Do you call your parents name or do you allow your children call your name?

@sblossom (2169)
August 30, 2009 1:19pm CST
Yesterday I was invited to visit a couple who have two children. We had very good time when I stayed in their home. However I noticed their children called their names at home. I was a little surprised. To me it’s not normal in my family as well as in my country. I wonder how many mylotters have the experience to call their parents name. so my question is Do you call your parents name or do you allow your children call your name?
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@aprces (1082)
• China
30 Aug 09
My parent hope their son or daughter don't call their name,just use baba or mama in Chinese,but once I have a children in the future,I shall let it be,no matter what he or she call me dad or baba even my name,I don't mind it at all.Lots of traditional habit is not healthy in China,there's no need to move on,just change it
@aprces (1082)
• China
30 Aug 09
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@sblossom (2169)
30 Aug 09
so you are more westernized. i don't know it's good or not, i'm just not used to it. thanks for your answer and happy mylotting.
@aprces (1082)
• China
30 Aug 09
I mean in this
@dawnald (84075)
• Shingle Springs, California
4 Sep 09
Mom is mom, dad is dad, step-mother is Jane... Our kids call us mom and dad or sometimes mommy and daddy...
@sblossom (2169)
4 Sep 09
your way is normal in western world. but to many people from east step parents also should called mom or dad. i know to western people is no way. thanks and have a good weekend.
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@dawnald (84075)
• Shingle Springs, California
4 Sep 09
Hm no way am I calling her Mom, nope...
@daliaj (5683)
• India
7 Sep 09
I call my parents not by name. I call them 'mom' and 'dad' and I think they don't prefer me calling their names. I have a friend who calls her mom 'anuty'. She started calling her like that because her cousins calls her mom like that. She started it duirng childhood and even now she calls her mom 'aunty'.
@sblossom (2169)
7 Sep 09
some parents do mind what their children call them, some do not mind. thanks and have a good day.
@VANILLAREY (1473)
• India
5 Sep 09
That is disrespectful. I cannot even think about calling my parents by their first name. Just because times have changed and people have become modern does mean we should forget our manners.
@sblossom (2169)
5 Sep 09
i agree with you.thanks.
• Australia
5 Sep 09
I grew up avoiding calling my mother anything. I had three fathers (well, one and two step-fathers) who all abused me in all ways. I hardly spoke to them at all, and didn't call them anything: certainly not Dad. I have been very happily married for almost 50 years. We had five wonderful sons and a very happy family life. My husband and I always called each other Mum and Dad, as that is what the boys called us. When one of my sons married and later became a father, I was surprised (I guess shocked would be more correct) when their son started calling them by their names. They also called them Mum and Dad at times as well, but it seemed natural that since the parents called each other by name, the children did the same. There was never any disrespect. On the contrary, there was always enormous respect shown. Their eldest son is now 18 and I have never seen a closer-knit family. While it shocked me at the beginning, I must admit it is a delight to see the love and respect shown in that family.
@sblossom (2169)
5 Sep 09
i feel sorry for your young life. however times past, now you have so happy family. thanks for your response and best wishes to you and your family.
• Philippines
31 Aug 09
The only event i remember a person calling her parents his name was the scene on Armageddon Movie where Lucy get's to call his Dad "harry". all that changed where they found out about that terrible incoming asteroid of doom. I never knew in real life that such calling exist. have you asked why they would do that? even in my country we don't call our siblings by their names.
@sblossom (2169)
1 Sep 09
I asked them and the couple said they don't mind. they called their parents by name too. thanks.
@underdogy (700)
• Thailand
31 Aug 09
I had called my parents their name when i was young and i was angry with them. It was just a whisper because I can't afford to let them hear me as i will be punished hehe. Anyhow, i consider it impolite if the children address their parents their name. I wonder if there are countries in the world who call their parents their name? I am not used to it so i don't want my children to call me by my name. I will surely hit them if they do lol...
@sblossom (2169)
31 Aug 09
I really like your answer. thanks and have a good day.
@yogambal_64 (1016)
• India
31 Aug 09
Not at all neither do I call my parents by name nor do I allow my children to call me or my husband by name. We refer to them with respect so do my children also.
@sblossom (2169)
31 Aug 09
you seem a very strict mother, are you? thanks.
• United States
31 Aug 09
I was allowed to call my dad by his name. I had a lot of friends when I was young ask me why I was allowed to do that. This is what he said to me I am your dad but your heavenly father is your true father. At the time it made very little sense to me but now that I am older I think it makes more sense. I love my dad and he passed away in 2006 so God rest his soul. Take care and happy mylotting to you.
@sblossom (2169)
31 Aug 09
i suppose you father was your good friend too. thanks for your answer and happy mylotting to you too.
• India
31 Aug 09
well i have never called my father names... i mean call my father by name nor my mother for that matter but i have friends who do.... i feel that it is not a question of whether it is a practice in our respective countries or not but it is a question of whether your parents are flexible enough to let you call them by names and yet have sufficient control over you... its a great feeling to know you can treat your parents like friends and call them names but it is also a factor to think about whether the respect factor is preserved... that is there and as long as its there we should have no problem with this issue
@sblossom (2169)
31 Aug 09
I'm glad to hear a different voice about the topic. thanks for your answer and happy mylotting.
@hoho159 (55)
• China
31 Aug 09
I call my parents and my parents-in law 'ma'and 'ba',the calling is more closer than others.It is unnormal to call parents'name. I believe it is not allow to do this if I have children. I am a traditional person. so this is my basic rule. where are you,my friend .I stay in Lanzhou .
@sblossom (2169)
31 Aug 09
I don't accept it either. I stay in the uk for now. thanks and happy day.
@louren007 (122)
• Philippines
31 Aug 09
Well, me as a parent I will really teach my kids to call us Mommy and Daddy. Eventhough they are still young ages 4 & 5 but we still let them know our real complete name. In that case, at school they could answer their teacher questions like "Who are your parent?", "What's the name of your Mom or Dad?" and so on... With this lesson, they will not be confused in their lives until they grow up.
@sblossom (2169)
31 Aug 09
it's true. it's important to let young children to know prents name and home address, etc. thanks for your answer and have a good day.
@zoey7879 (3104)
• United States
31 Aug 09
I always allowed my daughter to call her father and I by are given names.. it never bothered me, but her caregiver changed that. Rather pissed me off.. but shrug.. Not much I could do about it.
@sblossom (2169)
31 Aug 09
thanks.it's the result you let your daughter calling your name. it's just joking. happy mylotting.
@horsesrule (1959)
• United States
31 Aug 09
I do not call my parents by their names. I call them mom and dad usually. I have a daughter and she calls me mom and she has kids and they call her mom. My grandsons call me grandma. I like being called mom and grandma because those are special names that are specific to just my daughter and grandsons, no one else can ever claim that special relationship with me. I don't want to be called by my name by my children/grandchildren. I don't want to call my parents by their names either. I don't like it at all. I feel that it takes away from the feeling of family.
@sblossom (2169)
31 Aug 09
i like your statement:I feel that it takes away from the feeling of family. it's just the feeling i feel. thanks.
@Xzcess (176)
• India
31 Aug 09
No. My parents call me by my name of course, but I or my sibling are yet to call them by theirs. Neither have I seen either my mom or my dad to call their parents by their names, same for the siblings of my parents. Even if me and dad or mom are discussing something and I am getting a bit frustrated, I somehow never raise my voice or call them by their names. I have seen some people who use the names with their parents, I am no one to judge, but i will never be comfortable in something like that. It just strikes me as odd.
@sblossom (2169)
31 Aug 09
it's true. i think i also feel difficult to accept the way. if i call my parents names i don't know what's their reaction. thanks.
• India
31 Aug 09
No I donot call my parents by name, I call my parents as dad and mummy. Moreover it is not advisable to call parents by their names. It is our blessed one to call our parents by dad and mummy and not by name
@sblossom (2169)
31 Aug 09
thanks. it seems we all grew up in traditonal family. happy mylotting.
@lynnemg (4536)
• United States
31 Aug 09
I think that the title of Mom and Dad should be respected and therefore, children shoudl use those titles when talking to and about their parents. I always have called my parents Mom and Dad and the only time I use their names is when it is necessary. I have taught my children to do the same, although my oldest son has arrempted to push the limits with it. For example, there have been times when he was unable to get my attention so he hollered my name.
@sblossom (2169)
31 Aug 09
your son is very clever, he already got the secret between parents title and parents name. thanks and happy mylotting.
• China
31 Aug 09
I don't call my parents by their names, and I will never do that, after all, it is not respectful in our tradition. I would rather call them Papa or Mama. But I would be very glad to let my child call my me by my name if I had one in the future. In fact, it is just a cultural difference, and it depends on each country's tradition.
@sblossom (2169)
31 Aug 09
it's true, but i was surprised you think you will allow your children call you name. happy mylotting.
@phyrre (2321)
• United States
30 Aug 09
That's not normal around here, either, really. I've always called my parents Mommy and Daddy. I even call my mother and father-in-law Mom and Dad now instead of their names (though when hubby and I started dating, obviously, I called them by their names). When I have children, I completely expect them to call us Mom or Dad or some form of those instead of our names. I think it's a little politer. I mean, I call my mom by her name when she's in trouble LOL. But only joking around and such.
@sblossom (2169)
30 Aug 09
i think it's more than plite to call parents dad or mum. in my culture call parents name would be a very big insult. thanks and best regards.
@xfahctor (14126)
• Lancaster, New Hampshire
30 Aug 09
I always adressed my parents as mom or dad, I never would have even considered adressing them by their first names. In fact, I was raised to not adreass ANY adult by their first name, it was always either Mr. or Mirs or Miss. unless the adult specificly requested otherwise. I am not as fussy about it, most of my kid's friends always adressed me by my first name, outside of shcool that is, in shcool, it was Mr and i still can't get used to being called Mr, my FATHER is Mr, not me, lol, makes me feel too old. My own children however always adressed their mother and I as mom and dad.
@sblossom (2169)
30 Aug 09
I can imagine your feeling to be called Mr. I’m still not used to be called Mrs either. If I have children I would not allow them calling my name. thanks and happy mylotting.