Adoption option

United States
September 3, 2009 2:39pm CST
Is adoption an option for you? Have you looked into it and if you have is it expensive where you are. We have been looking and the amount for a private adoption is horrific and the terms, fees and maybes of adopting through our state are scary and outrageous. What have others found?
4 responses
@vandana7 (72976)
• India
4 Sep 09
Hi OpinionatedLady, I do understand ur predicament. I read the two posts before me, and I have also read problems associated with adoption, especially in ur country, and the UK. Its a pity really. It is nice to know u have love in ur heart to give and share with a person who is not really ur own blood. And that is what counts. Hope god makes u happy. :)
• United States
4 Sep 09
We are trying but in our state we do not make enough money to adopt another child. The restrictions are overly high though as you really do not need that much money per person. At least we don't I do not understand how a family could spend that much on essentials I guess I am more of a minimalist then I thought.
@vandana7 (72976)
• India
4 Sep 09
And in the past, minimalist would have been a disqualification! Not now. Everyone is into recycling, and saving that power, and wastage. :) The world has survived so far because of people like u. :) As I said - I do understand how u feel. I too didnt qualify. Not married, no bros to take over the child's responsibility in case I kick the bucket suddenly. But the idea of taking another woman's child so that she tries for a male progeny is repulsive. That is discrimination! She would have retained the child had it been a male child! I'll be damned if I will support something that I am not comfortable with. Personally, I want to look after a mentally challenged child. I think I have that much of love and patience in me to give. But right now, I find my father needs me more. I am tardy. I can do only one thing at a time. :(
@maximax8 (30126)
• United Kingdom
8 Sep 09
I already have three children of my own. I am interested in adoption and like to encourage people to consider it. In my home country a couple or a single person can adopt if they are approved. They must fill in forms, have social worker interviews, home visits, medical examinations and character references. It can take more than two years to adopt a baby, child or sibling group. There are currently not enough adopters for disabled children, mixed race children and children older than aged ten. Some children face a childhood of living in various foster homes. The law means that a baby is born and goes into foster care. He or she isn't likely to be adopted until age three. Some children come from a background of abuse and they can have challenging behavior. If someone wishes to adopt the child can come from the UK or overseas but the application system is overly complicated and expensive. Good luck.
• United States
4 Sep 09
My brother and his wife are not able to have children, so adoption is huge in their eyes, as their only option for having children. But it is SO ridiculous, here in Wisconsin! My brother and his wife are 30 and 38 years old, and they have adopted one child through the foster care system, and they have been trying for YEARS to get more children! It so SO hard, and I don't understand why! If people want children, and have amazing backgrounds and life aspects, how the heck is it so hard for them to be able to adopt children?? It's ridiculous!
• United States
3 Sep 09
Yeah years ago I check into this only because my sister was having a hard time conceiving and wow the prices then was out of this world..No wonder Stars go to other countries to adopt (madonna etc). Then the background checks..please they act like your running for president. Anyway good luck if your are going in this direction..I found out the older they are the cheaper they are how sad, Because the bonding starts at an earlier age. Well whatever you decide good luck.