Can we cry in front of the children?

Dear vingyan06, Today I see some good discussion topics which makes me not to sit simply but to respond. Let me come to this matter... Crying infront of the children really makes the child to loose hope and confidence in his/her future. I have never seen my dad or mom crying infront of me. I have seen once when my dad cried when his mother(my nanna) passed away and my mom too did that same. After that I have never seen them crying. I have not even seen them crying even I was admitted in the hospital for a serious trouble in my body. They have the tendency that it may affect my confidence level. I really proud of my parents. But my dad said to me that my mom cried for this and that. But I have never seen that... In my point of view its better not to cry before children... Cheers... Have a happy day always...

why not? i don't see any reason why we can't cry in front of our children. children should be taught that sometimes things get rough and that life is not all a bed of roses. also, we need to let them understand that it is okay to cry and to express any other emotion as we are humans. if the children haven't ever seen their parents crying, they might think that crying is wrong or perhaps, they don't human parents.

Hi ving! Humm..actually, I think it's ok. But I have a 2,5 years old son, and one time, I happen crying (I was injured) in front of him. He looked at me and looked very confused. Later on, he started to cry! I felt sorry for him :(. So, I tried to explain to him that I'm injured, and he didn't have to cry. Since then, I tried not to cry in front of my child, no matter how sick I am or how sad I am. Happy mylotting :)

crying, is a way to express our displeasure more than those in happiness, even we knows there are saying that we could laugh till we cry.. As a parents, I am in the opinion that it's ok to cry in front of our children as this is a way of expression.. what we do not want to show our child is using tears as their weapon to demand for stuff.. We should be able to give clear examples to our child that we are sad, therefore we cry.. and we are happy, and we laugh.. this way, our child will be able to tell the difference and will even try not to make us cry.. We can cry.. but not wail..

Crying is an emotion.It is the expression of an emotion of utter sadness or runaway joy. Yes, we tend to be melodramatic when we are caught in a bind. We feel sorry for ourselves. We break down. Tears naturally come oozing from our tear glands. To the one looking at us, it meant unbridled sadness and that something was amiss! They come forward to comfort us. They say words to console us. They emphatize, sympathize ans cajole to get us our of this melancholic state. Yes, I have cried. We all have, one time or another. Maybe for different reasons.

Well,I am 24 now,and for these 24 years,I have never seen dad or mam cry in front of me,sometimes I learn to read from their emotion that thet were sad,although they did not cry out.I knew life is not easy for my parents,both of them are workers,they have to sopport the whole family and we three brothers' education,for many times,I can see that they were almost broke down from work,but they won't cry,what they told us was study hard and enter a good university which will somehow change the rest of our life,instead of continueing their old way of life.Finally,I did that,and I got proud of them,and they are more than just great parents,I love them.

crying in front of our children shows we are only humand and just like them. children can tend to idolize parents so they need to see that we have the same emotions and frustrations as they do so that we can help them to express themselves in a healthy and beneficial way throughout life. holding things in is not good so we have to show them that we need to let loose also and that it can be very cleansing.

I tried to control not to cry infront of my kid to avoid my emotion effected him and he gets sad together with me. I did cried in front of him before and yes, he will cry together with me without any reason. I think it is a bad influence to him, so I try to control my emotion and shed tears somewhere he can't see me or just a quiet sobbing. My parents does cried in front of me too, when I makes her angry. I feel that I hurt very much too when my they cries. So it is better to cry not to let anybody sees.

Hello vingyan, There were times when I had arguments with my husband. And so happens my boy was around. We wont shout or yell in front of him. But if I am too sad, I'll shed tears. Somehow, when my boy sees that, he'll hug me and keep quiet. Like as if he knows something is wrong. He is normally very noisy and 'naughty' but when situation like this arises, he'll just keep quiet and sit by my side until I am okay. I think that is the miracle in kids. They just know...

Talking about my parents, I first saw my dad was crying when my grandma(my dad's mom) passed away. We are so sad as she was gone 2 months later after my grandpa passed away. It means within 2 months time, we are losing our beloved close relatives. Tears were dropping down by itself when we heard about his sad news. It happened more than 10 years ago and till today I still can miss my grandpa when I visited their kampung. I never cry in front of my son.It is best not to cry in front ouf our kids especially when they are still young.Kids have a good memory and although they might not good in expressing out their feelings yet, but they will remember that their parents did cry before over sad things. Sometimes I will pretend to cry while playing with my son(for example: he hits me). The respond is that my son will get scared and cry in front of me. I am so touching & my heart is smelt when I saw his tears down.He is so innocent and how can I make him cry. I will try to control my tears in front of my son. It is best to walk away to a quiet place and cry without let my son see my tears drop.

I will try not to but at times this is not controllable. I remembered my wife cried tremendously in her room, I think she do not want my son to see her crying. However, that small boy is very closed to her. Once he noticed she was not around, he go and look for her in the room. My wife immediately stopped crying but my son can see that she had cried from her face...He will come and sit next to her like giving some moral support. I think sadness at time can't be hidden..

Well i don't think i will cry in front of my child . And my parents never cry in front of us . As parents we don't want to scare our child by crying loud and don't want them to worry. We have to be strong before them so that they can be strong minded persons in the future. Of course for big things just like our dear members pass away we will cry out , i think. The sadness to lose the ones you love cann't hide from children.

Hello my friend I am a naturally born cry baby, so I can't help it, my mom cried every time she did I would boo hoo right along with her, not knowing why she was crying, my mom has a really high laugh as well as cry, one day I was ready lol she was laughing that was funny, just the thought of my mom being sad makes me sad, I usually cry alone but my grandson can always tell, he don't say anything but I can tell how he looks at me, I would hope crying is good for you if not I am in trouble Thank you my friend, good question.

Hi Vingyan. I like this topic a lot! The main reason is, I am a very emotional person. My personal opinion about crying is, a way to express our anger, sadness, touching feeling and emotions. So I would definitely not hesitate to cry. LOL! Although I looked ugly and nasty after I cried, but I just could not control my tears. I can't recalled whether I was a crying baby during my childhood time, but I just do not know why as I grow older, I become very emotional. Being TOO emotional would not be a good thing as a mother. The other day, I had a quarrel with my husband and I just can't hold my tears and finally I was crying in front of my girl. She looked at my red eyes and runny nose and then she turned away and continued watching her favourite tv programme. I was wondering, whether she already "immune" with the crying scene or she just love the show too much? Sometimes I am in the dilemma as to whether to let her know that she has a very emotional mommy or tough/strong mommy (pretend to be). But I think there is no harm to teach her not to be embarrased of showing emotion. I guess this will help her open up to me more about her feeling as she is growing up.

My wife does cry infront of our son. She tries to be as open to my son so he coudl determine how she feels about something. But then after the crying session we trey to explain why she cried. So far I have not seen anything bad about doing it.

That is a very good question Vingyan! I don't know if i will cry in front of my children or not as i don't have any yet. But i am sure someday when i get married and have children, i will face that situation, i think cry infornt of kids are okay, but show your anger in front of kids is not okay for me. Good example for kids is very important!

Hi vingyan06. I do not see anything wrong crying in front of the children. In the same way that there is nothing wrong if men do cry. Children would basically look at you and I know that they do have questions that they cannot yet still ask you. But I guess, a parent can very well explain to a child the reason why she cries. Children have a way of understanding things better than adults and that is amazing part. Crying is a release of an emotion and it is just normal.

i think it is ok to cry in front of children. it makes you seem more human.

I think it's ok to cry in front of kids, as long as you don't do it often. I believe though that huge fights shouldn't be witnessed by your kids.

I understand and appreciate the beauty of crying. On some level it is important to teach children that it's good to let your emotions flow....but on the other hand, children must see in their parents a strong figure that can give confidence in life, who knows how to face problems. So I think that in a younger age it's somehow useful to avoid crying infront of them. I must remind that in children's view, crying is a sign of desesperation or helplessness, they don't associate it to joy or other good feelings yet.