Lost our two months' embryo!!!

China
July 31, 2009 12:19am CST
Don't konw how to express my feeling now,our baby last week when I have saw many of mylotters said congrat to me in my last post~ Maybe the window period,many many issues~bad mood,working stress~I don't know,we just found our baby gone~Both of my wife and I felt very very sad during the past few days,I nearly don't want to work anymore,just accompany with my wife and talk to her~~ How could this happy to me~!!! How!!! .......
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@kun2349 (23381)
• Singapore
31 Jul 09
Sorry to know about the miscarriage and it's indeed sad news, especially when u are feeling so happy being a father.. How did it happen in the first place?? Right now, u have to be strong and be there for your wife.. SHe should be feeling alot more heartache than u do, because she's the one carrying the baby in her.. She needs your utmost support and concern at the moment.. U cant be fragile, or worse, blame her for that, ok?? There'a always a next time to try for another baby right?? Dun lose hope and dun lose faith ^_^
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• China
12 Aug 09
Hi Kun,yes,feeling quite bad during the past two weeks' time.I think both of us lack of experience that neglect some signs of the miscarriage...anyway,the most important task for us is to recovery both our body and mental~ Thanks again
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@kun2349 (23381)
• Singapore
12 Aug 09
well, dun be sad anymore.. Help her get over it, and there's always a next time again ^_^
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• India
31 Jul 09
this is indeed very very sad for both of you…yes, you need to be more with her coz I guess it affects us ladies more, not to say that prospective fathers don’t grieve…I’m sure you will find ways to get out of this sad episode. While I don’t want to sound rude, many ladies have lost babies at a much much later and developed stage…some even still-born…we don’t really know the scheme of things He has in store for us, but always remember there is tomorrow and you both will have beautiful babies next time…just don’t give up and don’t let your wife brood on this for long.
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• China
31 Jul 09
Thanks my friend.~Just felt like from heaven to the hell~!! I will sure take good care of my wife~ Thanks again~
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@Ritchelle (3795)
• Philippines
3 Aug 09
i'm so sorry to learn that. i really am. i know that no amount of words would ever compensate for the pain.
@zandi458 (28116)
• Malaysia
31 Jul 09
Pregnancy - Early part of pregnancy
I share your sadness today and hope you will get over it soon. Miscarriage normally happens to women who have weak wombs and hope your wife is recuperating from this painful shock. I hope your wife will be more careful in her next pregnancy. She must have a lot of rest in the early stage of her pregnancy.
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31 Jul 09
Im very sorry for your loss, my thought are with you and your wife
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@308369666 (111)
• China
31 Jul 09
Good mood is afected by environmental impacts, in particular the feelings of the human environment is not good.Think of some fun things,take a walk, you travel back to your feelings will change.
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@lexus54 (3575)
• Singapore
31 Jul 09
I am really sorry that you and your wife lost your baby. Please accept my condolences. I do hope though that you both can get over this through time, and try again in the future. Don't give up hope! ~ Victor
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• Philippines
31 Jul 09
My deepest sympathy to you Tony. I myself wanted a baby but i still need to wait, and I don't know how long can we wait if God will give us a blessing. It is really sad to hear such lost. But I am sure that you two will still have another chance to have a baby so let go of the sadness and this problem would make the both of you stronger in your relationship. Your wife suffers the same like you feel now. So encourage each other. Don't blame and point fingers and forget the past and live your future together. I hope that in time you will be having kids again.
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@Rodlkm (123)
• Malaysia
31 Jul 09
Hi friend. So sorry to hear that. I have gone through 2 times with my ex. I can understand how it felt. The only thing you could do now is to be there for each other, knowing that no matter what happen, you still have each other and the love for each other. Sometimes, things we might not understand the things that happen to us in life but whatever it may be, they are meant to my us stronger and more determined.
@marguicha (172965)
• Chile
31 Jul 09
Tony, It´s so beautiful when these moments of sadness are given to see that you two love each other so much! You will have other children. But what you have now as spouses is a miracle not many people have the blessing to have. You can support each other and cuddle. Take care
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• Singapore
3 Aug 09
Hi Tony, what happened to you and your wife was something that my hubby and I had gone through in late March 09. By the 3rd time I had an ultrascan and was in my 8th weeks, we were told that our baby has lost the heartbeat - a "missed" miscarriage. It was my 1st pregnancy and we sincerely felt the loss and surely could understand what you have gone through. I cried for the 1st few days but thank god my hubby has stood strong next to me encouraging me that we could try again and consoled me (like any others around me) that perhaps it's a blessings to detect such abnormalities in the early stage than later. I do agree. A loss is after a loss and I innerly know very well that I would never forget about her (yes, she was a gal). Thereafter, we tried hard to conceive and to share with you...I'm now into my 11th weeks. No doubt the past incident would somehow leave a shadow in my mind but I tried not to over worry and have my mind runs wild because it'll surely affect the growth of my baby. I pray to God everyday....may He blessed me this pregnancy and a healthy and happy baby s/he will be. Amen.
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• China
12 Aug 09
Hi my friend,thanks for your sharing your experince with me. We're recovering bit by bit and trying to go out of the shadow~ Wishes bless you!!Await your good news!!
@ptrikha_2 (31826)
• India
3 Aug 09
This is indeed very sad . Unfortunately me and my wife had a similar experience in last year End Nov- December . I can relate as to how you would be feeling now . Still; keep courage and have faith in god to bestow you with better times ahead . With best regards
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• China
12 Aug 09
Thanks for your understanding of our feeling.In the mean time,wish you all the best,for everything!!
@maximax8 (31166)
• United Kingdom
1 Aug 09
I feel so very sorry for you. I know that you are understandably very upset to suffer such a terrible event in life. I don't know why a miscarriage happens. It it so awful and it is such a terrible shame that it ever happens. Some couples that lose a baby in pregnancy name him or her. If you don't know if your wife had been expecting a boy or a girl a name that would suit either might be fitting for your lost child. I know that some friends think of their child as an angel and they think the child will always be with them in their feeling. Hug to you and your wife.
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• China
12 Aug 09
Hi Maximax,thanks.For true,we have already had idea of his/her name....
• Pamplona, Spain
31 Jul 09
Hi, tonytt2009, Very sorry about your loss for the pair of you. The Husband is always affected even thougb he might not show his feelings altogether at the time. None of us has ever been taught how to cope with things like this. I have been through this twice miscarried twin boys at 25 weeks and baby girl at 25 weeks and it is really painful the hurt depends on the person and the situation. The second time round was the worst you never get used to it or stronger because each child is different. The hurt, the guilt and unhappiness does fade but it does really take time. Give it the time you might not give it to heal and all will be well. Also don´t bottle up the tears let them flow as often as you can its all a part of healing inside. You will both be happy Parents soon I´m sure of it. Wishing you all the luck for the future. Again I´m really sorry that this has happened to you both.
• China
21 Aug 09
Hey,thanks,for everything! And wish you happy!
@jillhill (37371)
• United States
31 Jul 09
You have my deepest sympathies....It funny how you can become so attached to just the thought of having a new baby! And it's hard to get past the feeling of the lost you are experiencing right now....in fact you probably never will. I lost one about 34 years ago......and to this day I wonder....wonder what that little one would have turned out to be....you have us now though if you need anything.....
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• China
21 Aug 09
Hey my friend,thanks for your each word~ We have to face the truth and now be better than last month~ Thanks again~
@savypat (20219)
• United States
1 Aug 09
The only positive thing to remember is if you lot the baby it was because nature determined this little embryo was not in a condition to live, and know that you in no way caused this to happen. It just does and often. Your sorrow is understood by all who have been there. Blessings
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@skyhss (1142)
• United States
1 Aug 09
tony i'm so sorry to hear this.
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@James72 (26829)
• Australia
1 Aug 09
I'm so very sorry to be hearing this Tony and although I'm not really sure what to say that will make you both feel better about all of this, I do hope that you both find peace with this situation sooner rather than later. Many things that happen to us in life are unfair and seem so pointless and painful, but in time I'm sure you will both be blessed again and this pain will subside somewhat. I wish you both strength and blessings.
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@anneshirley (1516)
• Philippines
1 Aug 09
It is indeed a very sad news for you and your wife. Surely, no words can comfort you now but once you surpass your grief, surely you'll be able to find the reason why this happened. Keep your faith to God. He has a reason for everything, even on things we can't understand. He'll give you light on this matter in due time.
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@djoyce71 (2512)
• Philippines
1 Aug 09
When I hear this kind of thing, I feel that my heart is crushed. Maybe, because I was not given the chance to conceive and have a child of my own that I longed for in years now. I feel so sad for you and your wife. My condolences. But, you still have each other. You must always stay right beside and comfort her. Let her feel your love for her. Don't lose hope because there's always a chance for you to have another. I hope and pray that you get over this and continue with your normal life. God Bless you and your wife.
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