Who’s the stranger beside you..?

@abanerji (1026)
India
August 22, 2009 2:21am CST
hello myLotters! While traveling alone would you talk to the stranger sitting beside you or would you pretend to be the most reserved and introvert person living on this earth. Would you like to know the name and occupation of the person sitting beside you? I interact with people but only when it is required or only when they start an interaction otherwise I am not interested in the stranger sitting beside me. there are people who not only talk but also start sharing eatables and some even share mobile numbers and e-Mail IDs to keep in touch after the journey too.
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9 responses
• Philippines
22 Aug 09
i don't know why but i often get approached by fellow travellers. some to ask something or sometimes to have a small chat. i easily fall into conversations especially on long flights or travel time. as simple as someone offering a pen when filling up an embarkation card would generate a 30-min conversation... another 15 minutes if his english is limited (because of translaton process). in most cases, we would swap names and stuff we do... trying to learn a connection or shared interest. if there is, then a longer conversation is perhaps in order. i am greatly interested in people, life and experiences. i am fascinated by people from different countries, cultures and languages. there's a lot of stuff to talk about and learn too. it only takes a smile to spark off a conversation. my bestfriend and i happened to meet in the same manner. strangers one moment, bestfriends after some time. it took a smile to start a beautiful 15-year old friendship that has not witnessed a single fight to date.
@abanerji (1026)
• India
23 Aug 09
well seems you are a quite extrovert and seems you love talking to people and knowing about them and their cultures. keep travelling and keep gathering cultural knowledge...
• Philippines
23 Aug 09
would you believe... im actually an introvert for as long as i can remember but because of the nature of my work... which deals a lot about people and communities, i get to spend time talking and interacting with people of different cultures, nationalities, languages/dialects, religion etc.
@voldrox (7200)
• India
22 Aug 09
Hi banerji I have to say i am quiet a reserved person and don't tend to talk to strangers much, i certainly would not raise any topic to converse with unless it is really important, although i would respond to them as friendly as i could if they ask me something... but that's just it, i will not share anything with them...
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@voldrox (7200)
• India
22 Aug 09
certainly you should not give someone your mobile number, e mail id or share edibles so soon with some one you only just met... i don't trust people so fast and that is the safe side while traveling i have to say.
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@abanerji (1026)
• India
22 Aug 09
true! it's really very difficult to trust people
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@malpoa (1218)
• India
23 Aug 09
I pretend as if I do not even see the preson sitting beside me hi hi. I hate travelling alone but when I have no option I have to. On most occations I do not strike up a conversation with the person sitting beside me. But it so appened that last time on the flight, I was the only lady in the vicinity of five seat rows and these middle aged men were drinking and pulling each others leg. I completely ignored them but one among came up to me and asked whether I was married and where I was going...I just told that i was to the first question adn looked away.
@abanerji (1026)
• India
23 Aug 09
it is best not to talk all the time. i think what you did was right for that moment.
@malpoa (1218)
• India
24 Aug 09
I think it is better not to talk to people travelling alone generally men, though im not intending to offend men. But i did have this experience of flying seated beside a girl from b'lore who claimed that she was travelling to meet her bro's would be without the knowledge of her parents. She asked my email id, address...thank god, she didnt ask my phone number. I found her suspicious and gave her a false address and id. It is that you have to be cautious and alert.
@xichen7 (153)
• Philippines
23 Aug 09
Now I am very quiet during traveling time. If some strangers want to talk with me, I will talk with them. But not give my private information to them, I think that's very dangerous.
• United States
23 Aug 09
I will smile and try to speak to the person next to me . I want to show that I'm friendly. Hopefully they will smile and talk back, if not heck I tried .
@xichen7 (153)
• Philippines
24 Aug 09
If you are smiling and talk with me, I am sure you will get good a response from me. I don't want feel lonely when I am traveling, I just mean I will not talk with the strangers first. Happy mylot!
• United States
23 Aug 09
hello abanerji. hahahaha,hohoho my children would roll on the floor at this. They tell me mom you would start up a conversation with a rock if noone was around! Yes, to all you asked! I talk to people in the grocery line, in the stores I shop, in the parking lot, on a bus, in line at movies, at childrens events..you name it I talk. Now,I WILL say I have a gift of sensing anothers disposition..I may say hi and by their response and body language tell if it is a reserved person, unfriendly, friendly, or like me a chatterbox! So the level I would talk and share would directly be related to how much the other was responding. I also will try to encourage or compliment if I sense its just a bad day.That alone can bring people out of their shells. Since having an auto accident, I do not do all the physical activities I use to. I have turned online to meeting people. Yet, we still have doctors appts, shopping,school activities which must be attended. I find even if I am drained or feel like crap, I respond with a smile and the outgoing temperment I was born with. Thank you for your question.
@abanerji (1026)
• India
23 Aug 09
you seem to be very talkative and extrovert. well keep interacting and having fun with people around...
• United States
22 Aug 09
This is a really good question. I traveled alone on buses a lot in college, and I rarely spoke to the person sitting next to me, but if that person struck up a conversation, I would. I'm friendly, but I'm also a cynical East Coaster so I don't trust all that easily. It would depend on the vibe I got from the person as to whether I would want to exchange emails.
@abanerji (1026)
• India
22 Aug 09
yeah, sometimes we are able to catch the good and positive vibes and we start talking but then the trust factor still remains. we need to calculate the amount of trust that we can have for such strangers.
@sehlers (166)
• United States
24 Aug 09
I'm very gregarious by nature, so I talk to people all the time, especially if I'm stuck in a line or on a bus. I love meeting new people and having interesting conversations. Having said that, I am very cautious. I don't ever give out my last name or phone number or anything like that, except in special circumstances like both of us being at the same convention or something like that.
@Hatley (164237)
• Garden Grove, California
23 Aug 09
hi abanerji No not really as usually when i am on a bus i'will 'never see that person again and I am very reserved.if its'another older woman I might speak but will not ask personal questions' unless she gives info to me and I sure as hell will not tell'her myname or Adddress or anything like that. I am too careful as'one never knows who is seated beside you.
@joyce959 (1561)
• Philippines
22 Aug 09
I don't usually talk to persons sitting beside while i am traveling alone, except when they initiate to ask or talk, I talk or respond to them nicely. Also when there is a need for me to ask questions, like directions in a foreign place or something I need to clarify and ask, then I ask the people/ persons who I think can answer my questions best.