Do not.... The mylot rules

@tjades (3592)
Jamaica
July 31, 2009 1:52am CST
Below are three of the mylots rules which I observe are commonly broken. The first one I am guilty of. No disrespect meant to mylot for breaking this rule. I am just accustomed to saying thank you. I wasnt even aware I was breaking a rule though I read it through before. I revisited the rules earlier just to ensure I was not breaking any rules with a discussion I was about to post. Thats when I took note of these. Are you really aware of all the do's and donts of mylot? Donts * Thank everyone that responds or comments on your discussion. This will not increase your earnings. * Post discussions, responses or comments criticizing members for bad/broken English or bad spelling. Everyone is welcome at myLot, we have users from all around the world and they are welcome regardless of their proficiency with the English Language. * Start discussions promoting a milestone, such as birthdays, anniversaries, reaching a certain myLot rating, etc. This is best celebrated via private messaging with your myLot friends.
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@mysdianait (65080)
• Italy
31 Jul 09
MyLot does not have 'rules'. They are called 'Guidelines' because we should use them as a GUIDE as to what to do and not to do when creating our posts. This is the Link to them as you did not put it in your topic: http://www.mylot.com/o/guidelines.aspx
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• United States
31 Jul 09
actually...the word guideline is another word for "rule" the dictionary defines the word guideline as "a rule or principle that provides guidance to appropriate behavior" and also "A statement or other indication of policy or procedure by which to determine a course of action". So where they are referred to as guidelines they are by definition rules, in fact they are a policy. We as users agreed to follow those rules, guidelines and policy's when we accepted the terms of service. So yes...when we do the "do nots" in that list they we are breaking rules. no amount of worded suave will change that. Now i agree that if your responding to what people say and THEN saying thanks...great...no rule broken because your adding to the discussion rather then making a mindless thank you post.
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• United States
1 Aug 09
And a marriage is between three or more people of any gender together... Why are the definitions that we use important? We want to reduce confusion right? While some might interpret the word guideline as a rule, I would discourage the use of such a definition or remove one or the other word... A rule is like that of a law, you break it you bought it, a guideline is a suggestion of how to accomplish a desired result, a guideline is the principle direction that you should follow while allowing for the freedom to search a comfort level that will effectively improve the efficiency of which a task can be accomplished. A right handed person can operate some tools or equipment designed for right handed people much more efficiently than a left handed person who has yet to find a way to adapt to manipulate switches and levers along with materials in a productive manner.
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@tjades (3592)
• Jamaica
2 Aug 09
I find that the two words are actually used interchangeably. The very use of Do Nots suggest that there are consequences to breaking the stipulated guidelines or rules which is the case on mylot. By your input Mysdianait, guidelines are more relaxed. Persons who break those guidelines here on mylot stand to lose posts and in cases their accounts. Is it possible for such a site as mylot to operate soley on guidelines based on your definition? I understand your explaination but in this case I see the mylot guidelines operating as rules as well. Some Do's and Do Nots are more like guidelines, some more like rules and there are those which are suited as both. I would say guidelines are like a softer more general version of rules but rules nonetheless. Thanks for sharing your knowledge here
@Sandra1952 (6052)
• Spain
31 Jul 09
Good morning tjades. Perhaps I can clarify something for you. The point about 'thank you' is that you should not make it AS a response on its own. However, if you want to thank someone as PART of a longer response, that's fine. I find some of my responses don't need a comment, as there is nothing in there to further the discussion, or they may have repeated something said earlier. In that case, I just pass to the next response. However, some people habitually just say 'tahnk you for your response' to everyone, and the guideline is there to discourage that. Good topic - anything which reminds others, particularly new members, of the Mylot guidelines is very useful.
@tjades (3592)
• Jamaica
31 Jul 09
Now tthats a useful explanation. I never saw the rule as conveying that message but it does make sense. I had to scratch my head at the thought that admin meant no thank you's in your discussions. Thanks forthat insight Sandra and Happy Mylottig.
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@mysdianait (65080)
• Italy
31 Jul 09
Hi Sandra! As I said below, if users would realise they are not 'rules' but only a GUIDE then it becomes much easier to interpret them. No-one would ever tell us to be ungrateful and indeed that is not what it says
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@krajibg (11934)
• Guwahati, India
31 Jul 09
Hi tjades, Actually the do nots become DOs for us. And that is the irony. Wee are a polite lot. civilized people and therefore courteous words are ever running on the tips of our fingers as they p[lay the same role on our mouth. lol
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@tjades (3592)
• Jamaica
31 Jul 09
I am certainly happy mylot does not delete response with all those courtesy words and expressions. There would be many a camper introuble here. Happy mylottting krajibg
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@krajibg (11934)
• Guwahati, India
31 Jul 09
surely not. Thanks ....
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@silvercoin (2101)
• Lithuania
31 Jul 09
I think the most forgotten rule is the third one.People so enthusiastically share news from their personal and Mylot life that they break this rule thousands of times!I've seen once or twice someone making remarks about bad English.I think if the discussion is impossible to read, there's no need to comment it with anger.There are plenty of other discussions waiting for responses.Thanks for reminding me not to thank everyone because I thought I have to do this!
@tjades (3592)
• Jamaica
31 Jul 09
Hi Silver coin. A poster before you explained to me that mylot is referring to the pratice of just saying thank you as a comment to someones response. That being the case I am sure we caan continue saying thank you once we do so correctly.
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@sumanadep (1229)
• India
31 Jul 09
I have read through the do's and don'ts on mylot....I make sure that I am not breaking any of the rules...When I respond to the discussions...I do say thank you but along with that I add my comments to their responses...this way you can thanks them for responding....I do not criticize other for their English or spelling as I am not good at it too...
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@tjades (3592)
• Jamaica
31 Jul 09
I have seen a few of those floating around as well Sumana. That is the manner in which I add my thank you's as well. If I being being correctly informed mylot as no problem with this but rather with thank you being used as a response allby itself. Happy mylotting
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@nehaagra (849)
• Singapore
31 Jul 09
I believe its the third rule that is most commanly broken(100th post, 200th post.. and 1st payout, 2nd... and so on),..hehe, and it is most dangerous too, as it gets enough responses (i also did respond to lots of them , congratulating), and some time later, whole discussion is deleted... The other two i'm not bothered much.....,
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@tjades (3592)
• Jamaica
31 Jul 09
I did respond to a few of those discussions too. No wonder I lost a few post numbers but its all good. Some persons were really just so excited about their accomplishments. I willtry my best in this discussion at least to use an altenative to thanks. Happy mylotting
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@submerryn (1304)
• Malaysia
31 Jul 09
No, those three doesnt bother me as I dont say thank you, I dont critisize people's english, come on, they come from all over the world, they might not use english in their country in the first place. And lastly, why should I discuss a milestone? That is best kept for blogging. So, all of those three doesnt bother me and I dont think I've broke those rules. Other rules, might be, but not the three above. Happy myLotting!
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@tjades (3592)
• Jamaica
31 Jul 09
the first thing which came to mind was to say thank you for responding. Its just a part of me and I know Iam going to end up saying over and over again. Here I'll substitute and say ... Happy mylotting
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@cynthiann (18613)
• Jamaica
31 Jul 09
I also was guilty of the first one. I always said thank you to everyone and then found out that it is not necessary. Must have lost a lot of money not having spell check! I had forgotten about the birthday or anniversary discussions though and there has been plenty of those. Still no rain - becoming unbearable. The sun is making me nauseous (along with my boss)
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• India
31 Jul 09
(along with my boss)...so is your boss nauseous too or making you nauseous
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@cynthiann (18613)
• Jamaica
31 Jul 09
You are good! Both the sun and my boss are making me nauseous.
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@tjades (3592)
• Jamaica
3 Aug 09
This heat and an irritating boss....Hmmmm... Tjades whispers...I wouldnt want to be in your shoes. The heat ois certainly enough. Atleast here it has not been so bad lately. As a matter of fact a very nice breeze and slightly overcast skies have been a blessing these days. The fierceness of the sun is only felt when I have to venture out on the streets. I hope we get some rain soon. It always comes duirng the 3 day Agricultural show but today is day 3 and there's no rain so far. I still maintain my habit of saying ... Thank you for sharing Cynthian
• India
2 Aug 09
Thanks for the tips tjades. The fact is I always thank everyone who send their responses. This I do, mainly because they must know that I have read their responses. For some responses I also add my comments and finally thank them. Even though I have read the guide lines so many times, I am not able to stop sending a thank you note. May be that is why the 6 pointer star is not increasing. Regarding other two points, I never comment on somebody's English and discussing a milestone.
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@mysdianait (65080)
• Italy
2 Aug 09
Do you know that 'my 500th post' IS a milestone discussion and therefore will be deleted?
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@tjades (3592)
• Jamaica
3 Aug 09
If that is the manner inwhich you say thank you (by adding it to your comments) then you have no broken the mylot rule. This is the understanding I now have based on what other mylotters have related. Its good to know I was not breaking a rule repeatedly. All the best to you Ramesh.
@zed_k4 (17624)
• Singapore
1 Aug 09
Hello there tjades, those are reminders that I can make do because I keep forgetting the rules at times. Thanks for the reminder..as for the thanking part, I think it's alright to say it each time you respond as long as there are other things you mention along as well.
@tjades (3592)
• Jamaica
3 Aug 09
That seems tobe the accepted way of using thank yous here and I am in favour of it being that way. We all need those reminders from time to time. It was my pleasure. Thanks for sharing as usual Zed.
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@zed_k4 (17624)
• Singapore
3 Aug 09
My most pleasure, as always, tjades ...
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• Canada
31 Jul 09
Hm, I think you miss one that I frequently see in the money making thread. Please do not post affiliate links that do not pertain to the discussion. Posting links over and over or are not relevant to the discussion is not allowed. Other than that, you have made a great list of the rules I too see are generally broken because they have not clearly read all the rules.
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@tjades (3592)
• Jamaica
3 Aug 09
True. Those discussions are a dime a dozen here. They just never seem cease. I've had a few of those referral links posted in one or two of mt discussions and its just really annoying. Thanks for sharing Blues
• Philippines
31 Jul 09
really, it's a don't? how about, not increasing your earning but just let us say 'Thank you'. I mean, I never thought saying thank you would be a don't. What would happen to our values and manners. If it continues then we would then be accustom of saying no more 'Thank you'. visit my blog: read-read-write.blogspot.com
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@tjades (3592)
• Jamaica
3 Aug 09
Thats what I thought when I read that rule. I have now learnt that my manners and courtesy can still be extended as long as its not the only response to the comments to my discussions. Thats not my stlye so it seems I was not breaking the rule afterall. I'm happy for that. Not sure of the relevance of your blog link to this discussion though. Note another mylot rule below. * Post any links promoting other affiliate programs or that do not pertain to the discussion. Posting the same link over and over or posting links that have no relevance to the discussion is not allowed. We will all learn the rules through and through as we spend more time here on mylot. Thanks for participating legendarybboy
• Philippines
5 Aug 09
Thanks also. Ahh, now I know. Okay, I will put that rule in the mind and deeds. Thank you.
• Philippines
3 Aug 09
thanks for the info. i am guilty of just one but now that i know, will take note in the future! :D
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@tjades (3592)
• Jamaica
3 Aug 09
Happy to be at your service Pringles . Happy mylotting.
@erikmama (12929)
• United States
3 Aug 09
Wow. Guess I need to go on their and re-read all this stuff. thanks for posting!
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@tjades (3592)
• Jamaica
3 Aug 09
We all need to revisit those guidelines until we are very familiar with them . All the best and happy mylotting to you Erikmama .
• Philippines
3 Aug 09
Oh my!!!! I am also not aware that saying thank you to people who responded to your discussions is one of the donts here in mylot... I am also accustomed in saying/writing that phrase...
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@tjades (3592)
• Jamaica
3 Aug 09
My understanding of this rule now is that thanks you's are acceptable as long as they form a part of our response and not stand as the response itself. That makes a lot of sense to me.
@kprofgames (3100)
• United States
1 Aug 09
I think the thank yous are most commonly broken, but hey, it's hard not to say it you know. I think it's the context inwhich it's said that makes the difference. Like if you only respond to your responders "Thank you for responding" to each and every person. The milestone discussios and birthday discussions I just stay away from because seen too many of them get deleted. Even those that are here long enough to know better still do it. I've never figured that one out. As for the slamming of the English, that just makes me sad because there are people out there that use sites like this to learn or improve their language skills. I don't think anyone should be bashed around for trying.
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@tjades (3592)
• Jamaica
3 Aug 09
Apparently there is that common understanding about the thank you guideline among the older mylotters. Its one that makes much more sense than what I originally thought. I agree with you on the english point as well. i have found those discussions to be pretty harsh and unmindful of the variety of people who make up the mylot world. Thanks for sharing Games
• Philippines
31 Jul 09
Mylot rules for thanking someone? hmmmm, i guess if that will be a one liner and you just say thanks for your response, i get to see that a lot on my own discussion. But I don't say most often only one sentence. I support my statement with what he or she responded based on the topic I was discussing about. But I know that it will never increase the amount of your income here , as long as I respond back to the members specially those who need a reply from me. About Milestones, like Its my Birthday! yipee! well as much as I can i only greet one line since I know that the topic would be deleted anyway because of Mylot rules.
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@tjades (3592)
• Jamaica
3 Aug 09
You are right on that thank you guideline Strawberry. Saying thank you is okay as long as it substantiated by a relevant response to the comments to our discussions. I hardly ever comment on milestone discusiions but I believe I might have started one or two myself. No wonder I lost posts. Thanks for sharing
• India
31 Jul 09
Well, I am guilty of breaking rules 1 and 3. I too have been brought up to thank anybody and everybody for appropriate reasons and I follow it here…though I must say that I don’t say just ‘thank you’ but add something more pertaining to the response. And mylot says that ‘thank you’ wont increase our earnings, not that our discussion itself would get deleted! So I am OK with no increase in earnings, I don’t thank people just to earn one cent. Now pt no. 3…yes, I am guilty of declaring milestones, though not very often. I don’t declare personal milestones like birthdays and anniversaries but got very excited when I reached post no. 5050 more so because of the number itself (meaning either way) than anything else. Pt 2…well, English is not my mother-tongue and I am not an expert in this language…so who am I to criticize others! I am just here to interact and have fun.
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@tjades (3592)
• Jamaica
3 Aug 09
I too got caught doing the milestone thing on maybe one or two occassions. Maybe more too. As a newbie I saw those so regularly around here I thought it was ok. Now I will be more diligent about what I do here and the discussions I respond to. Thanks for sharing sudiptacallingu
@Chispa514 (871)
• Montreal, Quebec
31 Jul 09
I didn't know about that. I mean I know that you don't get any extra earnings for replying to someone's reply on your discussions, but I tend to say thank you just to be courtious, so that people know that I appreciate them taking the time to comment. I don't always thank everyone, but I try to. Just good manners i guess.
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@tjades (3592)
• Jamaica
3 Aug 09
As it is explained to me Chispa, there is nothing wrong with saying thank you as long as that is not your only response to the comments. For example if had just replied to your comment here with a 'Thank You' and not actually respond to your comment then that would be against the guidelines. Now that I have responded to your comment I can say.... Thanks for commenting Chispa
@anne25penn (3310)
• Philippines
5 Oct 09
I am aware now of the do's and don'ts having noticed my rank falling after making two discussions. After seeing so many similar discussions, I never knew that they were against the rules of mylot.