Men who cry - Is it a good thing or a bad thing?

Canada
July 27, 2009 2:47pm CST
I'm sort of torn on this discussion. I've been with men who've been extremely emotional, others that weren't at all (or at least didn't show it). On the one hand, I feel that it's good, if not healthy to be emotional at times. And I think the fact that a man wants to be emotional in front of his girlfriend says a lot about the value of the relationship. On the other hand, I like that a man can keep his composure. So, how do you feel about it? Is crying a good thing, a bad thing, good to an extent?
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• United States
27 Jul 09
I think that totally depends on the situation. Showing your feelings and just being a big baby are totally different. It is definately healthy to let it out. If you keep things in too long it can come out in a very bad way. I believe there is a time and place for everything and some people know that time and others do not. I would not let this one thing be a factor in whether or not you stay together. Bottom line, be happy with who you are with, if you aren't, move on.
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• Canada
27 Jul 09
I feel the same way. It is healthy, and although I'm not really a person to let that side of me show, I know it can be quite beneficial to others.
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• China
28 Jul 09
Man cries,meaning that he is desperate or happiness,i think it's easy to judge by the situation.So,believe that men also have tears,but not always.
@patofgold23 (5069)
• Philippines
28 Jul 09
i admire men who are not ashamed to cry and express their feelings if they're hurt or angry... crying doesnt make them less a man. it actually shows their sensitive side which is a good quality for a man to have.
• Philippines
30 Jul 09
men who prefer to keep their macho image...i have little respect for them.
• United States
28 Jul 09
Crying is good for the proper occasion for which,why or what we or crying about in The first place.When our crying has reached it's extent for the situation then let That be it.Because if we do not the theatrics,attention seeking,drama and the Passion starts to follow and expose itself and the individual(s) And it is really bad when someone say's everytime I think about it I begin to cry Or get emotional about it and they are thinking and crying about it every ten Minutes Or so (Extreme)day in and day out.
• China
29 Jul 09
i think cry is the right of the men and the women,both of them have the rights to lossen their emotions.however,as i man,when i went to middle school,i have never cried loudly for anything except weep.
@windymyre (210)
• United States
28 Jul 09
I am very uncomfortable around a man who cries. I'm not saying I see anything wrong with it, I just don't know how to handle it. I've only seen my husband cry a couple of times. Once was when we were dating & broke up. The other was a couple of months ago when we had to have our 12 year old rottweiler put to sleep. He was sobbing & ranting. It was very sad & upsetting to watch.
• India
27 Jul 09
a proverb reads never trust a smiling gal n a crying boy.....
• United States
28 Jul 09
Rarity increases false alarms and manipulation.
• United States
28 Jul 09
I think it's a bad thing that you have to wonder if it's bad that society places these crazy stereotypes on genders, races and people.. Why would it be alright for a woman to cry and not a man? Men have feelings just as much as women. I think it's bad that many men have been raised to believe it's weakness to cry... I think it takes a mighty strong man to go against societies ideas and have a good cry.. Men have nerves and emotions and letting ones tears fall are one way of coping with stress @!
• Brunei Darussalam
28 Jul 09
I don't see the awkward if man crying. Of course with a reason which has touched their ego and sense. Like we, woman I believe would have the choice whether to cry or laugh. Its just for some man crying is a coward or childish manner. Man should not stop themself from cying. This will get worsen if preventing our mind to cry as we kept all sadness inside our small life. Man too need crying time as and when it require.
@lala501 (1532)
• United States
28 Jul 09
It's not a bad thing. Even know boys look funny when they cry so its hard not to laugh. But it is not a bad thing when boys cry because all of us cry and I dont think it is a bad thing.
• China
28 Jul 09
Man cries,meaning that he is desperate or happiness,i think it's easy to judge by the situation.So,believe that men also have tears,but not always.
• China
28 Jul 09
Hello,krodrigues!I think this question is very intersting!In my opinion,sometimes men can cry when he is in a serious mood!I think men should be brave, strong!If men always cry when he suffer a bad situation ! I think it is not a good thing!
@aabuda (1722)
• Philippines
28 Jul 09
A man who cry is really depressed, down or his ego has really been badly hurt. Only few men shows their true feelings on a particular subject, many tend to hide those feelings...
• Philippines
28 Jul 09
Emotional feelings is natural to every one. Yes some doesn't want to show but some want to express it. Some they express it in crying, some put their self to get drunk. Some are trying hard to hide they emotions but it shows in their movement and face reaction. But either of those I mention, most of the man shows their emotion in front of their girlfriend. Not just to value the relationship but because they trust you. They know that you can pamper and understand them. If the man express his emotion by means of crying it only show that he has a big problem or it shows losing hope. For me crying is a good thing and healthy because it eas the heavy load in your heart and mind. Because after crying it will help you to think over again. Crying is not a bad thing it is good to an extent.
@sirkana15 (106)
• Philippines
28 Jul 09
Men should cry..it's very important because crying is a way to express too much feelings inside each person like hurt, pain, happiness, etc...Studies prove that men die early than women because they keep things to themselves. women on the otherhand are to emotional and they can voice out concerns and gain relief from it..
@celticeagle (157593)
• Boise, Idaho
28 Jul 09
I agree with you. I think it is a good thing. I don't think it happens very often with a 'real man' and isn't full blown or anything. I like a man with a heart that isn't so mancho he can't show a tear occasionally. I like what you said about it showing the value of the relationship. But, extremes are never good either.
@cainam (493)
• Philippines
28 Jul 09
i admire those who seldomely cry.. it's really not right to be emotional because it makes me fell more like a loser. speaking it out is different from crying it out. and i don't prefer the latter..
• Malaysia
28 Jul 09
use your six sense, then u will know is it good or bad. trust your self. but men seldom cry!
• Philippines
28 Jul 09
may be its a god because show her emotional
@kevchua (1004)
• Malaysia
28 Jul 09
Crying is a way of expressing sorrows and disappointments. For guys, they cry too but that doesn't make them "bad" or "soft" - but they cry out loud on rare occasions because they're able to suppress their sorrows (which is bad actually) most of the time. Yeah, the cry behind closed doors. Therefore, I feel that it's normal for a man to cry. It's not a bad thing.
@radx682 (327)
• India
28 Jul 09
Men can be emotionl like women. After all they are also humans. They will feel relaxed if they cry out. Crying too often is a bad thing, because you tend to feel that this is becoming a usual thing and you start taking the person lightly. I like men who cry less and comfort women when they cry.