How do you deal with a person you do not like?

United States
August 13, 2009 7:17am CST
Let's say they are a fellow classmate, or co-worker... maybe even a friend of your friend. You see them almost everyday or quite often and for some reason they have a habit of making problems, or causing drama with you. What are some ways you deal with this sort of situation...? For me it depends on the person and their connection with me. If it's a friend of my friend I tend to be very rude and intimidating. If it's a classmate or a co-worker I seem to bite my tongue, sugar-coat or speak to them honestly about the situation.
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16 responses
@Capsicum (1444)
• United States
13 Aug 09
You sound a lot like me ! A new tactic I have been trying is to bite my tongue in all situations. Of course there will always be a few that you must kill with kindness ,If indeed they are in competition with you for your friends ,looks,ect. Whatever got the bug up there butts ,Is gonna be a little more un-comfy for them seeing me.I don't let people ever get the best of me. I am the one that will help the underdog if people like this are around. I guess my attitude should be more mature but that,s how ,I feel. Never let them see you sweat !
• United States
13 Aug 09
Wow! That's a great way to look at it... I never really thought of them as possibly being competitive as well. Haha, I like how your attitude towards this is a lot like mine :)! I'm glad someone feels this way as well. I feel like my attitude should be strained or held back... but I just can't help myself lol!
@Capsicum (1444)
• United States
13 Aug 09
Thanks for best response ! I think you will enjoy my-lot ,seeing you don't actually know people in person. It makes it much easier to be honest in your responses. And yes things do get a bit huffy here at times too......
@divkris (1156)
• India
14 Aug 09
Oh! I simply ignore them. Ignore them to the extent that they shy away from me. I think that is the biggest cruelty one can show against another - desertion. Or if happen to speak to them often (because of my type of job profile) i would include sarcasm or pull their leg every time i talk to them or just act as if i were a snob! - LOL
• United States
15 Aug 09
LOL! That's awesome, that's exaaactly how I act. I tend to drown them in sarcasm and be kinda mean back. I was questioning myself to if this is the right way to go on about it... But an eye for an eye I guess? Haha! Thank you for your reply =]!
• India
14 Aug 09
if a person is good but still bothers u then not a big issue if he is bad and bothering u then i think u shouls tell this to ur parents or elder ones because no one can solve better than our parents or otherwise u can ignore that person or if possible try don' t to be i that place whereever is that person because staying away from a person whpo bothers u is a best way .
• United States
15 Aug 09
I think in certain situations a parent can't do anything more than give advice (friendships, work, networking) I think when they can do most is when it comes to school. I try to stay away from any drama I can but once it happens it's hard to run off! lol thank you for your response ^^
• India
14 Aug 09
I don't mind who he is but if I dislike him/her then I'll show it off just by ignoring them.
• United States
15 Aug 09
That's good. Sometimes it's hard to shrug off and ignore... but I'm glad some people are able to do it =x! Thank you for your response!
@indyoke (80)
• Indonesia
14 Aug 09
In working field, i just say that we must profesional, even we don't like with one person in the office, but we must connect in working field, i think we must avoid and made disapear our personal feeling to him/her. But in other situation, i think it's better to discuss and chat what kind problem that we have about him. Cause personal feeling eventually our work not good enough. So personal feeling is very important in the working field too.
• United States
15 Aug 09
That is very true! That's why when it comes to work and co-workers I'd decide to bite my tongue or not say anything. Sugar-coat if it comes down to it! Thank you for your response =]
@advokatku (4036)
• Indonesia
14 Aug 09
I am is I am, so if any like me, its not be my problem. I am keep enjoy and take a problem with them
• United States
15 Aug 09
Lol that's a great way to look at it :) Thank you for your response!
• China
14 Aug 09
For my opinion, there people I don't like I will bite my tongue,no matter who they are.That seems simply.
• United States
15 Aug 09
That's good... I try to do the same but it's just so hard sometimes! When someone says something "smart" to me I always have some kind of sarcastic remark, or something mean to say. If they're of importance I try to hide my attitude, but when I turn away I roll my eyes lol
@dbabcook (389)
• United States
14 Aug 09
For me it also depends on whom it is & the situation. I have to deal with an individual currently on a daily basis who has done me very wrong and unfortunately in this situation I have no choice but to be friendly. However, if this person were to cross the line then I would have to say the boxing gloves would be on.
• United States
15 Aug 09
Haha! Yay for boxing gloves! My fights/arguments never get physical but I have gotten into several fights in the past year. Probably about 2. But it wasn't all that big.
• United States
13 Aug 09
I'm nice to everyone even those that I really do not care for. I just talk to them like I normally would unless we've had a terrible falling out and just aren't on speaking terms anymore. Otherwise, I'm nice to everyone and just deal with them for as long as I'd have to. Of course, I'm like everyone else though and eventually I'll end up complaining about them, but I feel like that's definite human nature.
• United States
15 Aug 09
Yeah... it's natural to complain or be annoyed by something. Thank you for your response! :)
@vandana7 (72390)
• India
13 Aug 09
I wish somebody had advised me on this when I was working. :-) I could never find out what was the right solution. I had some colleagues who were jealous of me. They knew what irked me, still they did it. The boss being my relative could not side me, as it would look unfair. They took advantage of this and told him stories, which were utterly untrue. I was humiliated in front of the entire staff, several times by my own relative because of these stories. Eventually I left. About six months later, the girl was thrown out because she started behaving like that with others as well. I read a book that says avoid such people. Am I happy? Not really. I am kind of expecting god to play some role that exposes all these tricks. Till then I too am searching for a solution to this problem. :-)
• United States
15 Aug 09
That really sucks! This is a lot like the situation I have. They know they get on my nerves and continue. I'm sorry to hear this caused you to leave. But I'm sure she got what was coming to her. Karma serves in favor of those who deserve it :)!
@tr0tilas (63)
• Lithuania
13 Aug 09
I ignorate that classmate at all.
• United States
15 Aug 09
Haha, I think school is slightly more easier than work. But still complicated. That's a good way to go about it though :)!
• Qatar
13 Aug 09
hi Izzykitty ^^ well, ya it depends but I always act peacefully and actually it works with me !! all people who have been rude with others are some how good with me coz I've been always smiley person and happy with them but there are limits between me and them they can't cross the line coz they know me and wonder what behind that kind face
• United States
13 Aug 09
That's good! That's usually how I go about it too at first. I smile, I act nice and peaceful but sometimes they just push my buttons... and when they do I tend to get angry quick depending on what they do. I never do anything out of line or drastic though... besides being a little rude back.
• Philippines
14 Aug 09
If it's a friend of a friend I actually pretend they don't exist at all. If it's my classmate or co worker and don't have anything to do with her or him I just don't brush my nose on their affairs or activities but if my work requires me to communicate with them or discuss with them I just go directly to business. What will i be discussing with them would just be purely business and nothing personal.
@janzki (49)
• Philippines
14 Aug 09
i smile at them, so they won't feel the wame way towards me.. i won't get the feeling of not liking them ruin my day. life is only a matter of perspective. they may have reasons for acting that way.. and we can't please everyone, other people might also find me annoying... as long as they won't step on my shoes i wouldn't do anything on them.
@Angelgirl16 (2174)
• United States
13 Aug 09
I am happy to report that there are not too many people that I don't like. However, if there is someone that I don't get along with I just avoid them like a plague, you can do this even if you see them everyday. How you associate is up to you. You can to everything you can do to avoid confrontations or you can willingly contribute to them. Integrity will play an important role in your decision.
• United States
13 Aug 09
Well for me I am the type of person who likes to keep drama down. I like peace. but there is always that person who likes to challange you. Well at work I stay professional even if I can sense the other person doesn't care to much for me I continue to stay sweet, greet them and get my work done. When it comes to friends those who cause drama are on a very long string. I try to stay away from them only because I don't need the drama, but I still love them and if they need something I am there but if its not a serious situation, I tend to be far away... Event though I impliment peace, I still speak my mind and show confidence, because those type of people who likes conflict will try you, and make a point to cause drama, if they see your not about it usually they will leave you alone :o)