Anniversaries,what is the point?

United States
August 29, 2009 12:09pm CST
Tomorrow will be mine and my husband's 6 year anniversary. I used to get gift cards from my online sites I sue and take him out to eat. This year I didn't manage to do that. I have no food in the house so I can't even cook him a decent meal. I can't buy him a card,I can't anything. So what is the point? Just another day right?
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@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
29 Aug 09
Sweetie there is a point because guess what it is not about the food Cards Gifts, it about that you 2 have been married for 6 years, that you 2 love one another, that you are together, through thick and thin No card ,meal ,gift ,Card can express that love only you 2 can So to you both Happy Anniversary and many more to come Big Hugs to you both and love
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@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
29 Aug 09
Sweet don't give up I got through it and I know you will I just wish I could help you but I don't have much either specially because I sent my Son Money over the last few weeks so he can eat but he now ahs a Job again, so now catch up on the Bills I just wish I could help you If I was closer I would give you food and that which I have in the House and I would make your Day special for both of you do not give up Sweet Love you
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• United States
29 Aug 09
I see the points people are making here,I guess me not eating and the worry of my daughter going without again has made me a sour puss today. I have given up and I suppose this is clouding my judgement.
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@Hatley (163772)
• Garden Grove, California
30 Aug 09
hi all above oh dear you cannot go without food you have'a child you must get some help from someone,an agency, friends, even welfare,I'know this goes against most of our grains,but you cannot keep going without food to eat,is there a foodbank where you live? 'dont feel bad because you need help,a lot of good decent people rigth now need help and you must ask for it. thetwo of you hAva a responsibility for your child she cannot go hungry. There has to 'be someone who could help you so swallow your pride and get that help.I imagine a lot of us mylotters have known this same trouble 'and have had to swallow their pride and ask for help;.wish I could'do something for you myself.
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@sid556 (30953)
• United States
30 Aug 09
Write him a poem and get creative in showing him how much you love him. I'm in the same boat, kind of. It is my daughter's birthday Monday. My rent is due tues. and after paying that, I have 20.00 left for food. I'll figure something out but I feel so bad. The economy sux right now.
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• United States
16 Sep 09
Sorry it took me so long to get back to you. You were right on with your advice my friend. The stress of life has gotten the best of me lately but good thing IZ have people here who can set me straight.
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@sid556 (30953)
• United States
16 Sep 09
I'm glad it all worked out for you. I know how it is....it's really easy to let the stress get to you.
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@sid556 (30953)
• United States
30 Aug 09
Just remember you are celebrating your LOVE. Your anniversary is just a milestone representing how long you have managed to keep your love alive. Its not about the dinner or the night out or the gift...it is about how much you love each other.
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@Thoroughrob (11742)
• United States
29 Aug 09
Can you find someone to watch your child, and just spend the evening with each other? Give him a good rubdown and have a nice evening. Make him a card or something. Do something from the heart.
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@Thoroughrob (11742)
• United States
29 Aug 09
I can relate to family doing that. Cuddle with him on the couch. Put a child to bed early. Let her play extra hard so she will sleep early.
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• United States
29 Aug 09
No, no one will take my child due to her medical issues. It is sad but it is the way it is with my family.
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@chaime (1152)
• Philippines
29 Aug 09
OH my.. no, not just another day... its your sixth year of being together and you should make it special, it doesn't need to be expensive. You can kiss him and say happy anniversary. You can give him a back rub or massage as a present. You can hug him and say I love you. You can go out the yard (if you have one) and stargaze, if there are no clouds during the night. You can even watch a favorite, even romantic, movie online together. Make the day special, not by spending but by being together and not letting anything come in the way of being in love and together.
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• United States
29 Aug 09
Yes I guess you are right. I will do my best to show my love and hopefully we can get threw this together. I guess just not being able to eat is starting to bother me and I worry for our daughter.
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@ladym33 (10978)
• United States
16 Sep 09
Happy Aniversary. Don't let lack of funds keep you from celebrating your anniversary, still try and do something special even if it means a just lighting a candle at dinner or even in the bedroom. Men are generally happy if we make a special effort in the bedroom. Try to at least make it a romantic night. You could even make him a card or write him a poem.
• United States
17 Sep 09
Yes it was a special night for us. My daughter had a seizure that night sadly though but we were happy she was ok and we had some time to ourselves after she fell asleep.
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@Humbug25 (12540)
29 Aug 09
Hi there babyangie27 Aww it does seem a shame that you won't be marking your special day by celebrating but hey at least you spend time together on the day and you still love each other what does it matter? What does your husband usually do for you on your anniversary?
• United States
29 Aug 09
He usally buys me flowers or makes me breakfest. but since we have no money and no food that goes out the window. Plus he has been pretty down and out since things have gone from bad to worse for us. So I am not even sure what it wil be like in my home tomorrow.
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@Humbug25 (12540)
29 Aug 09
Aww you poor thing, well how about you give him a nice massage when he gets in from work. Run him a nice bath and just enjoy each other. Tell him how much you love him and that you don't need gifts or nice food to prove your love for him. You have come this far together so must still be in love and love each other. I hope you still have a lovely day together tomorrow.
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@Hatley (163772)
• Garden Grove, California
30 Aug 09
ah baby angie thats so sad,and your sixth wedding anniversary.'Do yu have any relatives close to you you could borrow a little money and celebrate your sixth,thats important specially At a time when you are having financial troubles like so many of us are.my heart goes out to you And well Happy Sixth Anniversary. wish I could send you some money or some gifts but woe is me,I dont have any moola either until the first then they dole out our one hundred twenty five dollars that is ours above rent and board.Wish I was close by AS I have a little inthe 'bank and could draw out enough tobuy you some anniversary type food.So all I can do is say I have in my early days when my husband was alive been in the same situation so I know how down you can feel.My mom, God love her was the one who helped us out.She was the parent I was always s o close to. hope things turn clear around for you two and are better than ever. good luck God bless.
• United States
30 Aug 09
The family I have that can help won't because I was not the best teenager in the world and they still hold it against me,and the ones that want to help can't because they don't have anything to spare. Thank you for the kind words it does help during these tough times.
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@Hatley (163772)
• Garden Grove, California
24 Mar 10
hi baby angie just dropped in to see if things are better for you and your hubby,I have been there and done that too so know what it is like for one to be out of work, and to get evicted, the whole bit, now I am in a retirement center,my son in next town over in gov. sponsored apt with three other men all of whom are out of work. its this rotten economy,hope you are better off now. let us all know. love hugs.