What kinds of things do "good" roommates do?

@maezee (41997)
United States
August 31, 2009 11:38pm CST
I recently got 2 roommates and I want to be the BEST roommate possible. I don't necessarily want to be friends with them, but I just want to be a GOOD roommate. Other than the obvious stuff, what are some small things that I should be doing to make sure they don't end up hating my guts? If you can't answer that question - try to answer this one for me: What things do you HATE that your roommate does (so I can try to avoid doing them)? This would help me a lot. Thanks!
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12 responses
• Philippines
1 Sep 09
one thing about having a room mates are those who doesnt know how to organize their thing. like they just put their things everywhere, hang their clothes eveywhere and put their shoes in every corner of the room feels like they owned their room. i dont want mess room so i always organize my things. i have my laundry basket, i hve my shoe racks and etc. i also have my own table to put all my stuff for display. i feel like i cant relax and sleep if the bed next to mine is messy or if clothes hanging around the room. i hate it.. thats why, even if its more expensive, i'd rather want to rent a solo room than have a room mates... though its fun to have those coz you have someone to talk with.. i guess its better to respect one's privacy.. though some uses the other things without asking permission only bcoz they feel that their like a family already though its nice but somehow better not..
@jemifer (124)
• Philippines
1 Sep 09
I know women are not as messy as men though.. :)
• United States
1 Sep 09
Good roommates don't site around and let others clean the house. Good roommates work and not site around and run up the electic. My lover and I have been renting the two guest rooms in our home, but for the last couple of roommates that we have had in the rooms have been really bad. They lay around all day and not work. They run the ac in the rooms and watch tv. I don't have a problem with them doing this on days off, but no all the time. We rent the rooms starting at $400 per month with the electric included, but some people take advanage of this. For the most part they think that because they do not own the home that maid service is included.
• United States
1 Sep 09
I definitely agree with you. In a nut shell, you have to be considerate of your roommates. I think that is the biggest thing.
• India
2 Sep 09
Hey maezee first of all it is very good of you to thing that you should be a good room mate rather than asking for a good one.that is one habit that many lack.to be a good room mate is like a good friend.though you don't have to be one still the concept is the same, like sharing, adjusting, helping and many more.if you already had some room mates then you will automatically know how to behave with them. its better to learn from experience than from other.as they say "why learn from others mistakes? make your own".hope you be a good room mate and you get some good ones too
• United States
6 Sep 09
All I really care that my roommates do is not be too noisy, tell me when they are going to be loud, and clean up after themselves. Beyond that, I don't have any more rules. These are pretty simple ones but they help.
@janebeth (2032)
• Philippines
2 Sep 09
hi mae, maybe you can do it by cleaning your room, not your place alone but also clean their place.. arrange the things and make some conversation to them.. i think it will work and maybe by that way they can like you and you can be friends after all.. janebeth.
@dolmitta (221)
• India
2 Sep 09
Getting a good roommate is a blessing in disguise. They take care of you so well when your sick, in times of emegencies, when you need money. They are good advisers. Since they are of your same age group, we would feel much comfortable when they talk to us or advise us. Negative thing about them is, when they take too much of advantage over you, if they don't keep their stuffs clean...
@horsesrule (1957)
• United States
1 Sep 09
I think good roommates clean up their own messes always. I think they also keep their own food in the refrigerator (or in their room if it is non-perishable) and they do not touch others food items. I think they do their own laundry, cook their own meals and they don't borrow anything without asking ever. Plus borrowing all the time, even with asking, gets old real fast. If there is a common area for all the roommates, then I think they should share the cleaning of that common area each week. We have three adult women, three children and two dogs and a cat living under one roof together and mostly we get along but it is about respecting the other persons stuff quite a bit (the kids fail on that by the way! LOL)
@hotsummer (13835)
• Philippines
1 Sep 09
i had not experienced leaving home or staying somewhere for that long. except few times when i was in high school and i need to stay with my classmates because of school activities. it was for 2 nights. and some time when i had to some school activites just last year. anyways, beside i never had experience what if feel to have a room mate other than that at home but that is different cause it is family. but those like real room mate. i was not really keen to experience this but i was kinda curious if it will be good to experience your own room mate. i guess it won't really be that good experience for me.
@cupkitties (7421)
• United States
1 Sep 09
Pick up after yourself, keep your hygiene in check, pay your bills on time, if its not in use unplug it or turn if off, take your girlfriend to a hotel or something, that fan above the toilet is there for a reason, always double flush.
@shibham (16977)
• India
1 Sep 09
hi maezee. when i was an university student, i had roommates and i found good helps from them and i also tried to be same. anyway i think we can treat a good roommate as a brother or sister. to share our feelings, to hope some helping hands in each and every situation we need good roommates. just hear their feelings then express your one and do the best for them. i think you will be treated as a good roommate from them. lol
@jemifer (124)
• Philippines
1 Sep 09
Simple things really matters. I've tried to live with roommates before when I was still studying, because our home is very far from my school. These are the simple things I know that have great effect, in a positive way, to others: 1. SMILE :) 2. Don't shout. (Other roommates might be doing something and they need concentration like if they are reading a book or something.) 3. Share them some of your food. (I don't mean all but sharing just a little portion of what you have means a lot for them.) 4. Open your eyes and ears. (Sometimes you need to have a keen sight and listening ears to sense if they need help or something. Just a simple question like "Is there something wrong?" is a great way to reach out. 5. Don't do all these things just to impress them.You should have that secret ingredient which we call "LOVE" for others.
• China
1 Sep 09
Hello,maezee.For people who live in a dormitory with others,to treat relationship with roommates properly is very important.I think you can do something to know about your roommates better and be friends with them if possible.Normally if you are friendly to others,they will also have a good impression on you and treat you with respect.After all,you are people who live in one room and you should trust your roommate.Don't make them think that you are just a stranger who live with them.If any of your roommate needs help,give a hand as long as you can.Here in my dormitory,I develop good friendship with my roommates and we care about each other just like a big family.Of coure,there are some little conflicts but we have learnt to be toletant. Then say something about things better not be done as a roommate.As for myself,I think that you should not make loud noise when your roommates are sleeping.This may disturb them.And do not make your room dirty which means you should clean your room constantly and do not drop litter.I hope you can get on well with your roommates.Good luck. Happy mylotting.