You found out the love of your life is the laziest person,

@ibuemma (2954)
United States
August 24, 2009 4:33pm CST
are you going to dump or divorce him/her or you going to stay with him/her no matter what? I start this discussion because of my cousin just found out that his wife is pretty much lazy. She don't do chores at home, don't cook, she don't want to get a job. My cousin live in Indonesia. It's common in eastern countries that you don't live together before you tie the knot or married. He mention something that he want to divorce her. So if you suddenly hit the fact that your spouse or bf/gf is lazy what you gonna do?
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@soulist (2986)
• United States
24 Aug 09
If my husband didn't do anything around the house or didn't get a job that would put too much stress on me and I would have no other choice but to talk to him about it and try to get him to change his ways. I would tell him he's pushing me away and that he will lose me if it doesnt change. if he doesn't change then I would have to leave.
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@ibuemma (2954)
• United States
24 Aug 09
It's like giving them a second chance to change themselves. I told my cousin too, if his wife somehow can change to keep the marriage. The thing is they've been married for 2 or 3 years and have a child.
@srganesh (6345)
• India
25 Aug 09
I learned from the other responses that they have a child.Is she lazy in attending the child or in her home duties?If so,then your cousin get angry towards her.But if she is taking that role properly,she should not be called crazy.All women don't have the idea to work and earn.So,if he really wants her to earn,it is good for your cousin to introduce her to some home based jobs only after the child has grown to leave to school.Cheers!
@ibuemma (2954)
• United States
26 Aug 09
yes she does, she not even really taking care her kid. I'm pretty much angry and disappointed too. He said he loves his wife so much, he just can't stand her laziness.
• United States
25 Aug 09
If they have a child, she has a job. Being a stay-at-home mother is a full-time job. If he has the money to support his wife and child and there is no financial need for her to go out and get a job, then there is no reason why he should expect her to do so. He should be happy to support his family. They have to work something out with the chores though, split them up somehow.
@ibuemma (2954)
• United States
26 Aug 09
Right now, my cousin and his wife and kid still living in my cousin's parents house. Mostly the kid being taking care by the grandmother. Even my aunt ( my cosin mom ) already complaining about his wife attitude. She sleep mostly all the time, and only comes out to go to the mall.
@bird123 (10546)
• United States
26 Aug 09
You have to ask yourself. Is this true love or not??? If it is true love, you're not really going anywhere. Let's work on laziness by out thinking them. Did you know that even the laziest person will work hard if it is for something they are really interested in?? Now the trick is to find out just what that is, see if it can make you enough money to hire the domestic help to take care of the house. Sometimes to change someone else, you have to change yourself first.
@Hatley (164237)
• Garden Grove, California
24 Aug 09
hi ibuemma well if I was the modern woman I would just'kich him to the curb because the living together is really prettyu loose so nobody really feels that they owe much to each other its too easy just to leave.okay I was veryold fashioned and in 1958 I married my husband and found he was a bit lazy .I told'him if we are going to make our marriage work,you are going to have to work'also and do not critisize the bosses cooking. be good to him.So he realized we both had to work at least until I got pregnant. and he did although he did have a pretty good job turnover.but he was muchj 'better at being lazy.
@zoey7879 (3104)
• United States
24 Aug 09
I did leave someone for this very reason!
• United States
24 Aug 09
Wow sound like my life. I think I would do like i have done explains how i feel about there action and if no changes is made then think about leaving.