Teenager not going to school.

Tell her if she does not go to school then she has to get a full time job and start paying rent!! Make her get off her lazy but and do something with her life.

Wow, some of the people that commented on here are really brutal! I've just recently passed the 17-year-old stage, so I think I can somewhat relate to her. This doesn't sound like lazyness, something is obviously bothering her. The first thing I would do is talk to her. From personal experience, it's important to let her know that you WON'T JUDGE her. Just let her talk openly. If she doesn't want to talk to you, get her to talk to the guidance councelor, or a psychologist. Since she is trying to stay away from school specifically, then I think I agree with some of the other comments on here - someone in class is bothering her.. or maybe even a teacher. Good luck, I hope everything's okay with her, and the two of you get this sorted out.

This sounds a bit familiar...is it possible that she's suffering from depression??

I'd sit down with her and have a heart to heart, and find out why she doesn't want to be in school. She's going, just sitting in the guidance office. When I'd had enough of school, I just stopped going all together. Something's going on, whether it's someone picking on her, or what.

I feel for the young one. Depression and anxiety can have a powerful influence on our lives. Things probably just seem overwhelming to her. Not only that whether she admits it or not kids can be extremely cruel. The pressures exerted on teenagers nowadays are astronomical. What she needs is a friend. Someone who will listen and take her side. A confidant. Even if her thinking needs adjusting she needs someone willing to take the steps to help her. Someone who will reach her with love and compasion and help her through this bump in her life. I hope all goes well.

Have you or the guides office actually tried to find out whats wrong? Has anyone ever thought that maybe there is a problem that she isnt telling anyone? maybe she is being pick on or having troubles with her teachers or whatever, i think you need to tell her that you are there to speak to whenever she needs it and she has to feel comfortable speaking to you about this stuff if she doesnt feel comfortable talking to you then she will never tell you anything! i think something is going on inside that teenagers head or in her class or around or in school that is making her do this! Good luck!

Im sorry that your god child dont want to go to school. When I was 17, I loved going to school. I didnt like studying but I just loved being at school. Maybe she is having trouble with her friends, these day, it better to have at least high school diploma to get a job. Maybe you can sit down with her and just give her time and ask her what going on. Good luck.

I would ask her what she wants to do with her life..there are a lot of charter and technical schools that will teach kids a profession at that age when a regular education isn't working for them... If it were something she was interested in...she would most likely go and learn a way to earn a living at the same time.

I would just try talking to her, asking her why she does not like school or if there is something going on with another student or a teacher that she does not like. Just try talking to her and if she is too embarrassed to talk she can write it out and leave it under your pillow and you will do the same.

talk to her

make her go. If she misses too much you can get in trouble for not sending her.

Where I live we have an alternative school, but it has a long waiting list. Students come in, finish their high school requirements at their own speed and get a diploma. I knew a girl who got pregnant, transferred there, and finished two years within two months. This age is real common for depression and apathy. I hope the halfway house works for her. When she turns 18 won't she be able to sign for a GED herself?

Then plz ask her interest and do accordingly

My daughter went through the same thing at her age. For a long time during her school years she was getting B's and teachers said had the potential for A's. She indeed made the Honor role in the 10th grade. Shortly after that she went downhill. It was not her friends. Amanda is very straight laced and only has friends who are the same. No smokers etc. Anyway, she began being sick all the time, missing too many classes, coming home after my getting a call from the school nurse and lots of times I knew or suspected she was faking. She became VERY unmotivated. One minute she was fine then the next all hell broke loose. Eventually I suggested she talk to someone outside the school to talk about other things besides school. Eventually our family doctor diagnosed her as depressed. She went to a professional. It took a few years but she is on her own in a different city now and engaged to be married. There are certain phases teenagers go through that are hormone activated/related and they need to learn how to cope while going through it. Life is always changing. None of this is to be seen as any kind of advice or comparison. I only hope some of my words may help somehow.

I would ask her what she wants to do with her life..there are a lot of charter and technical schools that will teach kids a profession at that age when a regular education isn't working for them... If it were something she was interested in...she would most likely go and learn a way to earn a living at the same time.

I think there is something wrong that she isn't telling you. Maybe there is a reason why she doesn't want to go to school and she is hurting deeply. Have you tried asking her if anything is bothering her? I pray you can figure out what is wrong and that she will be fine with going to school soon.

Don't give in! Is she sees you giving in she will keep doing it. Don't answer your phone, she will have to stay at school or tell the people at work that answer it to say you are out. If you enable her behavior she will continue it.

I think you should have a heart to heart conversation with her. Ask her why she doesn't want to go to school. Is she having problems with anyone in school? And tell her that most jobs requires high school diplomas now, and tell her that she only has one year to go and it'll fly by.

Id tell her if your not going to school then you will have to get a full time job and start contributing to the house hold bills. If that does'nt work no extras to be given till she smartens up.

Sounds like you just need to get to know your daughter better, that would help.