Should a previously divorced or seperated SINGLE counselor be allowed to

I had an EXCELLENT Marriage and Family professor. She had never been married. I think, in the instance you describe, perhaps the counselor has learned from mistakes and can use them to help others. I would want correct credentials to go along with the job title. The fact that this person has not remarried means that perhaps they learned what the wrong reasons were to marry and now avoid them.

That is an excellent point. I would say a newly divorced person should not be allowed to counsel couples about to get married. I'm sure that some people have been divorced, and then maybe they go to school to become a counselor. In that case the knowledge would have come afterward. And I'm sure some people on their second marriage would set a good example. But whether it was directly their fault or not, I wouldn't say it would be a good idea.

I think they probably should be allowed to. I have no doubt that they probably have learned a lot from their divorce since we all do. I know I did. The only big problem is in how the person/couselor is handling it. Are they saying that they are only divorced because of the other person's flaws and problems? That is what my ex says, that our divorce was all my fault, that he never wanted it, blah blah blah. But I refuse to accept more than 50% of the fault for the break up of our marriage because it takes two people to really mess things up, not just one. I do wish more people would accept their share of the blame instead of passing the buck. But back to your question, yes, I believe that they should be able to give pre-marital counseling to engaged couples.

Yes. I think their life lessons are important and should be shared. We can learn from other peoples sucesses as well as their failers. I would like to know other peoples experiences so that the relationships I have can be improved by them. Not just my relationship with my husband but the relationships I have with my mother, father, brother, children, and friends.

I think people who have struggled with relationship problems and overcame them should do conselling because they already know the success formula. You may be previously divorced or separated single with all the experience but if you have not resolved them, or turned around your own life, you have no right to counsel.