that our discussions do as well. Most of my discussions are about things that I wonder or think of. It can really tell someone a lot about who I am. My responses are honest to my personality too. I respond just how I feel about subject matter. This is who we are.
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@dpk262006 (56767)
• Delhi, India
25 Jul 09
Hi Jen! So you are in agreement with the statement that our responses/discussions reveal a lot about our personality and character and who we actually are and how do we think. After having interacted with you through yours posts, I know about you that you are indeed very fair and honest and you always write your responses with full honesty. I am happy to be your friend. I am really impressed with your honesty and wonderful response. Thanks for enriching the post. Deepak