Can you say NO ?

India
August 7, 2009 4:41am CST
Every time in our general life we meet so many people.Some people give us something but some ask. We can say "YES" or "NO".But Is it so simple? Sometimes we don't want to say "YES" but we can't say "NO". Can you say NO very easily to someone?
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• India
7 Aug 09
Hello friend. Sometimes it is really very hard to say NO to a person because at many such cases we have got some sentiments involved with that situation or we know that person very well and he had already helped us before. For eg, as you know when we go to canteen to eat patties, some very poor beggars normally begs in front of us and in 70% of the cases we refuse them. But that refusal is not very easy for me. The reason for that is I do feel sorry at their conditions so I want to give them but can't as they asks daily and we think that if we give them money daily we would come at their places. LOL. For another situation, my cousin brother who is very soft spoken and helped me before many a times is in need of my pendrive a few days ago. I got in to a dilemma kind of situation because I need that pendrive the next day but I could not refuse him and gave him the pendrive. In other case, while attending our classes many of my friends normally asks me to leave the classes and go to a friend to play cricket (I think you know who they are) and because I am a die hard fan of cricket, I cant say NO to them. HEHEHEHE!!! LOL, LOL. HaPpY MyLoTtInG!!!!! Enjoy..
• India
7 Aug 09
Its really nice to know that you think about the strangers with such feelings. I also try to help such people but you are right if we give them money daily we would come at their places.;);0
• India
7 Aug 09
Yes. LOL
• India
7 Aug 09
everytime I think about improving myself but all in vein. Can you teach me how to say NO?
• India
7 Aug 09
Yeah, that`s right. I also find it difficult to say NO straightaway even if i don`t want to say yes. So, i generally take a middle road and i say, "I will try my best, but don`t be completely dependent on me, i may fail in what you seek from me". This is not as disheartening for the person as saying NO and not that degree of commitment as saying YES. Happy Mylotting!!
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• India
6 Nov 09
ohh nice escape I must say you know how to say a sweet no Happy mylotting
• India
7 Aug 09
Hi friend, It is quite difficult to say no any person and it became more tedious once you know the person or person is near to your heart. For me it is really difficult in some cases. I have a group of friends, we are playing toghther from a long time at a place near my house. Sometimes I wants to refuse them but I can not. I would not want to heart their feeling. Enjoy mylotting.
• India
7 Aug 09
Its tough for each & every human being to become a rude guy. Every person become senti when he couldn't help someone but some know how to refuse sweetly.
• India
7 Aug 09
Yes, and never try to hurt them else it could be dangerous to you as well.
• India
7 Aug 09
Hi friend, Yah I would not know how to refuse sweetly. I wont want to be senty too.
@sid556 (30989)
• United States
8 Aug 09
Do you mean like when someone asks to borrow money for a pack of cigs and or a 6pk and you really don't have it to spare but they promise to pay you by friday but then friday comes and they have a sad story? That sort of situation? I have learned to say NO very easily to that sort of thing. I actually have just learned over time to follow my heart. I have some friends that I would do things for even if I'd really rather not....just because I know...really KNOW ...they'd do the same for me.
• India
8 Aug 09
if someone is saying that he will use my money in such things,I will also refuse him because even if he is my enemy I cant let him smoking. Smoking is injurious for health.
@ashi786 (241)
• India
7 Aug 09
telling no is not easy one bt smtimes circumstances make it ............ it is very difficult bt we are men then we have to do it
• India
7 Aug 09
Hello ashi, but I think you are not a men (as your avatar and username suggests) and hence should not say like this (Plz don't take it otherwise). Enjoy MYLOT.
• India
7 Aug 09
I find it rather difficult to say to people,I find myself in very deep problems for this every now and then.Now i have learned to say NO to some people right away.I have realized that if you don't say no because you don't want to be rude ..you will eventually find your self in a big mess and may be you will hurt that person even more than you would have done if you have said no straight away..
• India
7 Aug 09
You are absolutely right. Saying "YES" every time can put you in a big problem. Can you tell me some tricks to make myself saying "NO" in certain situations?
• India
7 Aug 09
hmm this is quite difficult according to me..i really cant utter the word "NO" directly..it seems quite harsh to me..if some of my close friends asks me a favour but i am in no mood i still can never say no..its close to impossible to me...though i feel reluctant and feel stupid later but i can never say no..not possible
• India
7 Aug 09
You know what I can't say NO to even my enemy Face to Face. It becomes very difficult to me. By the way You are really a good friend. Keep Smiling.
@kircho (493)
• Bulgaria
7 Aug 09
Well. That depends on the situation. By the way- Nice Question. Saying no means you GIVE UP, but while still don't want to say NO, that means you are stubborn. But yes, I prefer saying NO sometimes.
• India
7 Aug 09
you are really strong enough to say NO. By the way saying No is not always GIVE UP. YOu know very well that every NO can give you an inspiration to make something large. RIGHT?
@kezabelle (2984)
7 Aug 09
I have one friend who gives a lot and is a good friend but since splitting with her partner has reuired more of my time and support than normal. However 4 months on and its still the same and I am having to find myself saying no sometimes to going round in the evening to keep her company because it was getting to be most nights and I seriously feared for my own relationship for me i can say no only if me saying yes will cause me a big problem otherwise im pretty happy to say yes most of the time.
• India
7 Aug 09
It's really good you say YES everytime but sometimes you should say NO because it is also important.
• United States
7 Aug 09
Sometimes its hard to say no. For me, the problem is I daydream sometimes and just answer "mmhmm" to anything people say and had "mmhmm"ed myself into some pretty annoying tasks.
• India
7 Aug 09
My friend if the guy who is asking some help is known to you(sometimes strangers too)It is almost impossible to say NO. We can say that WE ARE STRONG,WE CAN STAND ANY PROBLEM. But at this point we always become weak. keep mylotting