Should men cry?

@suchi60 (912)
India
July 30, 2009 5:55am CST
Its not strange to see young boys and girls cry, and its equally not surprising to see women cry, but do men cry? I'd be lying if I said they don't, but what makes them hide back those tears in public? Is it because of their macho image or is it because tears is a sign of humblenes? Lately, I've seen quite a few men in sports cry in public, and so, is this a sign that men too are becoming normal human beings?
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56 responses
• China
30 Jul 09
i think it's normal for men to cry too. i saw some men crying because they were heavily moved by victory, love, or sth others like so. i even moved by their tears. but if they cry because of some light obstacles in life, i wont have a good opinion of them.
@suchi60 (912)
• India
30 Jul 09
You answered the question yourself. If men cried in public, you said that you wouldn't have a good opinion about them, so what you mean to say is that men should be bold and strong and not humble or weak like a woman.
• China
30 Jul 09
i feel they really neednt be tender or fragile as woman. after all, there are some difference between man and woman. we ourselves control our mood. but i didnt say i couldnt accept man to cry. in fact, if a woman cry easily, not man, even woman themselves sometimes cant bear. hope u can understand me.
@suchi60 (912)
• India
30 Jul 09
yes, I understand you loud and clear. It's not easy to accept the fact that women make a lot more furore over things than men, and as you say, at times it does become a little difficult for women themselves to see other women cry.
@sunita64 (6469)
• India
30 Jul 09
Earlier it was popular that macho men do not cry only ladies cry, so I feel they must definately be crying but in hiding. Nowadays things have changed, even our screen heroes cry when they are hurt or sad.I feel the prievelege of crying should be for all as reduces the stress factor.
@suchi60 (912)
• India
30 Jul 09
Men do cry, and even though they don't show it out, they have feelings. I remember the time I lost my mother, I wanted to cry, but because I am a man, I did what all (well almost all) men do, fight the tears back. In many ways people say that by crying you relieve a lot of stress, but I'm not totally convinced that this is true.
@Informer (802)
• India
30 Jul 09
Hi Sunita & Suchi, Yeah Man are normal human being and they also have right to express their feelings. They feel sad equally as woman but have to keep some courage.
@syankee525 (6261)
• United States
30 Jul 09
i really dont see nothing wrong with men crying, it just mean they are real and have real emotions and feelings
@suchi60 (912)
• India
30 Jul 09
you just said the magic word.
• India
30 Jul 09
Its nothing like being human or not. Men in general are considered to be stronger individual then women so they try to hide the hurt they feel just o show that they are stronger. young boys and girls cry cause they still small and are not mature enough to understand these social bargains of life.
@suchi60 (912)
• India
30 Jul 09
yes, you're right.
@jinyan69 (124)
• China
30 Jul 09
everybody can cry when they are sad or pain,why the men don't hope to cry in public,because somebody think that crying in public show the man is weak not strong? i think everybody may cry if he wants,it can make him health by lease his emotion?
@suchi60 (912)
• India
30 Jul 09
I'm not sure whether one's emotion has anything to do with their health, but I do believe that men prefer to hide their emotions in public.
@rosepedal64 (4188)
• United States
30 Jul 09
Men should cry. They are human just the same as women. Men have feeling just the same as women. When I got married and my husband felt the need to cry he would switch his mind over to something else so that he would not cry. That is no where fair. If a man holds in his feelings because he is a man, in long term he could have mental problems by holding in his feelings. Men need to cry...It is okay guys...It doesn't mean that you are a baby or whimp... Have that cry...
@suchi60 (912)
• India
30 Jul 09
Crying is a natural phenomenon and there's nothing to feel bad about it, however, men just seem to have the ability to a better and stronger control of their emotions.
@bestboy19 (5478)
• United States
3 Aug 09
I think one of the reasons men don't cry is because they are suppose to be the strong ones; but society no longer puts that burden on them, so we've seeing them cry more now.
@EliteUser (3964)
• Australia
27 Sep 09
Hey, Well I have to be honest, I think that some men do cry. But I have a suggestion, try not to cry in front of a woman, especially your wife/girlfriend. This is because they might not know how to deal with it. Make sure you have a good day, God bless and Happy Lotting!!
@babyjesus (277)
3 Aug 09
I think they should be respected when you see them cry. But, i would like to see them cry with poise and dignity. I would not like to see men cry like a little boy and would talk so much of their reason to cry. I've seen both situations and its so unlikely to see them cry like babies or little boys. That's what i'm also teaching my son when he grows to be a man. It may be alright for him to cry like a baby but minimize to cry aloud when you become a man.
@vinslounge (1295)
• India
30 Jul 09
crying means the expulsion of our emotions and crying is the action thatcan be done by any and it is not confined to a single personality. It is just a form of expressing our emotions. If our feeling overcomes our emotional stability, we express it in the forms of cry and shout.
@suchi60 (912)
• India
30 Jul 09
I believe men are far more stronger when it comes to controlling their emotions, and so it may not be right for them to cry in public.
@jemifer (124)
• Philippines
30 Jul 09
Men are more egoistic compared to women. They would always want to have that "superior" image to show that no one could tear them apart. However, for famous persons, it's natural to cry in public if they are experiencing great joy -- like if they win a competition and they really suffered and paid the price of it. But in scenario like sad situations, they would really hold back the tears to hide the pain inside. But it will really show if they can't take it anymore like if they lost someone they really love.
@suchi60 (912)
• India
30 Jul 09
I don't think its egoistic, but am image we all ave come to understand about men. They are far more in control of their emotions than women and that probably answers your view on why they don't show it out.
• China
30 Jul 09
i think men shouldn't cry.the ancients said that man doesn't esaily tear.
@suchi60 (912)
• India
30 Jul 09
I guess crying in public sends out a very negative message to others, especially the women. Women believe that men are strong and can stand up to any adversary, so why should they cry and negate this wonderful tag?
@cassrufus (116)
• Philippines
30 Jul 09
yeah i have seen many macho man cry one of them is my father when our family was in a very very hard situation and my mother get sick. cry not by mean of tears only but we can feel it trough our heart and mind. cry means sadness and pain in life.
@suchi60 (912)
• India
30 Jul 09
Men have feelings just like women, and its not surprising to see your dad break down and cry for the family. However, one thing that your dad should have done is to face the situation with more control, for he is the man of the house and should he break down as he did, it leaves the other members of the family feeling insecure.
• Philippines
30 Jul 09
of course all human cry... and since men are human hen they all cry too... u might not see them crying coz they tried to hide it as they dont want anyone to think that they are soft... but if they are alone.. u will never know that maybe they cry more like a river than women do...
@suchi60 (912)
• India
30 Jul 09
wishful thinking indeed, but the fact remains that men are able to suppress their emotions better than women and don't cry anyway as close to women.
@tjburcham (690)
• United States
1 Aug 09
It breaks my heart to see a man cry. Crying is good for everyone. It helps open your sinuses and relieves stress. I am happy to see it becoming more acceptable for men to openly cry. On the other hand, I hate ball babies, just doing it for attention. That includes the women that do it.
• United States
2 Aug 09
I think boys into men where taught that it was a sign of weakness to cry in public. The man is suppose to be the protector and has to maintain control of his emotions so he'll be able to make necessary decisions. If you can't control yourself, how can you control others?
• Jamaica
3 Aug 09
Certainly men cry, they have feelings too. we think that men are to be tough and strong emotionally, but it is not so it is the same blood that run through their vains. Sometimes men try to hold back the tears and they act it out in other ways, that is why there is so much conflict leading up to murder. It is best for men to cry it can be a sign of joy too.
@aerous (13434)
• Philippines
1 Aug 09
Men are crying too, my friend. But it is rare, to see men cry. That is normal, to cry if they are losing the game, they expected to win. That is because of frustration and disappointment where that games goes to deserving teams even do they make their best.. happy mylotting...!!!
@joezon50 (378)
• Hong Kong
2 Aug 09
I think its posible that men can also cry. Just like my dad,everytime i go far places he always sad and lonely and he really cry. Maybe hes worried about because im a kind of person that very careFree.Hes worried about my situation too because im going with a million mile away from them.My mom dont cry a lot to me.Yes men can cry too,why not to relieve their feelings of what depression they have in their heart.Happy mylotting my friend,thnx.
• United States
2 Aug 09
A lot of men have been raised to believe that they are not supposed to cry, because it makes them seem weak and vulnerable. It doesn't mean that they don't cry, but they do it in private like it is something shameful that they need to hide. I think that is wrong, because they are human and have emotions just like everyone else, so they should not be ashamed to show their emotions. I think we need to teach our young boys that they should be able to express their sadness through tears. I think it is more manly and courageous to show your emotions, especially deep sadness or loss, than to act like nothing matters to you.