Bad Decisions, Who's To Be Blamed?
By skysuccess
@skysuccess (8857)
Singapore
August 25, 2009 6:08am CST
Our very own self.
Just the other day, I think most of you would have read about how a teenager Callie Roger, who had won her country's £1.9million jackpot lottery at the age of 16, is now facing bankruptcy at the age of 22.
On top of it all, she claimed that winning the lottery had done nothing but made her life a world of misery and sufferings. Where she quoted: "winning the lottery has ruined my life. I wish I had never won. I haven't been able to cope with it - and I was convinced I'd be better off dead."
Yet, I question her decisions on how she enters a relationship with a bizarre criminal who eventually tried to sleep with her sister and another relationship where her boyfriend was dealing cocaine.
And her splurges that leads her to a life of wild parties and questionable relations. I am also sure that she had been careless with who she associates and her own wealth and well being.
So, how could she have the cheek to blame her luck in winning the lottery's grand prize. To me it just isn't right to blame others when in the first place, we are all responsible for the path taken and I suppose the saying that says "A fool and his(her) money are soon parted" is just so fitting here.
Or, do you think the winning of the lottery is to be blamed for her plight today?
Ref:
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-1208498/Teenage-lottery-millionaire-Callie-Rogers-won-1-9m-broke-22.html
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@hvedra (1619)
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1 Sep 09
I think she has learned a very hard lesson or five there. At least she bought homes for some of her family and set up a trust fund for her kids so the whole episode isn't an entire loss.
We hear about people like her but what about all the other winners, who chose anonymity - there could have been a dozen sixteen year olds who have won millions but have quietly enjoyed their winnings.
Some of the things she talks about being pressured with happen to a lot of people with money - it doesn't have to be a LOT of money either. I've met people who try to butter up elderly relatives in the hope of a little windfall when they die or who only maintain a relationship because their partner (or their partner's parents) has money.
There are a lot of people of her generation with serious money troubles because they've run up debts on credit cards - at least the money she blew was hers!
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@skysuccess (8857)
• Singapore
1 Sep 09
hvedra,
There is one disturbing issue here and that is the fact that she is going to be a bankrupt. Now, as you know, financial institutions will not just take this lightly or sitting down, and believe me every known invested assets of hers i.e. trust funds and parents' properties may just end up with the bailiffs.
I just felt that blaming the lottery and her stroke of luck is just simply lame. Her obvious neglecting ways and questionable choices is her downright reasons for her fall from glory.
@lyzabelle (1668)
• Philippines
5 Sep 09
That girl is really weird. He wasted her wealth by
ruining herself. She could have donate some of her money
in the orphanage, foundations,to the poor and the needy
all over the world. Then at least she could say to herself that
she made a good thing about her life.
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@Hatley (163772)
• Garden Grove, California
26 Aug 09
heavens no others won the lottery and never went broke.one'has '
to not let this money go to your head.live just like you did'before and consider that you should put most of it in savings and'live on the interest .going off on a spending spree leads to real folly.'ZHaving been poor all my life,I would be extra careful of how I spent all tha t money if I had won that much. its not the money that did her in \
but making the wrong decisions and not figuring out the
consequences.she didnt use her brains at all and she didnt'
bank most of it. so her decisions came back to bite her'inthe rear end and she has onlyherself to blame not anything or anyone else.
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@skysuccess (8857)
• Singapore
26 Aug 09
Hatley,
Her decisions here is really coming back to bite her here and I'd say a rather big chunk here!
I suppose in live, what goes round, does come around!
@theptcnetworks (575)
• Pitcairn
26 Aug 09
Of course we are the captain of our ship, and the master or our own soul. Everything that we do reflects our ends, and gives us our own shape.
Callie, since she won at very early age, has not known which is right and wrong. She has not yet known what things supposed to be like, and what is money with happiness.
I've read the article, and she said that she thought that money will give happiness to someone else.
She's 22 now, and she has learned her lesson. I hope her past experience will give help her become a person.
@doryvien (2284)
• United States
26 Aug 09
Hi Sky,
We are responsible for our own actions. It seems the girl wasn't ready to handle the situation when she won a big amount of money, she splurged as if there was no tomorrow. But then again, ready or not, she made those decisions and she cannot blame anybody, let alone the lottery winnings, for what she has become. That money could have changed her life for the better, but instead it turned her into a mess, and it's because of the choices she herself made.
@skysuccess (8857)
• Singapore
26 Aug 09
doryvien,
My exact sentiments here!
Ready or not, I am questioning her choices of partners in her life so far that left her in such a wreck.
This is just another sad chapter indeed.
Take care.
@seanbryan (349)
• United Arab Emirates
26 Aug 09
Hi there!
Of course not! One has to blame himself of any wrong decisions in life, winning the lottery is a good luck and not an ordeal. Had she used the money in an investment or something viable for her future it would have been the best decision instead of wasting her money in indulging wild parties and dubious affairs. However, at a young age like hers parents or elders should have assisted her, she might have been better off given the appropriate guidance.
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@skysuccess (8857)
• Singapore
26 Aug 09
seanbryan,
Well, I do not think that she lacked the parental guidance or advice part on 2 counts.
First, there were some sound and mature decisions made in the purchase of her parents' houses and savings for her 2 children.
Second, she has been staying with her mother all these times and I do not feel that she lacks any parental advice especially from her mother. Her family may be dysfunctional but I do not think she lacked the guidance and advice. It is just a matter of her choice to decide to heed or not to heed at the end of the day.
Sadly, she chose otherwise.
@mods196621 (3652)
• Philippines
25 Aug 09
You're right. Nobody is going to be blame on what is happening to individual. In life we have the path to walk and everyone of us has own decision of what we wanted to be. In her situation she did not managed well her riches. She lived in luxurious life with whom she would like to be with. WInning a loterry is such a true blessings to us. I always dreamimg of being a lotto winner and to become a millioniare someday. In her case no one's to be blame. Have a nice day!
@UK_Shree (3603)
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25 Aug 09
Yes I do find that quite annoying. She obviously made some very silly decisions when she was lucky enough to win. But it is not fair to blame the lottery for the awful way that her life has turned out - that is purely down to her poor self-control and her inability to make good judgements.
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@skysuccess (8857)
• Singapore
26 Aug 09
Uk_Shree,
My exact sentiments here, so I was really quite riled by her concluding statements when she did not have a tinge of regret for her actions and foolish decisions that led her to this plight.
Well, I suppose a bad worker will always blame his tools than himself when things do not work out is just as true in her. However, I am glad that there were some good decisions made with her spending a portion of the winnings on her parent's houses and her children's future.
I just hope that she will wake up and evolve from this. Living a life in total oblivion here is just going to be tragically disastrous for her here.
@gossipzz (498)
• Canada
25 Aug 09
unfortunatly money does this to some people. People recieve alot of money and it turns them crazy. They do not know what to do with money. Money attracts alot of bad people in your life. The question is how is it a sixteen year old gets to play the lottery. There should be an age limit somewhere. Where were her parents to guide her. Happy lotting
@skysuccess (8857)
• Singapore
26 Aug 09
gossipzz,
Come to think of it, I am not exactly sure of the legal age for lottery players in the UK, however, I feel that she should have cherished her luck at winning, in the first place.
Money does get into people, however, I felt that what turned out today has everything to do with her decisions she made over the span of 6 years. She should at least have woken up from the bad associations, relationship and a bank account that is depleting with the times. I mean if she could have thought of her family - parents and children, then why not herself?
I am sure that her mother would have been concerned and as all dysfunctional families, children can be adamantly rebellious to their parent's advice. So, I am sure she had her earfuls but whether she heed or not, is really her's to decide. And with this outcome, I can only say that she chose otherwise which is another bad decision of her's.
