Should I train my son from a left-handed to a right-handed person?

Malaysia
August 6, 2009 6:47pm CST
My 7-year old son is born a left-handed boy. I used to admire my friends who are left-handed, and now my son is one as well. I've not come across with articles in parenting magazines that mention anything about parents should train their left-handed child to be a right-handed person. I find out that there is no problem for him to carry out daily tasks or using a computer. But some of my relatives said that I should train him to write using right hand. I hope that there are left-handed people in MyLot that can give me some advice on this, and I would be very much appreciated if you could tell me what difficulties that you've encountered in your daily life for being a left-handed person.
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• Philippines
6 Aug 09
well theres nothing wrong with left handed. though people says those left handed person are intelligence though not maybe all, same as right handed people. the reason why some people want to change their child to right handed is for their own sake. so it will not be hard for them to right in school. remember that school chair have right handed arm chair.. and if your right handed of course it will be easy for you writing. i have a left handed friend way back school days and she always complaining that her hand stuck or lets say become heavy or tired coz we cant avoid writing long hour. just imagine yourself writing without the support on your arms. like its suspended to to the air for a long hour. the right handed students can just relax their arms on the arm chair while writing.
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• Philippines
7 Aug 09
ops sorry, i mean it will not hard for them to "write". i guess i said right in my post lol
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• Malaysia
7 Aug 09
Yeah Homeshoppers, i guess this can be a small problem for him later on. But still alright because only bother him for 3-4 years. I think this should be okay. Thanks for your view, i really appreciate that :-)
@cainam (493)
• Philippines
7 Aug 09
i've heard that people who are left handed excell more in arts and literature.. there are parents who train their left handed child o become right handed and the child learned in both hands. it's quite impressing but i guess you do't need to make it hard for your child and just let him be a left handed.
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• Malaysia
8 Aug 09
Dear Cainam, Yes, I heard the same too! Before this, I thought it will be cool if my son can use both hands to write, but as you said, I shouldn't make his life difficult just to be a cool person. There are other more useful things to learn in life than this. Thanks for the views.
@cobra1368 (702)
• United States
7 Aug 09
Why should it matter? I know a lot of left-handed people. They are normal people, they just write with their left hand! There is nothing odd about that. Did your relatives give a reason why you should train him to be right-handed? I am actually ambidextrous, sort of. I can do anything with both hands except write correctly. I can write in mirror image cursive with my left hand while writing the right way with my right hand. That is the only way I can write with my left hand! Shooting and aiming sports I have to do left-handed. I would just let him be left-handed and move on. It isn't a disorder, after all.
• Malaysia
17 Aug 09
WOW! Are you born ambidextrous? I know that this kind of people are rare. You are so lucky! After reading so many responds, I have decided to let my son be a "lefty". Thanks and have a nice day!
• United States
17 Aug 09
I guess I was. For as long as I can remember, I've been able to use both hands for almost everything. At the dinner table, my dad would make fun of me if I switched hands in the middle of dinner. He would say, "What happened, did that hand get tired?" One thing I have observed about lefties is that some of the most intelligent people I've ever known were left-handed. I'm not sure if there is a connection of some sort, but I do know that I have met some brilliant left-handed people. Letting your son be lefty is no big deal. He will be fine!
@Ruby722 (796)
• China
7 Aug 09
Hi there I think it won't be a problem.Using left hand just like using our right hand is the sam principle.You don't need train your son to use his right hand .Just let it be.Good luck to you
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@kevchua (1004)
• Malaysia
7 Aug 09
No, there's no need to train your son to be right-handed when he's a naturally left-handed person. However, you could teach him to use his right hand for the same tasks if you wish - but it's not necessary. People force their children to use their right hand because in this world, everything is built for right-handers. One good example is using the computer mouse (of course there are mouse for left-handers, but not many). In some cultures, the right hand is also believed to be cleaner, and that's why you present gifts and shake hands with your right hand. Again, I'd like to emphasize that it's not necessary (though good) to get your son to use his right hand, and there's no need to admire right-handers too. In addition, do not compare him with other kids; it will cause your son to feel inferior and he'd learn NOT to accept himself.
• Malaysia
17 Aug 09
Hi Kevchua, Nice facts you got there! Now I am glad that I didn't forced him to use his right hand, but will try to train him use his right hand to play games. It's always good if we could train both sides of our brain. I'm right handed, so sometimes I use my left hand to hold spoon during meal time, trying to boost my creativity though, lol!
@angelajoy (1825)
• Philippines
7 Aug 09
Left-handed people are certainly artistic and creative because being left-handed means that the dominant part of the person's brain is the right part, which is the part of the brain responsible for creativity.
@kevchua (1004)
• Malaysia
7 Aug 09
I'd like to add, left-handed people are gifted. Here are some facts about left-handers: 1. eight US Presidents including Obama are left-handers 2. they think more quickly when carrying out certain tasks 3. easier for them to multitask 4. generally there are more intellectuals (Benjamin Franklin, Steve Forbes) 5. they are artistic people (Leonardo da Vinci, Amithabh Bachan, Natalie Cole) So being left-handed has its advantages too :)
@cassrufus (116)
• Philippines
6 Aug 09
hi mam good day to you, According to my psychology class theres no problem in left handed, and i advice you not to force him to be right handed it may cause him to some problem coz his being left handed was inborn and not being practice. Hope you can do some research about your son situation so that you can store more idea if you choose him to be right or left handed. And my brother is left handed he is good in everything he do.
• Malaysia
7 Aug 09
Hi Cassrufus, I really want to know more about the life of left handed person, that's why I started this discussion, to get more info. Since your brother is doing so well in his life, then there should be no problem for my son. Thanks for your advice Cassrufus. Have a nice day.
@Debs_place (10520)
• United States
7 Aug 09
I am left handed. He will learn to adapt to the minor inconveniences that a lefty has to live with and trust me it is not a big deal. When I was a good lefties were looked down upon and punished and told to write with their write hands (then they got bad grades in penmanship). Being left handed is an asset in many areas. My son is an athlete. He practices so he has a strong left hand ( He is right handed) because it is easier to score lefty on a right handed goalie.
• Malaysia
17 Aug 09
Thanks Debs, for sharing your experiences. I know a lefty will need to face certain inconveniences in life. Since you as a lefty didn't complain much about them, so I would just leave my son to be a lefty.
@cher913 (25782)
• Canada
7 Aug 09
i a m not left handed but my daughter is. she is 12 and there was no way that i would have taught her to use her right hand instead of her left. to be honest, i think that 7 is too old anyways to train your son. my daughter was born that way so why should i change it?
• Malaysia
17 Aug 09
You are right, 7-year old is too old to train him so I might just try to play ball catching that can train his right hand...I think this is fun, and I can use my left hand to throw and catch. He would train his right brain, and I train my left side brain...isn't this a win win situation? LOL
@dreamr802 (985)
• United States
7 Aug 09
Why is your family telling you to teach your son to write left handed? I'm a righty...but my little brother is a lefty, so is my grandmother and so are a lot of my friends. They never have any problems with anything...I think it would be very difficult for him to write with his right hand especially if he is naturally a lefty.
• Malaysia
17 Aug 09
Well, most of the "advices" are from elderly people. They think that all things are created and desined for right handed people, so it's better to be a right handed person as one will be easier to fit into the society. But after reading responses in Mylot, 98% left handed people said they don't have any problem living a happy and normal life. So I have decided not to change my son into someone that is not natural for him. Thanks and have a nice day.
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
7 Aug 09
I am not left handed but I know that most doctors I know say dont force a child to go against being left handed, its 'wrong and just creates emotional problems. everywhere now left handed people are accepted without question. I cannot even lift my left hand but a few inches now as I have had to have the left shoulder joint replaced with metal and stell shoulder joint replacement. I say dont go against the way your son is born,it will only cause emotional problems. let him be left handed,its natural for him.
• Malaysia
17 Aug 09
Dear Hatley, After reading all the responds I had decided not to forced my son to write using right hand. Really appreciate all Mylotters great advices and views. I don't know what had happend to your left shoulder, but I sincerely wish you can recover soon and live a happy life! May God bless you and your family.
@angelajoy (1825)
• Philippines
7 Aug 09
You definitely shouldn't do that. We studied this in our psychology class and my professor said that if someone left-handed is forced to be right-handed, it would result in speech problems for that person. The same is also true for right-handed people forced to be left-handed.
• Malaysia
17 Aug 09
Hi Angelajoy, Wow! Thanks for saving my boy from speech problem! I really don't want this to happen, really appreciate your view on this subject. I will let other parents know about this too. Have a nice day.
@olydove (1209)
• United States
7 Aug 09
My son is 14 and like yours left handed. He's never had any problems in life because of it, he gets excellent marks in school, writes, reads, does what anyone else can do. Many years ago certain communities believed that left handed people were evil but that's just not true. Don't worry about teaching your son to become right handed, in fact I don't recommend it as it might make him feel insecure because he is left handed, he might feel bad and weird, develop a complex about it. Let him be himself it's not of any harm to him or anyone else. Good luck and happy mylotting.
• Malaysia
14 Aug 09
Hi Olydove, I'm so happy for you that your son is doing great at school and happy with his life. I guess the left handed people will learn to use machines and other equipments that are designed for right handed people in their own way, just like Razcal, lol!
@olydove (1209)
• United States
7 Aug 09
LOL I don't blame you there. Seriously it makes sense, if it doesn't work for you, and you can do just as good the other way then they should have let you be. Sometimes people can be so ignorant very true. :) Let's hope they've learned a little since then and don't give the kiddos such a hard time these days.
@doryvien (2284)
• United States
7 Aug 09
Hi Gina, I think a few days ago I answered a similar discussion, but I'll still be happy to share my thoughts. I am a left-handed person, and back in my school days, while I enjoy the myth that left-handed are better in most aspects than the right handed(yes, it's just a myth, it's unfounded), I had my share of difficulties in this area. In school the armchairs were made for right-handed people, I felt uneasy using them specially during exams. Learning to play string instruments like the guitar was a challenge because all guitars back then were made for right-hand person. And isn't there only one way of using the spoon and fork together?(spoon has to be at the right side - so hard for me at first). Most things were made for right-handed people. I've noticed early on that my son was left handed. When I enrolled him in pre-school his teacher noticed this, and immediately told me that she will train my son to use his right hand. I let her because I didn't want my son to suffer the inconveniences I've experienced during my time. Now he's doing well and he is using his right hand more than the left hand. I don't think that his being right handed now affected any of the innate talents/skills he has when he was still using his left hand dominantly.
• Malaysia
14 Aug 09
Hi Doryvien, Thanks for sharing your life experiece with me because I really need to hear voices from the left handed people out there, so I can make judgement. I don't know how my son feel about playing guitar but now he is very happy learning his piano lessons, so no problem for him. As for the fork and spoon issue, i think he will learn to use opposite to right handed people. There should be no problem right? I mean people will not look at him as if he is an alien, right? From your experience I think the inconveniences you encountered can be overcome and so, I can still let him be who he is naturally. Oh, I feel happy for your son because he is doing so well and has no problem at all using his right hand. Best wishes to you and your family.
• South Africa
7 Aug 09
Hi. I am no expert but I don't see what the problem is? There are a lot of left handed people out there and I haven't heard any of them complain about being left handed. That's the way he was born so leave him be. If it does become a problem for whatever reason in the future then do something about it then. Like the saying goes "cross that bridge when you get to it."
• Malaysia
14 Aug 09
Hi Saburation, I think it shouldn't be a difficult bridge to cross, as you said, no left handed people complain for who they are. Thanks for the advice, and have a good day!
@sacmom (14192)
• United States
7 Aug 09
That is entirely up to you if you wish to do that. However, I don't think it is necessary. I've been left handed for as long as I can remember and it's never really affected me any. There might be some disadvantages to being left handed, but the only one I can think of was that there were never enough left handed scissors in elementary school. LOL I don't see the big deal if someone is left handed or right. Right handed people aren't any smarter than left handed people and vise versa. I never understood why some people make such a big deal out of it. My own sister (who is right handed) tried to teach me to write with my right hand when we were little. I wouldn't doubt that it embarrassed her that her little sister is left handed. She went out of her way to learn to write with her left hand just to show me that it was possible for me to learn to write with my right, but I just couldn't get the hang of writing with my right hand and both of us gave up soon after. Good luck on whatever you decide. And if you do decide to teach your son to write with his right hand try not to push the issue on him, otherwise it might just backfire on you. Happy mylotting!
• Malaysia
14 Aug 09
Hi Sacmom, The truth is I don't feel embarrased with my left handed son, it's just that some of my relatives just keep telling me it would be better if he can learn to write with right hand. I know there might be a little inconvenient for him later on in terms of operating machines or equipments which are designed for right handed people. But I think that this is not a big issue since there is never protest going out from the left handed people that is big enough to be in the headline of newspapers, lol! And I'm happy that you share your experience with me to show me that there isn't anything wrong and to sad about to be a "lefty". Wish you have a good day.
@kprofgames (3091)
• United States
7 Aug 09
I always understood the difference in what hand you use is what side of the brain dominates. I could be wrong here, but that's how I believe it is. Honestly, there is nothing wrong or incorrect about being left handed. As far as doing tasks or using the computer, it doesn't make any difference what hand you use for that - I mean do you type differently using your right hand? Do you do tasks/chorse differently when your right handed? No again. So really there isn't anything wrong with being left handed or right handed. But if the brain is telling you one thing and you try to retrain it for another, don't be suprised if there is frustration there. I would think the most important thing here is that you don't make him feel bad about himself because of what hand he uses. His on brain is telling him which hand to use, if you push the issue you can make him selfconscience about it and then you can have trouble with him in writting assignments at school because he will feel he's wrong for using the hand that comes natrual to him.
• Malaysia
14 Aug 09
Yes Kprofgames, I will tell those relatives of mine that my son is perfectly normal and if I try to change him, he will become abnormal and I will become a monster (for loosing my temper, lol!)
@gcorp09 (940)
• Singapore
7 Aug 09
Well, I'm a right-handed but I had friends who are left-handed. I had not really heard of any problems for my left-handed friends. As a parent, I do think that if he's born a left-handed, then just let it be so, and not force him to use his right hand instead. I'm sure he will also like to continue the same way as he was right now, and forcing him to change may not be necessary good for him. Anyway, I had heard before people saying that those who are left-handed are usually creative and artistic.
• Malaysia
14 Aug 09
Hi Gcorp, well I really hope that my son can be creative and artistic, so that means no changing!!
@gwagirl1 (39)
• United States
7 Aug 09
I think that it's completely fine being left handed and personally, I don't think you need to train him to be right-handed as he may grow up to go back to his natural left-handedness anyway.
• Malaysia
14 Aug 09
You are right Gwagirl! No point making my son suffer and me loosing temper all the time!
• Canada
7 Aug 09
Of course not are you kidding? Do you have any idea how talented left handed people are? Besides I think that's absurd, why would you do something like that? Why wouldn't you train a right handed child to be left handed? I think that there are more things going on in the world today then to worry about what hand your child uses. Probably your child lacks the motor skills right now to do the tasks around the house. Just be patient with him and as he grows he'll be better. Also you could try a trick that I learned when I was younger. Give him a tennis ball and have him bounce it on the floor and catch it using both hands, I'm telling you it works.
• Malaysia
14 Aug 09
Hi doglady, My son can do just fine in terms of household chores. For me, he is as normal as a right handed boy, but for some of my relatives, they said it's better for him to use right hand since all machines and equipments are designed for right handed people. I will try your suggestion of using the tennis ball trick. Thanks for the advice, have a good day!
• Belgium
7 Aug 09
I am not a left handed person myself but I can suggest you that you should not try to force you son to write using his right hand. If naturally he is a left-handed then it is better he uses his left hand for writing and other things. Also forcing him to use his right hand means curbing his natural senses. He won't be able to use his right hand with same dexterity as his left hand.
• Malaysia
14 Aug 09
Hi G_vickie, Thanks for the advice. I think letting my son live naturally as who he is should be the best way to nurture him.