Are Elders Always Right?Sould we Respect Elders Only For Their Age Or Their Deed

India
July 30, 2009 9:15am CST
We all respect our elders. This is true of every country. We seek their advice and guidance at various times. But there are times when elders bahave as if they are all knowing. In the family, it is the parents and uncles who guide us. In school it is our teachers. At a macro level, the country is run by politicians who are mostly from the earlier generations. So all in all the entire system is run by elders, while young people having to follow their advices. Despite this, there are problems everywhere. Fights and quarells in the family occur. Teachers make mistake in discharge of their pious duties. Politicians are selfish and administration is corrupt. My question is-- Are these elders right in advicing youngsters when they are themselves not morally and ethically correct? Do they have a moral right to advice us?
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@fungurly1 (180)
• United States
31 Jul 09
I believe there should always be respect, do I think that you should always believe there ideas, maybe not. But you should still respect them in everyway. You can always politely and respectful say no thanks if you know where Im going.
• India
31 Jul 09
Yes i agree that we much respect our elders. BUt should we also respect some one who is not of a good character only because he is elder to us? thx
• United States
6 Aug 09
I see what your talking about and see I believe even If there mean or being a jerk you should always respect them. What if there just having a bad day. Oh and if there having a hard time respecting people or always are grumpy or in a bad mood than chances are they dont have many friends as it is. And If someone is having this type of problem maybe they should not only respect but try and change the attitude and maybe ask whats wrong or lighten the mood by asking about some child hood story. Theres one thing about the older people, if you'll listen the'll talk half the day away, and you never know you might learn something. Yes I believe even if there being rude even if there not elderly that everyone deserves respect. Now maybe Im just a push over or something, but thats what I believe
• Philippines
31 Jul 09
You are right when you said that we have to respect elders. There is no problem when they advice us something which is good and we benefit from it. But any person can advice us as long as they are good stewards and good examples, I really don't have a problem with that. But when you said politicians, ohh my, we know that politics is dirty. So it is upon your discretion if you are focus with these people. As long as I don't indulge myself with politics, really! i am hands off with that topic. Nothing more to say. It does not even mean that ALL elders are respectful. Some are worst. You can here senior citizens raping younger girls. I also have one encounter with an elder woman in the market, who pushed me, even if I am walking nicely, she pushed me with her wet fish bag and she was so mean. I haven't experience that in my life nor in my own country. But only here to where I stay, I am discouraged. But anyway, not all road leads to Rome either. Every individual is unique. And it was just tragic i got into this stupid old woman who was so mean to me and I don't even heck know why.
• India
31 Jul 09
yes elders must earn respect. yes the bad experience with an elderly lady is just one of the many instances of high handedness practiced by some. They think they know everything. thx
@2babita (1072)
• India
31 Jul 09
Dear Preethaanju,i think you are fed up with your circumtances.Well, i think elders are not always right.Yes,it is our duty to respect them for their age and their deed but if you want to show them that they are wrong then you have to do it very tactfully.Bcuz they never think that they can also be wrong like us.Yes,everywhere it is happening but we cant do anything except keeping quite.It is my opinion.
• India
31 Jul 09
Babita, i raised this topic because of cousin of mine. He is 65 and has all the bad qualities know to man. Yet he expects people to respect him as he is managing our ancestoral property. I hate to respect him for his age alone. I told him in his face. i always respect elders, but i respect those more who are really worth it..thx
• India
31 Jul 09
I think we must respect our elders and listen what they say about us or anything else they are really experienced in real life situation which can help us learn somethings from them.
• India
1 Aug 09
Yes we must listen to elders. But at the same time they must understand that respect dont come as a matter of right..thx
@sam_jr (35)
• India
31 Jul 09
I am not sure that elders always right. Becase every time they order on thier youngeter..But i belive that all time they are not wrong .We should respect them..
• India
31 Jul 09
Yes i do respect them, Butwhether to take their advice depends on its quality..tthx
• Malaysia
31 Jul 09
No one can be right all the time. What about us? Have we realized that sometimes we make mistakes, pertaining to those who are younger than us? So, even as adult, we make mistakes, and sometimes, are willing to be corrected by the younger ones. So, elders are not right all the time.
• India
31 Jul 09
yes they are not. Sometims youngsters can be more intelligent thx
@daliaj (5674)
• India
31 Jul 09
We must respect elders, it doesn't mean that always go for whatever elders say. They might be wrong. You can always get suggestions from them, but finally it is upto you to decide your prersonal matters if you are mature enough to do that. You can blindly follow elders when you are a kid, but not all the time.
• India
31 Jul 09
My question is, will u accept advice from a person who is himself not of a high moral or ethical standards, regardless of his age? If ur answer is no, then it inherently means that deeds and not age is the guiding factor think over thx puttum kadala thinno?
• United States
31 Jul 09
We rely on elder's advice because they have lived longer than we have, and thru their experiences, they can help us with our day to day living. They often can help, because at one stage of their life, they have been in our shoes, and may have experienced exactly what we are experiencing at the present time. But, certainly they are not perfect, and their advise may be the wrong one for us at that moment, so the best thing we should do is listen to them, and decide what is more comfortable for ourselves. The world is changing so their advice may not be good for us today. For example: I have had more crises in my life than a relative of mind, who seems to toot his perfection as a parent. He is very judgemental of those who don't fit into his way of life, or don't walk the same path as he did with his kids. Therefore, compassioin is not a trait of his. But since I have experienced alot more, I feel more for people who struggle than he does. Therefore, I don't take too much stock in what he says. He is an elder but he has never had much experience in too many areas of life, therefore I don't ask him for advise.
• India
31 Jul 09
length of living is not an apt criteria for judging whether a person is good or bad. His deeds during this period counts more.. he has to earn his name thx
• Canada
31 Jul 09
I don't think that your elders are always right. I think there's a few things that they get wrong . Especially when they're telling you what you can and can't do. They don't know you're mind and what you're capable of doing. I also think that the elders have their own interests in mind when they say stuff to you. Which means that they could care less about what you think. It's only about them.
• India
31 Jul 09
yes, they too make mistakes like all human beings... but we need to understand that they show courtesy to accept their mistakes..thx
@kevchua (1004)
• Malaysia
31 Jul 09
I'd like to stress that respect needs to be earned no matter the age. Just because you're older doesn't mean the younger is compelled to respect; just because you're young doesn't mean the elders don't need to respect you. If one doesn't earn the respect, one will not get it. That's my philosophy, which I think many of you will disagree :) Elders are not always right. They make mistakes too even when they're old. Has any elderly ever not made a mistake? It's just that they have far more experience, and from the mistakes that they've learnt through these experiences, they're able to gauge if our acts were right or not. In that sense, we should respect their views because they know more than us. That's my argument ...makes sense, I suppose :)
• India
31 Jul 09
Yes age alone is not the deciding factor.Deed is also important. thx
@grace118224 (1038)
• China
31 Jul 09
No Eldres are not always right . We should respect them but not supposed to listen to all advice except those would be helpful. But anyway if there are some wise elders are at home to stay with us it would be very helpful indeed because they can give many instructions and guides . i would like to be such kind of elders when i get old.
• India
31 Jul 09
sure they have the expereince to guide and advice us.. but i believe such advices have to come from people who are morally and ethically eligible to give... right? thx
@radx682 (327)
• India
31 Jul 09
Elders must be respected. They would have been bad before but definitely they will have a sense of realization in their minds. So their advises can never go wrong. Anyway we also know what is right or wrong...It not harmful to listen to their advices..they will feel better...pick the good ones he / she has suggested and follow it...the one you do not like...you can ignore...
• India
31 Jul 09
Surely i too believe in respecting elders. But to respect all and sundry, is it possible? thx
@jeg2315 (197)
• United States
31 Jul 09
I don't respect people because they are older. I respect people for what they have or have not done. Just because someone is older does not mean they are all-knowing or wiser, they just have been through more. But experiencing more things doesn't mean you necessarily learn valuable things from them. I think too many people give in to tradition and the ways in which older people are stubborn in ideology and culture.
• India
31 Jul 09
yes there is a need for change. Not all old people are wise. Since we have respected people on the basis of age alone, there is an element of arrogance in their behaviour.Let them do something and then expect respect. Age is a natural process. Even criminals age thx
• China
31 Jul 09
Well, I don't believe elders are always right, they might be right most of the time, yet they couldn't keep doing right all the time. As an elder, he/she did have experience much more than we younger, and we should respect their advices or suggestions, but that does not mean they are always right.
• India
31 Jul 09
They are never right all the time.. they do make mistakes like all humans beings. But my question is, should even elders with low moral standing too deserve our respect? thx
@_sketch_ (5742)
• United States
30 Jul 09
Respecting someone doesn't mean that we always agree with them.
• India
31 Jul 09
whether we agree or not, we need to ensure that the advisor is himself right and has the knowledge about the subject of advice thx
@Zhizho (1350)
• Indonesia
30 Jul 09
Hi friend..For me..we have to respect elders and love youngers.I think,yes,we have to respect them whoever they are.They have more experience then us.Maybe yes we more know many things then them but keep respect for them.Many elders always think that they more know then us.They become hard with they principle,because the truth for them is based on their experience.They can't make mistake and we have to understand that.But there is still elders who want to listen young people.Sometimes we have to back down when face them but it's depend on how the young people manner when we are not agree with them and how the way to communicate.
• India
31 Jul 09
i too respect elders. But there are times when i feel some donnt need respect based on their deeds thx
• Indonesia
30 Jul 09
Elders not always right,, but we must admit that they have more experience than young people. Maybe this is the reason why they think they always right compare with younger people. Eventhough they are not always right, but we must respect them. Respect is not stay calm while you know they are wrong. Respect is not act like a statue. I think we respect them if we talk politely and if there's something you wanna say just say it. If you think they make some mistakes then show them the right way politely and give the reason. Elder are human and young people are human too. So it's human nature to make mistake.. I personally think it's right, nothing wrong if elder give advice to youngsters because they have more experience. About themselves not morally or ethnically correct, no need to think about it. If you think the advice is good then just accept it. If not then don't do it.. Let's we take positive side in everything (in this case, take positive side on advice given by not really good people, as long as the advice is good) and throw away negative side in each thing..
• India
31 Jul 09
mere experience is not criteria. I expect elders to be morally and ethically right before they advice others..thx
@Flikker (34)
• South Africa
30 Jul 09
Deeds count not age. Yes the old should be respected, but only if they deserve our respect. Where do you think all the old evils of this world come from if not from wicked old minds that are passing it down the generations. Be loyal too ideals, not people!
• India
31 Jul 09
yes deed matters and not age.. thx
@sunny68 (1327)
• India
30 Jul 09
respect for elderly is the sign of a good society. one thing is for sure is that they have more experience than us. there may be some aspects which we may not be able to contemplate. so it is always better to keep their views into consideration. it also may depend on your relation with them and hence their intentions. i don't think anyone close to you will give you a bad advice. let me put it this way - how many times have you gone against the advice of elderly and suffered ?
• India
31 Jul 09
surely respecting elders is a sign of a cultured society. But dont u think the elders have an obligation to set high standards so that youngsters are automatically drawn towards them in love and respect? thx
• Mexico
30 Jul 09
i think its not guilty who gives the advice i think is guilty who ask for it, i think elders could be good tutors because they have experience and age but by the same reason they are corrupted by other sources, so by the corruption they become arrogant and think they are superior than younger people but the truth is that by its different point of view without experience they can see things more clear than elders. so i think we should respect them for what they are but not by what they do.
• India
31 Jul 09
yes giving advice is not wrong. But the advice has to come from a person who is himself right... cant take advice from a rapist father or a corrupt politician thx