Friends Request Issue..uh...oh.....
@LetranKnight25 (33117)
Philippines
August 2, 2009 12:47pm CST
Ok. it's 1:00 am here again and am kinda freaky headed at the moment. usually, times like this i get to say a lot of things that i usually regret in the morning..but what the heck it's a problem and i need to discuss it...because i may need some answers.
I know we have some issues with adding friends request because some of us prefer to add people when they have enough post either a lot of or lot more than ours. and some add them quickly as they are requested. for me, i often approve the request when ever they reach certain level of post like 200,400, or 500+ i would add them..or if they are Filipino users,i won't doubt that.
but some how i stop approving request and got busy with the discussing and responding. and probably because of my reasons above. in my case, when ever i find a user who has more post than me and same country i would add them. specially those who had been a mylot friend before in my old account(canceled and deleted)
But then, i checked my pending request and i saw mine is still pending....i could understand if they are from another country(probably not active or too busy with other things) but some of other Filipinos as well? either am ranting and being sensitive again or simply....there's a Huge Karma going on about me
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I know that am a good person but i doubt people in mylot knows...and that's probably why I am also in their pending request line with the others.
Well, just to lower my burden..am approving those in the "Approve Pending List
I can understand if some have not approve other people out of Fear..I am too.
and Probably that discussion in "Block Feature" could turn out to be a bad idea as well..right?
*head slowly lowered down*
Good Night
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I know that am a good person but i doubt people in mylot knows...and that's probably why I am also in their pending request line with the others.
Well, just to lower my burden..am approving those in the "Approve Pending List
I can understand if some have not approve other people out of Fear..I am too.
and Probably that discussion in "Block Feature" could turn out to be a bad idea as well..right?
*head slowly lowered down*
Good Night
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10 responses
@doryvien (2284)
• United States
3 Aug 09
Hi Letran,
I understand your feeling on not being approved after your request has been left untouched for quite sometime. I just deleted two friend requests I myself initiated because they haven't been acted upon for about a month already, one was inactive, and the other one was very active-this last one apparently didn't like me to be in his friends' list. Whatever reason they may I have, I won't wait forever, one month is enough, then I'll just find someone who is "more friendly".
I have always approved friend request without even checking on the profile, until one time I received one which I approved immediately, and a few minutes later that same member sent me a PM asking me to sign up in another site so she can win a prize(I made a discussion on this entitled "a weird request from a new friend"), and I thought, what a way to start friendship! So now I make it a habit to check on the profile first. They don't need to have many posts, I approved even the new ones, but if I see so many banners of earning sites, I have second thoughts.
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@mysdianait (66005)
• Italy
2 Aug 09
How you deal with your friend list is a very personal issue in my opinion. None of us are the same here and we each accept, deny or leave pending depending on individual criteria.
The reason your request if still pending could even be because the user has not logged on again since you sent it
Maybe that user does not accept until they are certain of the reason why the request was sent in the first place. Maybe.... we cannot know what others do and why they do it.
Relax, sleep well and may all your tomorrows be fun ones! 
Maybe that user does not accept until they are certain of the reason why the request was sent in the first place. Maybe.... we cannot know what others do and why they do it.
Relax, sleep well and may all your tomorrows be fun ones! 
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@ravirai8616561 (824)
• India
3 Aug 09
i FEEL THAT THOSE WHO ARE POPULAR ARE THE ONES WHO FACE THIS AS THEY HAVE A PROBLEM OF RESOLVING FRIEND REQUEST IN BULK.
@TheGladys02 (104)
• Philippines
3 Aug 09
Theres nothing wrong if you don't approve all the request of invitation. And it will not coz you KARMA. Maybe you don't feel to accept them or its not your priority. And maybe there is something wrong in your old account so thats why it was cancel. What ever it is? Don't think it too much any way you have a new account you can still have another friend that you can accpet. Don't think it to much...Have a good night sleep and sweet dreams....
@Nobody4me (165)
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20 Aug 09
i agree with the person above. only popular mylotters had that kind of problem. so, don't trouble yourself with it because it's your choice and it won't hurt other peoplee with your choice rejecting them.
@roniroxas (10559)
• Philippines
2 Aug 09
for me approving friends and pendings are not my issue, that no deal for me. i approve a;; the friends request that i get and i dont check my pendings if the approve mine or not. not approving me is their right. when i approve a friend request i notify them all on. my issue is when they start a discussion i make it a point to join in as long as i know what the topic is all about, but get really pissed not seeing them on discussions that i start. i just dont get it. so sometimes i start discussion and observe who can really response at my discussion then delete people on my list who does not response. that is my issue. i just dont get that when i started a few discussion and i can not see them supporting it.
@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
3 Aug 09
I rarely request for friendship nowadays but would not hesitate to approve a friend's request. When I see a request for friends I will normally approve it instantly if I have seen their active participation here. Not that I am choosy but I have my reason to let those with small figures besides their names to hang on my pending list. They have to prove their merits first as some are not even active after they signed up. I didn't know that you're an oldie here. So you are a born again mylotter in mylot? 

@Mikaela_taz25 (1842)
• Philippines
3 Aug 09
Don't take that seriously, Knight. it's their right you know. and don't feel bad about it because we are here. or am I not enough for yah?
. well, anyways, if you have pending approve request and don't feel like adding them then don't.am Filipino, if they don't add you it's their problem. even if some of them are Filipinos. @seanbryan (349)
• United Arab Emirates
3 Aug 09
Hello Letran!
I am a Filipina and i'm new with my lot and certainly I need more friends. I'm enjoying posting responses to anybody's discussion that interests me to make use of idle times. If you are going to add me in your friends list, i'm sure you will learn something from me I have a lot of ideas to share with anybody here. Can you be my friend? Cheers!










